klng10 Posted May 20, 2013 Share Posted May 20, 2013 I have observed several cases of women falling for their male friends. What happens in a friendship that leads to this? I ask because I have become really close to a female friend and really like her but don't know what happens in friendships that allows them to evolve into relationships. Link to post Share on other sites
Roadkill007 Posted May 20, 2013 Share Posted May 20, 2013 I have observed several cases of women falling for their male friends. What happens in a friendship that leads to this? I ask because I have become really close to a female friend and really like her but don't know what happens in friendships that allows them to evolve into relationships. except in a few rare cases, these "friends" into "more" are usually more like "romantic candidates I'm not that familiar with right now" into "more". The term "friend" is so vague and all encompassing, it shouldn't be used to gauge your chances at all. Good luck btw. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted May 20, 2013 Share Posted May 20, 2013 I have observed several cases of women falling for their male friends. What happens in a friendship that leads to this? I ask because I have become really close to a female friend and really like her but don't know what happens in friendships that allows them to evolve into relationships. Talk about self-contradictory. Is this what you really mean? "I have become really close to a female friend. I have seen many friendships between guys and ladies evolve into a relationship, and I would like ours to do the same." As far as I have been aware, all the "I want this friendship to move up a gear" on here have been mainly posted by men. Occasionally, you'll get a lady asking (case in point!), but 8 - 9 times out of ten, it's the guy either seeking something more, or reading more into it than exists..... Take the initiative. The lady in the linked thread finds a lack of initiative in men, frustrating. So maybe you need to grab the bull by the horns, and become pro-active.... Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted May 20, 2013 Share Posted May 20, 2013 Something to expect as a rule of thumb: Save for one or both people being unavailable, meaning married or LTR'd, a woman will never be 'friends' with a man she wishes to have a romantic and sexual relationship with. Friendships, the sincere kind, take a lot of effort and care, and women are very efficient in this regard. So, if you and she are single, and sincere friends (not acquaintances, hang-out partners, activity mates, etc), romance between the two of you is overwhelmingly not in your future. If anything will 'change' their mind about you, it will be your social status becoming more attractive. If you're more popular, you become more attractive, in general. That might be enough to tip things, but not likely. This all presumes that the initial feeling is 'unattractive', not 'maybe' or 'marginally attractive', or something bouncing off of zero. It presumes zero. You'll meet thousands of people in life for whom you are a zero romantically/sexually. Some of those can become great friends. Beyond that, zero. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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