Redromeo Posted September 30, 2004 Share Posted September 30, 2004 I need to know what other people think of my situation. I am married to to woman who seems to have a lot of issues with herself in general. Over the past three years my marriage has seemed to take a dive down hill. Our interpersonal communications have seemed to always turn to battles insted of conversations. We have many issues that we seem to not be able to resolve. The first of which is my problem with her argumentative way of her expressing her opinion, and the second is some sexual incompatibility. We have tried counceling numerious times, this helps for a few weeks until the norms of life take over. It just seems on the "hot button" issues we really can not have a conversation about them. The problems are making feel like an unwanted, unneeded, and worthless person. When I even think about divorce I become instantly scared for the future. Part of me wants to just leave, the other part of me is telling me that since I being the man will loose my daughter, house, home, and everything else that might be important to me. The thought of only seeing my daughter once a week is just to umbariable to me. I can not stop thinking how many people will think I am a jerk for leaving as well. If you have anything to say I am open to your suggestions. Link to post Share on other sites
lostgirl26 Posted September 30, 2004 Share Posted September 30, 2004 Redromeo, My situation is similiar. I don't know if you have read any of the other threads, but I feel about the same. My husband and I had a lot in common when we got married, but we were very young. I feel now as if we are going separate directions. I feel as if we cannot talk without arguing about things, and so it goes without being discussed until it builds and there is a big blowout. All the issues we discuss are like a revolving door, same issues from the past never get resolved, we both are so stubborn that neither wants to admit who's to blame and move on. i have become less and less attracted to him mainly because of his attitude towards things. I also have to put up with unsolicited comments and opinions from the peanut gallery. It gets annoying hearing it about every show I watch or commercial that comes on tv. We are very much opposites in every way. That is hard and unfortunetly it was probably that way when we met we just didn't want to see it. Things that mean a lot to me, he cares nothing for, our eating habits are very different, and as far as health and welfare is concerned we are way opposite. We also did a year or so of counseling and nothing has seemed to really help. Luckily in my case I have no children involved, just my animals. I wish I had more advice that I could offer to help, right now we live like roommates basically, saying I love you in passing(I am not lying when I say it, but I know that I am not whole heartly there). I too wish I knew what to do or say that would make it easier to leave or move on while I am still young. Link to post Share on other sites
Scott S Posted September 30, 2004 Share Posted September 30, 2004 Originally posted by Redromeo We have tried counceling numerious times, this helps for a few weeks until the norms of life take over. It just seems on the "hot button" issues we really can not have a conversation about them. There is something else you might try (That means you too, Lost Girl). It's a program called "Retrovaille," it's for couples on a skid towards Family Court, wherein they try to save the relationship by rediscovering the love they used to have, re-establishing the communcations they used to have,etc. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t47816/ Link to post Share on other sites
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