blackendangel13 Posted October 1, 2004 Share Posted October 1, 2004 Hi all. Having a sort of dilema. Here is my situation in a nutshell (for more in depth see "Whats his deal"). My ex of 1.5 years and I have been broken up for a little over two months with no contact for the past month. We were still seeing each other, or he was using me for sex, whichever it really was for the first month of the break-up. Anyway. During the past month I decided to move on and stop hurting myself by chasing after someone who obviously didn't want to be with me anymore. I started seeing a great guy who is post break-up too and we have been taking things really slow, with the exception of one drunk night. Well last night the guy called and said he was coming over after he went to the bar with his friends. I was excited so I cleaned my house and got ready and ended up falling asleep on the couch waiting for his phone call. Well I woke up about 1:30 from a horrible nightmare and still no guy. I didn't sleep for the rest of the night and he never called or came over. My ex used to do this to me all the time and it used to really hurt me. The new guy and I have been talking a lot lately about getting together officially and this incident really really disappointed me. I know he was probably drunk and just forgot, but I came into work with an email from him about how it was 7am and he was wasted. Am I reading too much into this? I just dont want to start down the same path again. Help! Link to post Share on other sites
Jilly10340 Posted October 1, 2004 Share Posted October 1, 2004 Hmmm.....I would say to let it go this one time but if he makes it a habit then definately confront him about it. Link to post Share on other sites
disconcertainly Posted October 1, 2004 Share Posted October 1, 2004 I think this is a very bad start to a relationship. He has already stood you up and you guys are not even "together" I think that people who tell you one thing and do another are not responsible or respectful to the other person. Link to post Share on other sites
Author blackendangel13 Posted October 1, 2004 Author Share Posted October 1, 2004 Normally it wouldn't be that big of a deal. I mean I know guys get drunk and sometimes they don't call because they dont want to wake you up, or whatever but I have been in the situation many times with my ex and it terrifies me that he did the same thing. I know you are not supposed to compare but its hard sometimes, especially when they start to do the same crap that used to hurt you so bad. I think what scares me more is my friends are saying that I am becoming co-dependent and I have no reason to be mad. To me it just seems like common courtesy to call. I think I will let it go this once but if its a habbit, I can't deal with it. I have also thought of not making plans at all with him if he is going out with his friends first. It leaves too much that can get in the way. Link to post Share on other sites
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