being friends with my ex's friends, should i cut off from them?

[lemonadekiwi]

i made friends with my ex bf's friends...and get on really well with them.

when we split, his friends have been contacting me constantly since, like really most days...a hell of a lot more than when i was with my ex.

they think he's an idiot for letting me go and are disappointed with the way he treated me. they keep asking me to hang out with them, and say they wont invite my ex because they know i'm upset.

 

the thing is...i feel bad because i only met them through my ex, they are his closest friends who have known him half his life, and i dont want to feel like i'm coming between them so ive declined a few times because i don't want to put anyone in that position of not inviting anyone. i've never had this happen where my ex's friends still want to see me a lot. the sad thing is everytime i see/speak to them, i just think of my ex. and it upsets me because its not the same.

 

i dont really know what to do...i've tried to say i need space for a while, i do really like them, but they dont seem to get it. i also don't really understand this whole thing.

[mammasita]

If they're true friends they will understand and will still be there when you're ready to hang out.

 

I'm still friends with my exes sisters. They are having a party this sunday (my ex will be there) and they invited me knowing I would decline and they understand and respect the fact that I am not going.

 

You'll know when you're ready to hang out with them again.

[stillafool]

I was always the type who cut everyone when I broke up with a guy. I have my own friends to support me. I don't think it's ever a good idea to let your man's friends be your only friends. If you are planning on going NC definitely delete them because you don't need to hear anything about your ex from them nor do you want to give them any info about you to take back to him. I say make a clean break but be very nice if you ever run into one of them.