Ashley1 Posted May 22, 2013 Share Posted May 22, 2013 My bf and I have been together two years, we live in a small town, recently I have heard rumors about him hitting on other women, now,the sources are very sketchy and I have always trusted him, but it's now three women saying this and my trust is starting to falter. I snooped through his,phone, I'm not proud of it, but found pictures of his private business, one included his face, that were never sent to me. No indications they were sent to anyone else and no pics of other women, Should I be concerned? Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted May 22, 2013 Share Posted May 22, 2013 I would be concerned, yes. Do you know when the pictures were taken? (ie. before or while you were together?) They're not solid proof of cheating, but they're certainly suspicious. If I were you, I would let him know what you've heard and see how he reacts. Let him do the talking. But i have to ask, why do you say these sources are sketchy? What did they tell you about him? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted May 22, 2013 Share Posted May 22, 2013 I snooped through his,phone, I'm not proud of it, but found pictures of his private business, one included his face, that were never sent to me. No indications they were sent to anyone else and no pics of other women, Should I be concerned? I'm not sure. A colleague of mine has a picture of his penis on his phone and after a couple of drinks will show it to anyone 3 Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted May 22, 2013 Share Posted May 22, 2013 Tell him you were talking to a friend who told you that her husband has a picture of his dick on his phone and that you're wondering why... I mean, why on earth would any guy have a pic of his own dick on his phone? To what purpose? And see what he replies..... 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted May 22, 2013 Share Posted May 22, 2013 I mean, why on earth would any guy have a pic of his own dick on his phone? To what purpose? Because he is young Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted May 22, 2013 Share Posted May 22, 2013 Tell him you were talking to a friend who told you that her husband has a picture of his dick on his phone and that you're wondering why... I mean, why on earth would any guy have a pic of his own dick on his phone? To what purpose? And see what he replies..... The dick pic....sigh.... the somewhat-untalked-about male phenomena. So many of these floating around........ 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Damia Posted May 22, 2013 Share Posted May 22, 2013 Because he is young Haha my xH is now 50 an he sent his A/P a photo of his junk 2 years ago....... Go figure?? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted May 22, 2013 Share Posted May 22, 2013 Haha my xH is now 50 an he sent his A/P a photo of his junk 2 years ago....... Go figure?? My husband is now 35, he sent his dick pic all around to the ladies.....when we had been married 3 years. I still think this is one of the most immature, just dumb things he could've done. Now his dick is floating through cyberspace quite possibly for a very long time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ashley1 Posted May 22, 2013 Author Share Posted May 22, 2013 I would be concerned, yes. Do you know when the pictures were taken? But i have to ask, why do you say these sources are sketchy? What did they tell you about him? The pics were taken maybe one or two months ago. The ladies in question are known for abusing alcohol, high drama, and slutty behavior, the info I got came from one of their husbands and one of the others ex boyfriends, not the ladies themselves. My bf denies it, angry that the rumors exist, he wasn't overly defensive, just angry at the hoes. Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted May 22, 2013 Share Posted May 22, 2013 My bf denies it, angry that the rumors exist, he wasn't overly defensive, just angry at the hoes. He's angry at the women he sent his phallic photo to? Why? Did they laugh at his male organ? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted May 22, 2013 Share Posted May 22, 2013 The pics were taken maybe one or two months ago. The ladies in question are known for abusing alcohol, high drama, and slutty behavior, the info I got came from one of their husbands and one of the others ex boyfriends, not the ladies themselves. My bf denies it, angry that the rumors exist, he wasn't overly defensive, just angry at the hoes. Oh really...? So these are women frankly, revolting reputations, - but all married, apparently.... Tell me, what the hell does your husband think he's doing, associating with such company - !? Did these women approach you personally with these comments? If not, who did? I'm really not getting this at all.... Too many loose ends. Something here is being made up, or elaborated on. Link to post Share on other sites
therhythm Posted May 22, 2013 Share Posted May 22, 2013 I have to admit that I have such a picture myself too.... I don't even know with what purpose... maybe is a part of myself I liked to make a picture of I would not think too much of it if he has not given you any other indications that he may be cheating on you. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted May 22, 2013 Share Posted May 22, 2013 The pics were taken maybe one or two months ago. The ladies in question are known for abusing alcohol, high drama, and slutty behavior, the info I got came from one of their husbands and one of the others ex boyfriends, not the ladies themselves. My bf denies it, angry that the rumors exist, he wasn't overly defensive, just angry at the hoes. Uhm, if you were a guy looking to play around on the side, would you try to hit up the most solid, upfront woman who might tell your gf? Or do you hit on the ho who is half-drunk all the time and you know will put out? Yeah. Hun. He has dick pics on his phone. And not too many husbands announce that their wives are doing things to other men. Any connection between the two guys? Or both random and separate. Of course your BF is pissed. His game might be up. