Accused of cheating but I didnt

[broken_hearted89]

I'm really upset right now because my boyfriend of six years thinks I had sex with another guy. we are both 24

I hung out with another guy, I don't know what you would call what me and this guys relationship was. We never had sex or kissed or anything and I hung out with him only three times.

 

My bf made a fake account on pof because the guy has one( I met the guy at my job) and pretended to be some random chick. My bf brought up something about having sex with coworkers to him and he was like " I screwed around with a chick at my job, she told me she and her bf were on a break". I think he just said this to look cool to the girl or look like girls want him or something.

 

He threw a fit and got all mad at me, so I called the guy up and gave the phone to my bf so he could ask the guy all the questions he wanted to. The guy told him the truth that we didn't have sex...but my bf still doesn't believe me.

 

I lied a lot when he found out that I was hanging out with this guy, but I really never had sex and it really bothers me that he still doesn't believe me even after he heard from the guy.

 

I had no contact with the guy for months. I texted him once to warn him that my bf was going to fight him, but thats it.

We got in a horrible fight the other day, my head was swollen in numerous spots and it still hurts really bad now because of the fight. He choked me so I have this big red line going across my eye, I guess a blood vessel popped or something. He isn't abusive its just when we get really mad we do stupid things without thinking.

 

We get in such bad fights and we say such horrible things...I don't even know if the relationship is worth saving. But it just really sucks that he thinks I did something with another guy, hes the only guy Ive had sex with.

 

It seems like he wants to believe so bad that I did have sex with this guy. Do you think he just wants to break up and is looking for whatever reason he can because hes to much of a coward to break up with me? He won't even respond to my texts or calls so I told him the balls in your court if you don't respond to me its over.

 

 

I think hes been cheating on me and has wanted to break up with me.

I found on his cell phone web history(before I even talked to this guy) that he went to Plenty of fish so many times that it was added to his favorites. I seen that he sent messages to someone on there. Backpage escorts came up at least 50 times on his phone along with adult friend finder. Online dating services came up and casual encounters on craigslist. Cougar dating came up to. When I asked him about all this his response was "I was just being stupid and that he was just looking"

 

I think he cheated with numerous girls, wouldnt you come to the same conclusion?

[Balzac]

Six years and you've not questioned the toxic relationship?

Ouch.

[Chi townD]

Look, I don't care that if you two are mad, you tend to do stupid things. There is absolutely NO REASON to raise a hand to each other in anger! NONE! He beat you up and now you're wondering why he's not returning your texts and phonecalls? REALLY?!?!? And I'm sure you're not innocent in this either. I speculate he's got a few bumps on him as well.

 

 

This relationship is WAY TOO TOXIC. Time to move on. Assume that the relationship is over and you might want to get some counseling, because you if you're raising you hand to a person that you're supposed to love because your angry, then there's a problem.

 

And for a man to strike a woman, well...in my opinion, he's not a man in my book.

 

This relationship isn't healthy. Time to move on.

[Iama]

 

I lied a lot when he found out that I was hanging out with this guy, but I really never had sex and it really bothers me that he still doesn't believe me even after he heard from the guy.

 

Hmm so you lied to him about this guy, but you didn't lie to him or to us about the guy and you having sex....

 

How can ANYONE tell what is true and what's not.

 

My advice. Keep honesty sacred next time around.

[ExpatInItaly]

I'm really upset right now because my boyfriend of six years thinks I had sex with another guy. we are both 24

I hung out with another guy, I don't know what you would call what me and this guys relationship was. We never had sex or kissed or anything and I hung out with him only three times.

 

My bf made a fake account on pof because the guy has one( I met the guy at my job) and pretended to be some random chick. My bf brought up something about having sex with coworkers to him and he was like " I screwed around with a chick at my job, she told me she and her bf were on a break". I think he just said this to look cool to the girl or look like girls want him or something.

