Would you rather be alone the rest of your life or be with someobdy you have no

[PJKino]

Physical attraction to at all? I know some people are willing to i just cant do it..Im 33 and never been in a relationship and i cant attract any women im physically attracted to at all so im prepared to go without any one for the rest of my life rather then settle with a women i cant picture being intimate with..

 

Im not extremely picky but if theyres no physical attraction at all my heart wouldnt be in it on a intimate level..

[ThaWholigan]

I think I'd be comfortable on my own - I have been for a long time in my life, and companionship from friends hasn't been hard to attain. I believe it would just give me more time towards my endeavors.

[jolie_baby]

I don't seem to be able to bring myself to be with someone am not physically attracted to, no matter how lonely I am...

[shayla]

I don't know, now that I"m older, what attracts me has changed so much, I wonder if at some point my attraction would change....I am not sure that attraction is that important in the long run.

[TouchedByViolet]

I could not be with someone I am not physically attracted to.

[coachcomeback]

well . . .. please don't take this the wrong way... but have you given much thought to maybe you are just not into women?

 

I mean, there is a big difference to finding someone attractive and someone you want to get intimate with. If you are saying you would rather be alone because you have NEVER found a woman that you were attracted to.... might be time to look in "another direction"

 

There world is FULL of beautiful women. Every where you look. All shapes, sizes and colors! I cant go to my mail box without tripping over another beautiful creature... and it's attached to my front door! lol

 

Just a thought

[PJKino]

well . . .. please don't take this the wrong way... but have you given much thought to maybe you are just not into women?

 

I mean, there is a big difference to finding someone attractive and someone you want to get intimate with. If you are saying you would rather be alone because you have NEVER found a woman that you were attracted to.... might be time to look in "another direction"

 

There world is FULL of beautiful women. Every where you look. All shapes, sizes and colors! I cant go to my mail box without tripping over another beautiful creature... and it's attached to my front door! lol

 

Just a thought

 

 

No i clearly said i cant get a women im attracted to..Theyre's plenty of women im physically attracted to i just cant attract them

[xxoo]

"Physically attracted to" means something different to me than "attracted to their appearance". I consider myself physically attracted if I want to have dirty sex with that person, and that is often for reasons other than appearance.

 

I would rather be single than be with (and have sex with) someone who doesn't turn me on. But it isn't really a matter of appearance for me. There are many ways for a man to be sexy to me.

[sillyanswer]

Physical attraction to at all?

 

Splitting the question between the topic and the message makes for odd quoting... but anyway.

 

 

I'd question whether those are really the only two choices. I wouldn't be with someone I have no physical attraction to, so I'd be striving to be with someone that I do find attractive.

 

But if you've really mastered fortune telling to be sure that those are your only options, can you tell me tomorrow's lottery numbers?

[Eternal Sunshine]

This is the choice I make on regular basis. Perhaps in my old age I will come to regret it. I just feel incredibly sad about being with someone I am not attracted to (even if he was a great guy on paper, including being decent looking). The thought of being alone forever also makes me sad, but not as sad as the the other choice.

[Shepp]

Looks fade tbh. Like how many 80 year olds are still 'physically attracted' to each other.

 

Hands up im quite picky when it comes to girls but I don't intend to grow old on my own! I want to share my life with someone, I want a family, I want kids, grandkids, someone to tell me where ive left my glasses when im old and grey and my eye sights gone!

 

So yeah if it came to it - I would pick the second option!

Id be a good husband and a good dad and I wouldn't throw all that away on looks!

[KathyM]

I think you need to work on whatever is holding you back from attracting women. And have realistic standards. Like another poster said, if you have nothing attractive about you, why do you think women should be attracted to that? A double standard is not going to help you. There are many things you can be attracted to in a woman--her personality, her smile, her sense of humor, her kind character, etc., etc. A woman who cares about you can enhance your life in many ways. Learn to appreciate women for the variety of characteristics that they have.

[PJKino]

It makes me wonder though...if your standards are way to high..and it makes me also wonder, if you'd expect someone who didnt find you attractive to be with you?

 

I know I'm totally passing judgement here, but I feel like your after model type women, and you are sub par to them.

 

I apologize if I'm completely wrong. I am attracted to different things, I can like a chubby man, skinny man, short, tall...but there are things I find unattractive..like unkept beards, terrible blemishes, giant bulubous noses, obesity among other things. You can't help if you are unattractive to people. But I find sometimes if you don't open yourself up to something you can get passed you can be missing out on some amazing people.

 

No im looking for supermodels by any stretch but at least cute women im attracted to

[xxoo]

I do think that anyone successful in a long term relationship needs to be attracted in ways other than physical appearance. Physical beauty fades 100% of the time. Sexual attraction does not always fade with it. If you can figure that you, you'll be in good shape.

[PogoStick]

Ever wonder what relationships would be like if you were permanently blind? Light bulb! Gouge your eyes out?

