USMCHokie Posted May 25, 2013 Share Posted May 25, 2013 Hypothetically speaking, do you think a cheating spouse would still cheat if told that their children would be taken away from them if they cheated? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
findingnemo Posted May 25, 2013 Share Posted May 25, 2013 I just wanted to say hi to you, that I have wondered where you were and to tell you that I am glad you are back! Hi Steen:). Thanks. I'm happy to be back. For a while there, I was busy with a new business, kids and life in general. Thought that I was finally over the consequences of the A. Well, I'm not. I wish I could explain to APs that the whole thing is a train wreck that affects EVERYBODY. And it doesn't stop just because the A is over. It can go on and on and on... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
findingnemo Posted May 25, 2013 Share Posted May 25, 2013 Hypothetically speaking, do you think a cheating spouse would still cheat if told that their children would be taken away from them if they cheated? Hypothetically, yes. Because they think that they can hypothetically hide it forever. Link to post Share on other sites
MYCluciferase Posted May 27, 2013 Share Posted May 27, 2013 Daphne, I feel somewhat sorry for you - having received the excellent but somewhat crushing replies that you have when I think you were only looking for some sympathy and words of advice. You didn't give us any information about your marriage or husband. If there is some mistreatment or you've been in a 'dead' marriage, you'd have got a more sympathetic response. In posting the question in a hypothetical way, you brought down everyone's moral judgement. Nemo's first response said it - what are you looking for? Link to post Share on other sites
Athens Posted May 27, 2013 Share Posted May 27, 2013 Having an affair is one of the most destructive, selfish things a person can do- period- Get out now or cut your husband free Those are your only options- 3 Link to post Share on other sites
mattzeo Posted May 28, 2013 Share Posted May 28, 2013 I am in my 30's, married, with a child. I've been cheating on my husband for about a year now with a mutual friend of ours. We both know it's bad of course. However, I can't seem to let him go. What's wrong with me? I'm not ready to quit the fun, passionate affair, even though it is sooo unfulfilling in the end. Is there any other woman out there in the middle of an affair? Have any help? Perhaps this is the wrong venue to post... Not much sympathy. I know. There is no right "venue" to post in. What you are doing to you husband and child is despicable. You seem so selfish and shallow that there is NO WAY you can comprehend the enormous pain you will inflict on your husband. He will never be the same man because of YOU being an indecent creature. Why did you marry? Don't you understand you took vows to forsake all others? Marriage is NOT about fun and passion. It's about love, devotion, and dedication. Remember your vows? It's all about for better and for worse sweetheart...had you hung in there, you would understand the value of being able to look your H in the eye some day and treasure the fact that you were a faithful wife. Too late now. You have to tell your H EVERYTHING and let him decide if he can live with your sickening actions. Don't cuckhold the poor man and expose him to more pain and STD's. You think your AP wouldn't mess around? HUH, in a minute. Leave your H, and NEVER marry again. You have no morals whatsoever. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ZenScribe Posted May 28, 2013 Share Posted May 28, 2013 You shouldn't be thinking about how to stop the affair. You should be thinking about how to end your marriage. It's obvious your priorities in life are not being a loving faithful wife who sets a good example for her child. Let him go, so he can find someone else who will show him true love and respect while you are free to do what you are doing now, which is obviously more important to you than your family. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lovingit Posted May 28, 2013 Share Posted May 28, 2013 Hi Daphne I am also married and have been having an affair with a mutual friend - well H's friend originally- for 16 years. The affair comes and goes in waves . Some months we won't really see each other or contact each other and some months we are together every day. I cannot justify it and will not try but cannot imagine life any other way, Best of luck in whatever you decide to do. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted May 28, 2013 Share Posted May 28, 2013 Hi Daphne I am also married and have been having an affair with a mutual friend - well H's friend originally- for 16 years. The affair comes and goes in waves . Some months we won't really see each other or contact each other and some months we are together every day. I cannot justify it and will not try but cannot imagine life any other way, Best of luck in whatever you decide to do. Why bother having a husband if you've been having a 16 year affair? That marriage goose is pretty cooked by then dontcha think? DaphneB I really hope that either way you don't end up in this boat. Affairs are generally dead-enders with a very high cost. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
In Like Flynn Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 AWW!!! College Kids Having Fun on the internet!!!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ninja'sHusband Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 Daphne, I feel somewhat sorry for you - having received the excellent but somewhat crushing replies that you have when I think you were only looking for some sympathy and words of advice. You didn't give us any information about your marriage or husband. If there is some mistreatment or you've been in a 'dead' marriage, you'd have got a more sympathetic response. In posting the question in a hypothetical way, you brought down everyone's moral judgement. Nemo's first response said it - what are you looking for? Or she might have gotten blasted even more for blameshifting. There's no excuse for cheating. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
William Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 Since the thread starter hasn't logged in for nearly a week, I think we'll call this one done. Link to post Share on other sites
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