MixedSignals

[lovesick]

there is this guy that i have been involved with since last spring to one degree or another. i'm crazy about him, and he definately has feelings for me, but he's never made it official (boyfriend and girlfriend) i know its because his last breakup was realy bad, but that excuse only goes so far and its been at least 10 months since the break up. i can't give up on him yet, but he keeps sending me mixed signals. one moment he's all over me and we have these awesome conversations and hes sweet and wonerful and i just want ot be with him forever, the next he's distant and doesn't call me for days. i know theres not anonther girl, but i cant figure out whats bothering him and he refuses to talk to me about any of this since early october. we are going home from college for winter break nad i am not gonna see him for 6 weeks and i am really worries about it. im going to miss him terribly, but even worse, i'm afraid hes not going to miss me

 

Any advice?

[kimmi]

there is this guy that i have been involved with since last spring to one degree or another. i'm crazy about him, and he definately has feelings for me, but he's never made it official (boyfriend and girlfriend) i know its because his last breakup was realy bad, but that excuse only goes so far and its been at least 10 months since the break up. i can't give up on him yet, but he keeps sending me mixed signals. one moment he's all over me and we have these awesome conversations and hes sweet and wonerful and i just want ot be with him forever, the next he's distant and doesn't call me for days. i know theres not anonther girl, but i cant figure out whats bothering him and he refuses to talk to me about any of this since early october. we are going home from college for winter break nad i am not gonna see him for 6 weeks and i am really worries about it. im going to miss him terribly, but even worse, i'm afraid hes not going to miss me Any advice?

Well iam there right now, I have figured out that if you let him then he will continue to do this , it is eazy for him, he gets to be single,kinnda, yet he gets what he want and when with you.. the advice was given to me, stop calling,. stop sending messages, stop all contact, then he will be the one contacting you. you will see in time it will work.

 

good luck

 

kimmi

[Nic]

this guy could possibly be at a stage in his life where he's not sure what he wants, and that most likely is to do with the fact his last relationship ended badly. one minute he may think he's doing the right thing, the next minute he may not be sure. it can be hard to get involved with someone when you had a bad relationship. some people take a few months to deal with bad break ups, some take a lot longer. this guy may not be over his ex yet, or may not be over the feelings the break up created. either way, he sounds a bit confused, hence the mixed signals.

 

i agree with kimmi - if this guy really wants to be with you, he will make the effort to contact you. he may miss you, but if he doesn't call, perhaps he's just not ready yet. just don't take it personally, because when you're not ready and you're not sure, absolutely no one can change your mind. if and when he's ready to make a committment to you, you will know.

 

cheer up. you'll be fine. at least you'll find out one way or the other where you stand, and you'll be able to move from there.

Well iam there right now, I have figured out that if you let him then he will continue to do this , it is eazy for him, he gets to be single,kinnda, yet he gets what he want and when with you.. the advice was given to me, stop calling,. stop sending messages, stop all contact, then he will be the one contacting you. you will see in time it will work. good luck kimmi