Guest Posted October 1, 2004 Share Posted October 1, 2004 i need serious advice regarding my marraige. i've been married to my husband for 6 years. we have a 4 y/old son. we are both in our early forties. during the last summer, my husband and i were looking for a new babysitter for our child. he insisted on being the one to make the final choice regarding who we were going to hire. No wonder! he chose a 22 year-old college girl with a pair of 36DDD in breast size at least. should I be concerned. please look at these little hints. 1 month ago, i came back from work and caught them both in the kitchen, with him standing behind her massaging her breasts under her t-shirt. i immediately yelled and they stopped. i told her she is fired but my husband insisted that he was just "doing that" because he has always like women with large breasts, that's all. he promised me that it never went beyond fondling her boobs. so we decided to keep her. but last night, i came back from work and when i got into the house, i heard noises coming from the basement, almost sounded like people who were out of breath. i also heard the sound of a hand slapping against someone's skin. then the final blow, i heard a long grunt coming out of my husband's mouth.. But the strange part, is the fact that the door to the basement was close. so after about 30 minutes, here comes my husband with the babysitter from the basement. he opened the door and had that startled look on his face when he saw me and got very defensive accusing me of spying on him. i asked him what they were doing in the basement and why he has to close the door to the basement. he said that he was helping her with her school homework and did not want to be disturbed.....meanwhile, my 4 y/o son is on the seocnd floor sleeping by himself... should i be concerned? is this all in my imagination? someone pls help! i cannot seem to eat/sleep since yeasterday. Link to post Share on other sites
disconcertainly Posted October 2, 2004 Share Posted October 2, 2004 Why did you not go into the basement? Link to post Share on other sites
only1life Posted October 4, 2004 Share Posted October 4, 2004 Definitely you should be concerned! This is a big deal. It will not go away by itself. If he respects you like a good husband should, then he'll understand when you insist on getting a new babysitter. You caught him, and he needs to come clean. Make him face and admit the truth. If he doesn't, then you need to let him know right now that you're not happy in this marriage, and you guys need to get to a couple's marriage counciler. I think the hands under her shirt alone are enough to flag a problem which needs to be addressed. You might be lucky enough to catch the problem before it becomes something that all three of you will regret. Obviously the other two aren't smart enough to stop it soon enough! Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted October 4, 2004 Share Posted October 4, 2004 This post has already been made several times. I would advise that we all [font=courier new]DO NOT RESPOND[/font] as I am getting more than ever convinced that it is a hoax. Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted October 4, 2004 Share Posted October 4, 2004 The fact that you caught him fondling her breast should be reason enough for you to know that he is definitely cheating on you. At least to me that's considered CHEATING! You should have gone to the basement and caught him in the act or better yet, you should have fired the babysitter the minute you caught him "massaging" her breast. Because he likes big breast it does mean he can just touch her! Well, there's no point in dwelling about what you should have done. Now, you should fire the girl first of all and secondly ask your husband what's going on, why is he cheating on you. If you want to stay with him I advice you to go to counseling ASAP; however, I don't think he's worth it. Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted October 4, 2004 Share Posted October 4, 2004 Originally posted by SoleMate This post has already been made several times. I would advise that we all [font=courier new]DO NOT RESPOND[/font] as I am getting more than ever convinced that it is a hoax. What do you mean? Has she posted this exact post lately or a long time ago? Well if it is a hoax I hope my advice helps someone in the future who really needs it or may come across this post. I don't know why would someone lie Link to post Share on other sites
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