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Had a Really rough morning at work. This is normally the time I'd shoot him an email complaining about it. Since we are NC it's making me feel the loss of him and I feel like my day is going from bad to worse.

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lilmisscantbewrong

It's going to take awhile. My xom used to have a text waiting for me when I woke up "morning sunshine". It took a very long time until I wasn't looking for that anymore. When you are in the habit of doing something, it takes a very long time for that to fade.

 

It will in time, but right now it's going to be very fresh for you.

 

Hang in there - go get some ice cream at lunch! Ice cream always makes you feel better.;)

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I had a hard time as well....I'd wait for his call on his way into work and home from work. You know how much I get done now doing what I want since I'm on my schedule and not waiting for him :laugh::laugh:

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It's going to take awhile. My xom used to have a text waiting for me when I woke up "morning sunshine". It took a very long time until I wasn't looking for that anymore. When you are in the habit of doing something, it takes a very long time for that to fade.

 

It will in time, but right now it's going to be very fresh for you.

 

Hang in there - go get some ice cream at lunch! Ice cream always makes you feel better.;)

 

 

Yes, this is all so accurate!

 

Just continue on, and go through the process of time it takes, for your mind and body to detox, from the things, that have become, the "normal".

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It's going to take awhile. My xom used to have a text waiting for me when I woke up "morning sunshine". It took a very long time until I wasn't looking for that anymore. When you are in the habit of doing something, it takes a very long time for that to fade.

 

It will in time, but right now it's going to be very fresh for you.

 

Hang in there - go get some ice cream at lunch! Ice cream always makes you feel better.;)

 

 

 

Ahhhh lunch was even tougher, I spent my lunch break with him everyday. I slept through lunch the past couple of days but decided to try and be awake today.

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It's going to take awhile. My xom used to have a text waiting for me when I woke up "morning sunshine". It took a very long time until I wasn't looking for that anymore. When you are in the habit of doing something, it takes a very long time for that to fade.

 

It will in time, but right now it's going to be very fresh for you.

 

Hang in there - go get some ice cream at lunch! Ice cream always makes you feel better.;)

 

Awww Lilmiss- that was my morning text every morning too!

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It is really raw in the first days on nc, but you will get there , it does get easier with time

 

hang in there xx

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Praying4Peace
Had a Really rough morning at work. This is normally the time I'd shoot him an email complaining about it. Since we are NC it's making me feel the loss of him and I feel like my day is going from bad to worse.

 

Pardon me,

I know how hard it is. You just have to push past it and move on. Mornings were excruciating for me too at the start. I used to sleep with my phone next to me bc first thing in the morning was a text from him. Think of something you can do instead to replace that. Perhaps write in a journal every morning? LS has a journal option here or you could just use google docs or a private blog...or come here!

 

Hope your day gets better. Do not go anywhere familiar for lunch if you can help it...for now.

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secretlady76

Habits are hard to break. I think many of us got into a habit/routine of messages at certain times of the day.

 

The first day that awaited message never turns up is very hard.

 

....and the next day.........still nothing....

 

....and the next.....

 

.....and the next....

 

 

In the end it becomes normal not to hear from them. It gets easier I promise but those first few days/weeks are hell. I will not try and say it isn't.

 

Hang in there. You will feel better but you have to feel worse first, sorry.

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lilmisscantbewrong

We lunched a lot together as well, but fortunately in the town I work in there is only one spot we even had a beer together (most of those places are in a different town and I try to avoid those whenever possible). Anyway, initially I didn't go there at all, but a week or so ago I did meet a girlfriend there after work and ate on the patio while watching some acoustic music. It was nice and it was totally fine.

 

I only say that to tell you that I agree with the others. You really do have to force yourself to avoid places you went together as much as you possibly can and go someplace different - creating new memories.

 

Here's something that might help. I read something on Wayne Dyer when he decided he didn't want to drink anymore (he's not against it, he just chose for himself to give up alcohol). He always said that he refused to say he wouldn't drink tomorrow, but for today he chose not to drink. I think about that in every thing that I do now. Today, I can choose not to call xom or message xom, or whatever. You can do anything for an hour or two hours or a day. It becomes daunting when you project and think too far into the future.

 

For now - go get that ice cream :)

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Lol I decided to come here when I couldn't bear it anymore, hence the reason I posted this :)

 

Except for running to my bank which is unfortunately 2 blocks away from his work I drove and found some place in the opposite direction. I even had a cookie. Thanks for the support you guys.

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LilGirlandOW

Sending *hugs* PM. :( I cant imagine what you're going through, I know if it were me I would be devestated as well. I hope in someway our kinship gives you some kind of strength, I know it has for me in many different ways. Your original posts have given me so much inspiration, strength and moments of self-refelection. That I can only hope in some way all that comes back to you, and you find happiness:)

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