Ex girlfriend of 8 months randomly decided to refollow me on twitter again.

[shadow15]

I just thought it was weird and a shock; of course I didn't follow back, I mean what's the point you know. Also why do you think she did it, we have been broke up for 8 months.

 

I honestly don't know why I making this thread, I know I'm not going follow her, but I guess I just wanted to write it down and get it off my head.

[shadow15]

And now she just texted me?

[CorridorE]

What was the text? And has it been 8 months of no contact?

[BustedUpInside]

I don't like those kind of surprises. Life is just chugging along and you are doing pretty good and then something like this comes out of the blue.

 

I wouldn't read too much into it at the moment. Your ex probably just got caught up in some nostalgia for whatever reason, and then decided to try and reach out to see how well you are doing in life.

 

I wouldn't write back or acknowledge the contact in any way. Otherwise you might just get sucked back into the whole healing process again.

[aisuru]

It's predictable behavior.

 

Not sure what your breakup story is, but don't read into it too much.

 

At some point, it seems almost everybody finds their way back. Doesn't mean it's about reconciling.

[shadow15]

She just said hey; however it gets weirder. My best friend just posted a photo of him and his gf online, she never spoke to him and honestly wasn't too fond of him, but she likes the photo. It's like she is trying her best to get my attention.

 

And yes it has been almost 8 months straight nc.

[flitzanu]

She just said hey; however it gets weirder. My best friend just posted a photo of him and his gf online, she never spoke to him and honestly wasn't too fond of him, but she likes the photo. It's like she is trying her best to get my attention.

 

And yes it has been almost 8 months straight nc.

 

sounds like you should block her.

 

that way you don't have to worry about these silly things.

[siankat]

as curiosity would be killing you by now (and other peeps who say different are fibbing as the brokenhearted on here are all holding onto that teensy bit of hope), i would write to her saying this: 'You appear to be trying to get my attention. If there is something you have to say to me, please put it in writing'

 

BOOM!! Either she sucks it up and goes for bust or...she trots away with her tail between her legs and licks her wounds for a while.

 

Either way i think you get what you want without giving away anything.

[CorridorE]

sounds like you should block her.

 

that way you don't have to worry about these silly things.

 

Second. Eight months nc is too long to give up for her silly, meaningless little games. Put it out of your head and forget it happened.

[denxnis]

My ex did something similar. Don't block just ignore, she will get the point eventually.

[shadow15]

Well ignoring my better judgment and everyone else's; i decided to message her back to see what the hell she wanted since some people told me too. Heres the conversation.

 

her: hey

me: aye. - i replied around 3 hours later, since i didn't know if i should or not.

her: whats up?

me: just got in from running

her: im just sitting here watching gymnastics. havent talked to you in a while, thought id check on you. ------i literally almost went off at this point, but i decided to play it cool and just let it go for now

me: hmmm, im good just always busy

her: same here ------i wish i stopped replying here

me: sucks doesnt it

her: yes id love a break.

me: same here i dont even get a summer break

her: why?

me: theres just a lot of stuff i gotta take of; kinda like i bit off a little more than i can chew.

her: ah it happens

me: yea it does, doesnt it

her: so are you done with regular classes now?

me: nah

her: oh i thought (blank) school was your next step

me: it will be if i pass these 2 summer classes

her: what are they?

me: microbiology and physics 2

her: oh you got that

me: maybe, i can hope c the way through right

her: hey, its a pass and thats all that matters

me: i agree i could care less about this junk though

her: i dont blame you its doesnt really matter

me: micro does a little, but physics is garbage; its just math on freakin roids.

her: nice use of a semicolon lol i agree, everyone ive ever known thats taken it hated it.

me: ha im not english major. im lucky to even know when to use those things, much less use them correctly lol. --i lied here, i mean seriously who doesnt know how to use a semicolon, thats middle school junk lol.

her: well it was correct, trust me i see plenty of them in my major.

me: i thought it was, and really thats interesting.

her: yea since my emphasis is english, not so interesting? lol

me: haha it varies, just depends.

her: yea i guess so. --- i wish i also stopped here

me: mines not much im technically becoming a drug dealer

her: a legal drug dealer

me: lol true, its something how a little piece of paper can distinguish so much, yet so little.

her: i know, its even crazier how much we pay to get that piece of paper.

me: dont even get my started on that lol.

her: listen your not (so many) dollars in debt and only 2 years into your undergrad.

me: hmm guess it couldnt be any worse could it haha. - last thing said of the night

her: no i guess not. ---she sent that this morning, i never replied; i didnt see a point too.