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted May 22, 2013 Share Posted May 22, 2013 Oh really...? So these are women frankly, revolting reputations, - but all married, apparently.... Tell me, what the hell does your husband think he's doing, associating with such company - !? Did these women approach you personally with these comments? If not, who did? I'm really not getting this at all.... Too many loose ends. Something here is being made up, or elaborated on. Either not the full picture yet, or too ashamed to fess up to something. How in the world did the convo with the husband happen? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ashley1 Posted May 22, 2013 Author Share Posted May 22, 2013 Either not the full picture yet, or too ashamed to fess up to something. How in the world did the convo with the husband happen? Only one of the girls is married, her husband approached me at the gym, we belong to the same club. This is the fourth marriage for both of them, she was recently arrested for beating her husband up, not the kind of woman i allow in my life as a friend, thus, she and i have no relationship. Both husband and wife were regulars at the bar I work at, yeah, I'm a bartender, that's why me and my bf know these girls, through my job. He hangs out at my bar some nights while I work. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ashley1 Posted May 22, 2013 Author Share Posted May 22, 2013 I'm really not getting this at all.... Too many loose ends. Something here is being made up, or elaborated on. I wish it was made up, I don't want this drama in my life, but working in a bar, small town, **** happens, trust me, I'm looking for other employment, I'm educated, but not many jobs out there were I only have to work 30 hours over week and make as much $$ as I do Link to post Share on other sites
KraftDinner Posted May 22, 2013 Share Posted May 22, 2013 The dick pic....sigh.... the somewhat-untalked-about male phenomena. So many of these floating around........ Dicks? Or dick pics? Floating dicks...now that would be a sight to behold. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted May 22, 2013 Share Posted May 22, 2013 I wish it was made up, I don't want this drama in my life, but working in a bar, small town, **** happens, trust me, I'm looking for other employment, I'm educated, but not many jobs out there were I only have to work 30 hours over week and make as much $$ as I do One: Get him to delete all and any 'phukkwit' pictures off his phone. Two: Be discriminate... Who is bringing you these stories? Are they reliable? Do they have an agenda or axe to grind? Three: give your h. the benefit of the doubt, but remember, there's no smoke without fire... If he wants to lay any rumours to rest, right now, let you see his phone - right now. I've worked in a pub. I know local village gossip and tittle-tattle. The best thing you could do, as well as the above,is to develop a hard skin. People are people. People gossip. Think about what truth there could be in this, knowing your husband as you do....and when people give you schytt like this, don't react. Keep silent, and keep it to yourself.... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted May 22, 2013 Share Posted May 22, 2013 I wish it was made up, I don't want this drama in my life, but working in a bar, small town, **** happens, trust me, I'm looking for other employment, I'm educated, but not many jobs out there were I only have to work 30 hours over week and make as much $$ as I do I used to work in a small town bar/hotel too. Amazed me how men would just figure you would go visit their rooms (or their local home) if they asked nice enough. Or made an offer. Never mind that they lived three blocks over from you and you and his wife were on the same dance committee. Or that I had a husband waiting at home for me. I know what it was: I was new. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted May 22, 2013 Share Posted May 22, 2013 Only one of the girls is married, her husband approached me at the gym, we belong to the same club. This is the fourth marriage for both of them, she was recently arrested for beating her husband up, not the kind of woman i allow in my life as a friend, thus, she and i have no relationship. Both husband and wife were regulars at the bar I work at, yeah, I'm a bartender, that's why me and my bf know these girls, through my job. He hangs out at my bar some nights while I work. So was it the kind of conversation where he wanted to trash his wife or the kind where he was concerned that you should know something. And did he say, "It was him and my wife in the living room with the candle stick" or was it more "Patty's got a little thing for him and he's been into her too. I think they had a little too much fun together, if ya know what I mean..." Vague, but BS or concerned and detailed? Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted May 22, 2013 Share Posted May 22, 2013 Only one of the girls is married, her husband approached me at the gym, we belong to the same club. This is the fourth marriage for both of them, she was recently arrested for beating her husband up, not the kind of woman i allow in my life as a friend, thus, she and i have no relationship. Both husband and wife were regulars at the bar I work at, yeah, I'm a bartender, that's why me and my bf know these girls, through my job. He hangs out at my bar some nights while I work. And..? What did this man tell you? Link to post Share on other sites
BetrayedH Posted May 23, 2013 Share Posted May 23, 2013 Three different reports and pics of his junk on his phone? I would quietly go into investigative mode. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
crederer Posted May 24, 2013 Share Posted May 24, 2013 Honestly, i think people that are all about privacy and such are being suspicious. I'm all for letting stuff go, I'm not jealous or controlling, but when there are obvious signs, there is nothing wrong with snooping IMO. People that have nothing to hide, hide nothing. I have no problems with my SO going through my stuff. Now if it's an ongoing regular thing and you've snooped and found nothing, then it may just be paranoia. Snooping all the time is bad, snooping when there is a legit reason to, is fine. All the former cheaters are probably going to bash me for that. Link to post Share on other sites
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