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I guess this question would only apply to the younger LS members as some of you may live with your SO or not live with your parents. My girlfriend is allowed in my room when she comes over, but my parents have just told me I need to leave my door open now otherwise we aren't allowed to be in there together. It kinda sucks because my brother is in the room next to us, so getting "naughty" will be a little more difficult now. :laugh:

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so getting "naughty" will be a little more difficult now. :laugh:

 

From the point of view of the parents, that's exactly the intention!

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My ex's parents were okay with me being in her room, they wouldn't let me stay the night round there or let her spend the night round mine. Also I wasn't allowed to take her for a weekend anywhere. Ironically they let the guy she left me for take her away for weekend a month after, ridiculous. But yeah its strange what rules some parents have!

 

I forgot, they were also okay with us having sex under their/my roof too!

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I allow my girlfriends in, my boyfriends no :p

 

My parents said the same thing when I was young, keep the door open. We just shut it anyways :laugh: The surprise mom got when walking in was her own fault!

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I allow my girlfriends in, my boyfriends no :p

 

My parents said the same thing when I was young, keep the door open. We just shut it anyways :laugh: The surprise mom got when walking in was her own fault!

 

They've told me to leave it open, and every time I shut it anyway. Just kind of instincts, "girlfriend in my room, we'll be doing stuff, let me shut the door so no one sees me" They'd knock if they ever wanted something, but last time she was here must have been the last straw. I'm wondering if leaving it open just a crack is okay... They give me the "It's our house. Our rules" speech.

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how old are you? Maybe just tell em that you get it on all the time regardless and then they may change their minds.

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I agree with my house my rules. My daughter did not live past 14 so of course her door was open if her first boyfriend was over. Had she been living with us at 24 the rule would still apply.

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how old are you? Maybe just tell em that you get it on all the time regardless and then they may change their minds.

 

18. lol not a bad idea... :laugh:

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It IS their house. You're 18, are you leaving for college in the fall? If not, are you going to work and get your own place?

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I agree with my house my rules. My daughter did not live past 14 so of course her door was open if her first boyfriend was over. Had she been living with us at 24 the rule would still apply.

 

I guess so.. but do they really think I'd get her pregnant? (I know you wouldn't know what my parents think, but it's just the logic behind leaving the door open) Is that why they want the door open? I don't understand.

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It IS their house. You're 18, are you leaving for college in the fall? If not, are you going to work and get your own place?

 

I am in college, but the semester is over. I do have a job, but don't make nearly enough to get my own place yet.

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I think they just don't want to condone sex in their house. Sex is an adult privilege, for people with adult responsibilities. If you are living in your parents' house (not quite adult responsibilities), you have to find other places to have sex.

 

When I was your age, my boyfriend wasn't allowed in my room at all. The rules were more lax at his parents' house. We just had sex there :o

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You might get her pregnant, even if you are using protection. They might feel an obligation to her parents, kind of like professional courtesy. They might want you to spend more time on your studies--if you're allowed to just barricade yourself in your room with naked girls, what incentive do you have to keep getting work done and moving forward? They might be concerned about your brother's sensibilities, especially if he is younger than you. Or their kid ****ing like a wildebeest might just make them uncomfortable, in their own home, either because its outside their personal belief system or because its just awkward and squicks them out somewhat.

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Ursa Established Member

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You're so right! He should just knock up as many girls as possible, at least 15 or so...get on the hook for some CRAZY child support and drop out of college. Maybe he can pick up an STD while he's at it. That'll totally show his parents!

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OP, I get it, it's hard to be rational about sex and your style is cramped to say the least. If it helps, I can GUARANTEE you that you cramped your parents' style and were a little cockblock for YEARS. Now it's their turn.

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I guess this question would only apply to the younger LS members as some of you may live with your SO or not live with your parents. My girlfriend is allowed in my room when she comes over, but my parents have just told me I need to leave my door open now otherwise we aren't allowed to be in there together. It kinda sucks because my brother is in the room next to us, so getting "naughty" will be a little more difficult now. :laugh:

 

If you live with your parents they set the rules, PERIOD. Want to make your own rules? Get a hotel room, back seat of the car, or better yet, a job and your own place.

 

In the words of GWAR;

 

Carry on my wayward son,

Get the **** off the couch and get a goddamn job!

Get your ass out the door,

And don't you cry no more!

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My parents and hers are fine with it. It's kind of an unspoken rule that your room is your sanctuary. A bastion of solitude. I don't go into my parents bedroom when they are there together with the door closed and they don't go into mine.

 

They must know we're having sex all the time and they're ok with it. My mum actually say me down when we began dating and asked me if I knew what a condom was. Awkward :o

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My dad was leniant on my Brother and me but Was strict with my sister. She had to sneak around but my brother had girls in his room all time. I never got really any action during HS so it never really applied to me :confused:

 

Ill never forget one time I was in my living room watching TV eating cereal before school and this girl came up stairs from my brothers room and the audacity to ask me "did anyone make breakfast?":laugh:

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Don't know where OP lives but in America there are no cheap love hotels like in some countries, having sex in a car is illegal if you get caught, and minimum wage jobs which is about the only employment most young people can get can't afford apartments in many places.

 

Pretty much all of this applies to me. I'm surprised actually, do people really expect all guys in college to have their own place already?

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Many do. A lot of college kids rent rooms, or share places with housemates, in order to have the kind of freedom that's harder to get when you're living rent free in your parents' house. Some who live in the dorms go to summer session so they can stay in those accomodations. A lot of college students live in co-ops off campus.

 

It's also not quite as impossible to get a hotel room or have sex in a car as a previous poster made it sound :laugh:

 

OP, there's nothing wrong with living at home during college years to save money, but then there are some concessions that can come with that. You asked for insight into your parents reasoning and a few people have tried to give you some insight--has that resonated with you in any way? Or did you only want to hear what you want to hear?

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Don't know where OP lives but in America there are no cheap love hotels like in some countries, having sex in a car is illegal if you get caught, and minimum wage jobs which is about the only employment most young people can get can't afford apartments in many places.

 

****, most young kid jobs start at 10-12$ bucks these days and hotels aren't exactly expensive (say 100$ a night). Warehouse work starts around 12-15 an hour most places I've been and all you have to do is not be stoned every day. 400$ a month gets you a room in a share rental with other guys your age in most towns and that is a nice house in a place where your car won't get jacked etc.

 

But hey, no fair, mommy and daddy make me have the door open when my girlfriend is over, LULZ...what's next, dad broke my glass pipe and flushed my stash, WHAAAAAA....

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Many do. A lot of college kids rent rooms, or share places with housemates, in order to have the kind of freedom that's harder to get when you're living rent free in your parents' house. Some who live in the dorms go to summer session so they can stay in those accomodations. A lot of college students live in co-ops off campus.

 

It's also not quite as impossible to get a hotel room or have sex in a car as a previous poster made it sound :laugh:

 

Exactly! It's not as easy as living at home - free rent, free food, laundry service etc - but you have FREEDOM.

 

Trust me even if you are half-starving and riding a bike to work it is better than being at home.

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When I was young, my parents let me have sleepovers with male friends who were, in fact, boyfriends. My... how oblivious they were thinking I was heterosexual :-P

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