Brookiedoll87 Posted October 1, 2004 Share Posted October 1, 2004 My boyfriend and i have been together for a little over a year. Lately he has been very bossy when he is talking to me. He always has some kind of attitude towards what i have to say. He shows no Empathy for anything i have to say. He is very inconsiderate acting some how. But i love him. I honestly do. But... then there's that side of me that want to hate him because he is acting like a complete jerk. He always gets into an argument with me , and then turns around and acts like nothing every happened. Its very immature of him to i don't know "run" from the problems. How can i get this across to him without him being pissed at me. I don't know how to talk to him anymore! Help... Link to post Share on other sites
unsafe Posted October 1, 2004 Share Posted October 1, 2004 I dont' know if I have an answer for you but I can say I feel your pain. Its saif when we love people that abuse us. My boyfriend and I have been together for a while. We went through some weird crap to get where we are now. And for the most part things are really good. But he has a tendancy to push my buttoms and then act like its all my fault I'm upset. Like he will be rude. Everyday he does this. Like today I had ordered him this cd. The other weekend we were watching a movie and the first thing he said is this has great music. So in my mind I thought I have to find the soundtrack for him then its an old movie. So I looked around and ordered off line for him. I got it in the mail today and I was so excited. So I told him I had something for me. he knew it was a cd. And for the most part he and I like completely different music. I am in 80's and he is in metal. but he likes some of mine and I like some of his. But anyway he said oh well you have bad bad taste in music so I am sure I wont like it. Well geezzz I thought this was very nice...and he said thanks but he thinks I think he is this centimental guy and he isn't. I just like its the thought that counts I was just trying make him smile. I don't know its just how I am. in the end he said he was thankful and understood I am like that and he just most of the time isn't. But what a jerk...right. He can be such a sweet guy but sometimes he comes off so rude So you aren't alone..just remember that. Just have to decide if you can walk away or not. If you can...then do it now. if not just have to learn to deal with it I guess cause no man will change for you. You can tell him it bothers you...but doesn't mean he will change. Link to post Share on other sites
Splatty Posted October 1, 2004 Share Posted October 1, 2004 if not just have to learn to deal with it I guess cause no man will change for you As a guy, this is totally true. No guy will change for you, he has want to change. Has he always been bossy? Do you think he is taking you for granted? Do you think he is unhappy with the relationship? Is there a work or social issue that he is stressing over? Have you tried to talk to him about how you feel when he is bossy? You might consider taking a break with him to get results. On a break: 1) you might realize if it is going to work 2) he might become motivated to change his ways 3) maybe he is just taking you for granted, it might help him realize that he is taking you for granted Link to post Share on other sites
Majik45 Posted October 1, 2004 Share Posted October 1, 2004 I say take a break from him and find out if he's really the one you want to be in a relationship with. I can't understand how or why some people stay in relationships that they aren't happy in. I think some people just stay in relationships because it's easier, and they'd rather be in a relationship that isn't perfect than to not be in a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
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