 

He threw a fit and got all mad at me, so I called the guy up and gave the phone to my bf so he could ask the guy all the questions he wanted to. The guy told him the truth that we didn't have sex...but my bf still doesn't believe me.

 

I lied a lot when he found out that I was hanging out with this guy, but I really never had sex and it really bothers me that he still doesn't believe me even after he heard from the guy.

 

I had no contact with the guy for months. I texted him once to warn him that my bf was going to fight him, but thats it.

We got in a horrible fight the other day, my head was swollen in numerous spots and it still hurts really bad now because of the fight. He choked me so I have this big red line going across my eye, I guess a blood vessel popped or something. He isn't abusive its just when we get really mad we do stupid things without thinking.

 

We get in such bad fights and we say such horrible things...I don't even know if the relationship is worth saving. But it just really sucks that he thinks I did something with another guy, hes the only guy Ive had sex with.

 

It seems like he wants to believe so bad that I did have sex with this guy. Do you think he just wants to break up and is looking for whatever reason he can because hes to much of a coward to break up with me? He won't even respond to my texts or calls so I told him the balls in your court if you don't respond to me its over.

 

 

I think hes been cheating on me and has wanted to break up with me.

I found on his cell phone web history(before I even talked to this guy) that he went to Plenty of fish so many times that it was added to his favorites. I seen that he sent messages to someone on there. Backpage escorts came up at least 50 times on his phone along with adult friend finder. Online dating services came up and casual encounters on craigslist. Cougar dating came up to. When I asked him about all this his response was "I was just being stupid and that he was just looking"

 

I think he cheated with numerous girls, wouldnt you come to the same conclusion?

 

I don't know who told you that isn't abusive. It most certainly IS ABUSE.

 

And yes, you should assume he is cheating or very seriously considering it. Messaging people on Plenty of Fish...? Craigslist? Escorts?

 

You want this guy...because?? Save yourself a world of emotional and more physical pain, and ditch him.

[road]

He should dump you for hanging out with the OM then lying.

 

You must dump him.

 

Why?

 

There is not justification for your BF to beat you up.

[coltsfan1]

You cheated, got caught and paid a price for it. Both of you seem to be bad for each other, so its time to go your separate ways. Take this as a learning lesson, spend time with your BF or no guy & he should spend time with you or no girl.

[ChessPieceFace]

I lied a lot when he found out that I was hanging out with this guy

 

Then you've broken the trust in the relationship already. If "nothing happened" why'd you need to lie about this supposed nothing?

 

We got in a horrible fight the other day, my head was swollen in numerous spots and it still hurts really bad now because of the fight. He choked me so I have this big red line going across my eye, I guess a blood vessel popped or something. He isn't abusive its just when we get really mad we do stupid things without thinking.

 

...

 

We get in such bad fights and we say such horrible things...I don't even know if the relationship is worth saving.

 

This is the part of the post where you were momentarily thinking clearly.

 

Rest of what you said isn't relevant. There's physical abuse in your relationship, as well as a lot of distrust. Time to end it. Hopefully you'll somehow learn how to be honest in the future, as well as choose better men as friends and boyfriends... though from what I'm reading I am not hopeful about that last part. Still hooked up with an abusive boyfriend and had a flirtation with a guy with such low moral character that he lied about relationships just to flirt with others online. Blech.

[KraftDinner]

The real issue here is the guy beat the crap out of you and that part of it was buried in your post.

 

Also I love how a bunch of the responses here are just berating the op for lying and not even acknowledging that she got the **** kicked out of her. Heaven forbid that she isn't perfect. She probably deserves to be beaten for not being a perfect girlfriend. Right?

[ChessPieceFace]

I love how a bunch of the responses here are just berating the op for lying and not even acknowledging that she got the **** kicked out of her. Heaven forbid that she isn't perfect. She probably deserves to be beaten for not being a perfect girlfriend. Right?

 

I read all of the responses prior to yours. All but one told her to leave this relationship.

 

Talk about inventing your own reality.