'Casual Dating' A question for the GUYS/MEN/BOYS

[prettypeach20]

1. I was just wondering: How many of you casually date more than one woman at a time? and how many at a time?

 

2. When you are 'casually dating' multiple women how often do you see each of them? (assuming that you guys are NOT sleeping together)

 

3. After how many dates would you stop seeing a woman casually? (if you guys are NOT sleeping with each other)...

 

I am in a situation where I've been seeing this guy casually for 2 months. 6 dates total, all one week apart but lately its turning into once every other week. He still initiates texts etc. and I see the man at work so we chat at work...just don't hang out or go on dates often...

[Razzic]

1. I was just wondering: How many of you casually date more than one woman at a time? and how many at a time?

 

2. When you are 'casually dating' multiple women how often do you see each of them? (assuming that you guys are NOT sleeping together)

 

3. After how many dates would you stop seeing a woman casually? (if you guys are NOT sleeping with each other)...

 

I am in a situation where I've been seeing this guy casually for 2 months. 6 dates total, all one week apart but lately its turning into once every other week. He still initiates texts etc. and I see the man at work so we chat at work...just don't hang out or go on dates often...

 

1) I talk to many at one time but as soon as it gets seriously I've generally stopped talking to all the others as my focus is automatically on her so I have forgotten about the other girls that I was interested / semi interested in.

 

2) There is no limit really but see number 1

 

3) Again number 1

[Kelemvor]

1. I was just wondering: How many of you casually date more than one woman at a time? and how many at a time?

 

2. When you are 'casually dating' multiple women how often do you see each of them? (assuming that you guys are NOT sleeping together)

 

3. After how many dates would you stop seeing a woman casually? (if you guys are NOT sleeping with each other)...

 

I am in a situation where I've been seeing this guy casually for 2 months. 6 dates total, all one week apart but lately its turning into once every other week. He still initiates texts etc. and I see the man at work so we chat at work...just don't hang out or go on dates often...

 

1. Two. I can't juggle three with work.

 

2. Depends on whether sex is involved and/or the situation. Once every week/half or every other week or so.

 

3. 1-2 months at that frequency if we had not had sex. Once sex enters the picture, and if we seem compatible then I'm less interested in the other girl(s) and tend to distance myself from them and pay more attention to her.

 

I don't think this is something that you can formulaic find an answer to as it depends on your situation. I've casually dated female friends that started off very slow and progressed to something more farther down the line. It didn't reflect lack of interest just extenuating circumstances and the dynamics of the situation.

 

Good luck. I wouldn't encourage you to throw yourself at him simply because you are trying to "make him interested" as that will probably not work. Usually sex enters the picture when you both feel the chemistry, sparks and there is usually little guesswork that the other person is very interested. If things are lukewarm at this point then maybe he's just not feeling much chemistry, even if you are...

[SuperGeek]

I'm mid 30s male, and I can answer briefly:

 

1. Right now I just date one or two women, but usually one woman at a time. I can't handle more than one of you at a time as it's too exhausting. I can barely get dates as it is, so usually it's just ONE.

 

2. Assuming I'm dating two women at a time (rare these days), I see them once or twice a week.

 

3. It is hard to quantity the number of dates it would take me to become exclusive with one female. I think it's more about reaching a point in the relationship where both of us know we want to get serious. Or we both lose interest in other people and just start following a pattern of exclusivity without really planning it (my favourite path).

 

You girls tend to date WAY more guys concurrently than guys date women concurrently. The reason is women have unlimited men to date, and men don't. Men have to work very HARD (except brad pitt types) to get dates so it is very hard to date multiple women.

 

There is my true response. Take/Leave it.