 

First impressions after the conversation, one she doesnt talk like she used too, but that doesnt matter, but to me she acts like nothing ever happened and she somewhat acts like she is better, and shes just using this to get info about my life i suppose; pretty much trying to see what information im willing to give her. I tried to be short as possible, and not ask any questions, since she was the one doing all the asking. And yes before anyone asks, i was the dumpee. I wish i ignored it, but what can you do, but that doesnt matter.

 

I wanna send her this, but i think im going to just let it go, but that check up on me comment just annoys the crap outta me; you dont just randomly do all those things just to randomly check up on someone. Anyways here it is.

 

I just wanna be clear on something. I don't want you to check up on me; im not your little pup who gets noticed when he crosses your mind. Only reason i txted you back was cause you was trying to get my attention so if you have something you wanna tell me, just say it; but dont try to friend zone me. Im not your friend...

[flitzanu]

how does it feel to have wasted 8 months now, and back to having your emotions twisted up over absolutely nothing but drab conversation?

 

the way you feel right now? thats why we said to drop it.

[aisuru]

there's nothing in that conversation. don't bother sending her anything.

 

go back to no contact. ignore her.

[Chi townD]

Yeah, that text convo was just tense just reading it. You two were dancing around nothing subjects....there was really no point to the convo.

 

Better off ignoring in the future. She has nothing to say and she might not contact you again. She just wanted to make sure you didn't hate her. And with all the "haha" and "LOL's", she can pretty much assume you don't hate her and she can ease her guilt and move on with life.

[BrokenHeartsClub]

I just wanna be clear on something. I don't want you to check up on me; im not your little pup who gets noticed when he crosses your mind. Only reason i txted you back was cause you was trying to get my attention so if you have something you wanna tell me, just say it; but dont try to friend zone me. Im not your friend...

 

I think that's a pretty st8 forward text, and if she texts you again, send it.

Then go watch this clip on YT and take Bill Haders advice:

Forgetting Sarah Marshall

[fancy feast]

Well ignoring my better judgment and everyone else's; i decided to message her back to see what the hell she wanted since some people told me too. Heres the conversation.

 

her: hey

me: aye. - i replied around 3 hours later, since i didn't know if i should or not.

her: whats up?

me: just got in from running

her: im just sitting here watching gymnastics. havent talked to you in a while, thought id check on you. ------i literally almost went off at this point, but i decided to play it cool and just let it go for now

me: hmmm, im good just always busy

her: same here ------i wish i stopped replying here

me: sucks doesnt it

her: yes id love a break.

me: same here i dont even get a summer break

her: why?

me: theres just a lot of stuff i gotta take of; kinda like i bit off a little more than i can chew.

her: ah it happens

me: yea it does, doesnt it

her: so are you done with regular classes now?

me: nah

her: oh i thought (blank) school was your next step

me: it will be if i pass these 2 summer classes

her: what are they?

me: microbiology and physics 2

her: oh you got that

me: maybe, i can hope c the way through right

her: hey, its a pass and thats all that matters

me: i agree i could care less about this junk though

her: i dont blame you its doesnt really matter

me: micro does a little, but physics is garbage; its just math on freakin roids.

her: nice use of a semicolon lol i agree, everyone ive ever known thats taken it hated it.

me: ha im not english major. im lucky to even know when to use those things, much less use them correctly lol. --i lied here, i mean seriously who doesnt know how to use a semicolon, thats middle school junk lol.

her: well it was correct, trust me i see plenty of them in my major.

me: i thought it was, and really thats interesting.

her: yea since my emphasis is english, not so interesting? lol

me: haha it varies, just depends.

her: yea i guess so. --- i wish i also stopped here

me: mines not much im technically becoming a drug dealer

her: a legal drug dealer

me: lol true, its something how a little piece of paper can distinguish so much, yet so little.

her: i know, its even crazier how much we pay to get that piece of paper.

me: dont even get my started on that lol.

her: listen your not (so many) dollars in debt and only 2 years into your undergrad.

me: hmm guess it couldnt be any worse could it haha. - last thing said of the night

her: no i guess not. ---she sent that this morning, i never replied; i didnt see a point too.

