Sara. Posted May 22, 2013 Share Posted May 22, 2013 Hi eveyone! I really, really need help! (Particularly from guys) About a month and a half ago, a Facebook friend of mine (a guy who is taking the same course in college as me, a year behind) posted a status which I commented. He then answered me, I answered him back, and two male friends of him commented as well and joined the conversation. (They weren't talking to me or me to them, just to the guy who posted the status.) Then one of these two guys - who goes to my college as well - liked a comment I made, sent me a friend request (which I accepted) and liked my profile photo. And then wrote a comment (in this status, still) that was probably directed at me, but he didn't mention me so at the time I wasn't sure - and I didn't answer him. I think he also liked one of my cover photos. He was obviously Facebook flirting with me - but I didn't respond, because I looked at his photos and didn't feel attracted to him. In the following 2 weeks or so, he liked another profile picture of mine, another cover photo and a post our mutual friend made on my wall. He was still interested in me, it seemed. But all I did was like one of his cover photos, because I still wasn't interested. But then, about a week ago... I saw him in person. And now I'm attracted to him. So I looked at his interests (on FB) and he seems really interesting and seems to like some things I like - which, in my case, is a bit rare. I don't have many oportunities for meeting intriguing guys, so I really don't want to ruin this chance. So the other day I saw he was online and liked his profile picture, which I thought was a somewhat obvious signal - he hadn't updated the photo, it didn't appear on the feed, so it was clear I had to go to his profile on purpose. But he didn't reply in any way and still hasn't. What went wrong? - I initially rejected him, so maybe a like on his profile photo isn't a clear sign I'm interested? Does he still think I'm not into him and doesn't want to face rejection again? - Did he just lose interest? - Is it possible he's making me wait and 'suffer' until he replies in any way? It this an 'actual' strategy? Guys, have you done such a thing before? Girls, have you experienced it? Also: - Our mutual friend is not a threat to him (I think): to be honest, he's not good looking at all (but is a very good person) and I haven't shown that I'm into him at all, I think. I know you guys aren't psychics, but any comments are very welcome! Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted May 22, 2013 Share Posted May 22, 2013 I don't consider what he did "FB flirting" anymore than I consider what you did "an obvious signal." He probably feels the same way. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sara. Posted May 22, 2013 Author Share Posted May 22, 2013 Really? Can you elaborate on that a bit? Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted May 22, 2013 Share Posted May 22, 2013 Really? Can you elaborate on that a bit? How about you elaborate about why you think he was so clearly FB flirting, or that liking his profile picture was an obvious signal that you're interested? If such FB behavior is trulyindicative of flirting, then I and the gross majority of my friends are unintentionally flirting with hundreds of people a month. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sara. Posted May 22, 2013 Author Share Posted May 22, 2013 How about you elaborate about why you think he was so clearly FB flirting, or that liking his profile picture was an obvious signal that you're interested? If such FB behavior is trulyindicative of flirting, then I and the gross majority of my friends are unintentionally flirting with hundreds of people a month. Maybe it's a cultural difference (I assume you're american, I'm european), but where I live, and in my social circle, if a guy you don't know in 5 minutes sends you a friend request and likes your profile picture and your cover photo, and over the next couple of weeks likes more of yout photos and whatnot, you can bet he wants something. As for me liking his photo, yeah maybe it wasn't an obvious sign - which I'd already said in my original post: "maybe a like on his profile photo isn't a clear sign I'm interested?" Link to post Share on other sites
leedlee1 Posted May 24, 2013 Share Posted May 24, 2013 He didnt reject you in anyway, he's not making you suffer, i also click like on plenty of my female friends pictures and they do mine but it means nothing...... if i was to start flirting then a message would be the starting point Link to post Share on other sites
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