[PJKino]

I think you need to work on whatever is holding you back from attracting women. And have realistic standards. Like another poster said, if you have nothing attractive about you, why do you think women should be attracted to that? A double standard is not going to help you. There are many things you can be attracted to in a woman--her personality, her smile, her sense of humor, her kind character, etc., etc. A woman who cares about you can enhance your life in many ways. Learn to appreciate women for the variety of characteristics that they have.

 

How is it a double standard when i never demanded that women should be attracted to me? you're putting words in my mouth i simply stated women im attracted to are not attracted to me.

 

Im sorry i just cant be attracted to a women i have no physical attraction to at all,sex is a part of a relationship and if im cringing at the thought of being naked with her i dont care how nice she is i cant do it.

[PJKino]

I do think that anyone successful in a long term relationship needs to be attracted in ways other than physical appearance. Physical beauty fades 100% of the time. Sexual attraction does not always fade with it. If you can figure that you, you'll be in good shape.

 

Of course there needs to be more to sustain a relationship but that doesnt mean there doesnt need to be any physical attraction im sorry its important to most people.

 

If i cant picture making out with you never mind being naked then a relationship will not last

[crederer]

Attraction is important but it's possible your standards are too high. I mean are you holding out for a hollywood type? Because then you're going to be lonely for ever.

[xxoo]

Of course there needs to be more to sustain a relationship but that doesnt mean there doesnt need to be any physical attraction im sorry its important to most people.

 

If i cant picture making out with you never mind being naked then a relationship will not last

 

I think you overlooked what I said about sexual attraction not always being related to appearance.

 

Some of the men I've been most turned on by were not men I particularly wanted to look at naked. Not that they were unattractive, just that their body shape wasn't what was making me all horny.

[Shepp]

if im cringing at the thought of being naked with her i dont care how nice she is i cant do it.

 

Your cringing - blimey how bad is this girl??

[KathyM]

How is it a double standard when i never demanded that women should be attracted to me? you're putting words in my mouth i simply stated women im attracted to are not attracted to me.

 

Im sorry i just cant be attracted to a women i have no physical attraction to at all,sex is a part of a relationship and if im cringing at the thought of being naked with her i dont care how nice she is i cant do it.

Well, if the woman was not attracted to you, why do you think she would want to be with you? If there was nothing about you that attracted women, why would they want to be with you? Attraction has to go both ways. It's not one-sided. And it's not just the physical that attracts people. You say you want a woman who is cute and attractive. Are you cute and attractive? If not, then you need to work on whatever characteristics you need to develop to warrant an attraction. You need to be more self aware and work on the traits that would attract women. Expecting women to be attracted to you without having anything to offer yourself that is attractive is just entitlement and that won't get you anywhere.

[PJKino]

I think you overlooked what I said about sexual attraction not always being related to appearance.

 

Some of the men I've been most turned on by were not men I particularly wanted to look at naked. Not that they were unattractive, just that their body shape wasn't what was making me all horny.

 

Im sorry but maybe YOU get aroused that way but i dont neither do a lot of people its not something i can control people are attracted to what they are attracted to..

 

With that said im not attracted to only one type or only really hot women you assume im only into women with amazing physiques while im not into fat women a women doesnt have to have a knockout body by any stretch just not awful and as long as her face is acceptable i can get attracted..

 

And what you said about men was they werent unattractive just not your "ideal" ..i bet if they had unattractive faces you would not be turned on by them

[Shepp]

Im sorry but maybe YOU get aroused that way but i dont neither do a lot of people its not something i can control people are attracted to what they are attracted to..

 

With that said im not attracted to only one type or only really hot women you assume im only into women with amazing physiques while im not into fat women a women doesnt have to have a knockout body by any stretch just not awful and as long as her face is acceptable i can get attracted..

 

And what you said about men was they werent unattractive just not your "ideal" ..i bet if they had unattractive faces you would not be turned on by them

 

 

So if you were a with a really nice looking girl and then she, god forbid, had an accident that did some damage and you weren't sexually super turned on anymore that's it you'd end the relationship?

[PJKino]

Well, if the woman was not attracted to you, why do you think she would want to be with you? If there was nothing about you that attracted women, why would they want to be with you? Attraction has to go both ways. It's not one-sided. And it's not just the physical that attracts people. You say you want a woman who is cute and attractive. Are you cute and attractive? If not, then you need to work on whatever characteristics you need to develop to warrant an attraction. You need to be more self aware and work on the traits that would attract women. Expecting women to be attracted to you without having anything to offer yourself that is attractive is just entitlement and that won't get you anywhere.

 

Wow its like talking to a brick wall here..I NEVER said these women MUST be attracted to me i was merely pointing out they werent attracted so me so id rather stay single..

[KathyM]

Wow its like talking to a brick wall here..I NEVER said these women MUST be attracted to me i was merely pointing out they werent attracted so me so id rather stay single..

Well, if you'd rather stay single than to work on yourself in order to attract women, then I guess you'll be alone. Your choice, really.