 

First impressions after the conversation, one she doesnt talk like she used too, but that doesnt matter, but to me she acts like nothing ever happened and she somewhat acts like she is better, and shes just using this to get info about my life i suppose; pretty much trying to see what information im willing to give her. I tried to be short as possible, and not ask any questions, since she was the one doing all the asking. And yes before anyone asks, i was the dumpee. I wish i ignored it, but what can you do, but that doesnt matter.

 

I wanna send her this, but i think im going to just let it go, but that check up on me comment just annoys the crap outta me; you dont just randomly do all those things just to randomly check up on someone. Anyways here it is.

 

I just wanna be clear on something. I don't want you to check up on me; im not your little pup who gets noticed when he crosses your mind. Only reason i txted you back was cause you was trying to get my attention so if you have something you wanna tell me, just say it; but dont try to friend zone me. Im not your friend...

 

That was US/Soviet levels of tense. Cold War.

[CelticGibson]

That's a perfect example of how you can't be friends after a break up. There's no substance to any of it so long as the relationship is over. After all you were never REALLY friends in the first place. Everything you shared and did was through the prism of a relationship and once that was over.... well this is what's left.... nothing but banality and boring nothingness...

[1908]

Hmmm I'd just forego any following messages. After having NC with her for 8 months and suddenly messaging her back, your emotions are probably a bit frayed regarding her. Take some time to collect yourself while doing NC again and you'll come to realization that sending her that follow-up message isn't the greatest idea.

[siankat]

That's a perfect example of how you can't be friends after a break up. There's no substance to any of it so long as the relationship is over. After all you were never REALLY friends in the first place. Everything you shared and did was through the prism of a relationship and once that was over.... well this is what's left.... nothing but banality and boring nothingness...

 

i totally disagree, me and my exes relationship was not based on....having a relationship. it was 2 ppl sharing things, ideas, bringing new thinking to the other, being who we were as iindividuals and being strong and interesting side by side. They are still that person, and those things are still there, relationship or not. If one cant talk to the other congenially due to bad blood borne from the rel or break up, or because one or other still has feelings, sure not. But i have spoken to my exes since and we still have things to say to each other!

[shadow15]

I didn't know if i should make a new topic or not so i figured i would just give everyone a heads up on whats happened these past few days.

 

So after the previous conversation, i actually drunk txted her friday night, but nothing big was said. I could tell ya what was said but it is so minuscule that it doesn't matter. Anyways she also txted me again last night just saying hey, luckily though i re-framed from txting back because if i remember correctly the last conversation we had, we could have cut the tension with a knife, but part of me wonders what she wanted at 9:00 at night when shes out and about with her girlfriend. Who knows, maybe i should message her and ask whats the main reason your txting me lately, but thats something the old me would have done already; catering and doing everything i can to see what makes her tick, not anymore, plus it gives the impression that i would care. The game of talking to ex's is stupid, your always second guessing everything, but im at the point where i dont care. Im sure i will hear from her again, when that happens, what do you think i should do? Continue no contact or handle this maturely cause thats how i want to handle it. What should i say?

[flitzanu]

I didn't know if i should make a new topic or not so i figured i would just give everyone a heads up on whats happened these past few days.

 

So after the previous conversation, i actually drunk txted her friday night, but nothing big was said. I could tell ya what was said but it is so minuscule that it doesn't matter. Anyways she also txted me again last night just saying hey, luckily though i re-framed from txting back because if i remember correctly the last conversation we had, we could have cut the tension with a knife, but part of me wonders what she wanted at 9:00 at night when shes out and about with her girlfriend. Who knows, maybe i should message her and ask whats the main reason your txting me lately, but thats something the old me would have done already; catering and doing everything i can to see what makes her tick, not anymore, plus it gives the impression that i would care. The game of talking to ex's is stupid, your always second guessing everything, but im at the point where i dont care. Im sure i will hear from her again, when that happens, what do you think i should do? Continue no contact or handle this maturely cause thats how i want to handle it. What should i say?

 

there's nothing immature about not responding to her. are you required to jump everytime she asks you to?