foxygal007 Posted May 23, 2013 Share Posted May 23, 2013 (edited) Been over a month since I talked or seen my x. Was emotionally abusive, pouting/silent treatment to get his way, trying to change me- to the extent of controlling what I can/cannot say to my friends. I left him without saying that its over because I've tried to leave before and I always forgave him and tried to give the relationship a second chance. Were together 16months- to him, I didn't dress good enough, asking me to change my hair etc, i don't pray as much as I should, i don't clean good enough etc. I carried as much as I could from his apartment and forgot a few non important stuff- a tshirt,magazine, nail polish, earrings. He writes 2 weeks later and asks me to send someone to get my stuff- I don't respond. A week later, he writes a longer email saying i should have the courtesy to respond- and write 'please' 4times-almost begging for a response from me- during the relationship- he never/rarely said sorry, please, excuse me etc- threw my clothes on the floor the very few times he did laundry etc- i will not respond to him because I suspect he wants to make me feel bad by giving back things i bought for him and for the apartment like bed sheets etc. He is a vengeful person and most probably wants to disgrace me/whoever I send to collect my things- I sometimes feel like writing him an email and telling him off for the things he put me through- but so far, I have ignored him- I wonder why I miss him today- went to DC for a meeting and at the hotel, I just missed our out of town trips. I'm on my way to NY, remembering the times we travelled together and just feeling so overwhelmed--- broken dreams and promises. I thought he was the one......I leave the country for another job overseas on the 18th of June which will be the 59th day of no contact--- I never want to initiate contact- I am dealing with never talking or seeing him ever---so tough. Advise? Edited May 24, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator paragraphs Link to post Share on other sites
aisuru Posted May 24, 2013 Share Posted May 24, 2013 Just stay strong and know you're doing the right thing. You miss having "someone" not being with a jerk. You'll be okay. Have fun on your trips and adventures! Link to post Share on other sites
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