I'm 15, never been kissed and very low self esteem...

[fiftyofsomethin]

Yeah like that is something you just do in one second. It takes time to build confidence. And, where I live, there are no fairs.

 

If only there was a button we could press and instantly be confident and happy...

[LauraNorth]

Yes indeed! That would make everything so much easier.

[fiftyofsomethin]

Yes indeed! That would make everything so much easier.

 

That being said, it's remarkable how just changing your mindset and CHOOSING to be happy/confident without worrying about anything else actually helps.

 

We sometimes forget that we actually have control over our thoughts and all the worry and anxiety we have is all in our heads and can be thrown out whenever we feel we need to do so.

 

Good luck again, yo!

[ScreamingTrees]

There is absolutely no reason to be feeling this way, OP.

[ilkdom]

The low self-esteem is something that can be changed over the time only, true. What worked for me, was to do something out of my comfort zone, for example going to study abroad, taking acting classes... Finding a self-esteem and interesting people can only be done when meeting other people. Although a big boost can be at least one really good friend. For support and also to discover that most of the things we think that are catastrophe do not really matter - and self-esteem is in the end not what we look like in the eyes of the others (that's popularity or renown) but how much confidence we have for ourselves. And that's actually easier to achieve, to have a better confidence in myself than tinkering with my popularity with other people who generally do not give a damn about what I do or feel about.

[ilkdom]

The low self-esteem is something that can be changed over the time only, true. What worked for me, was to do something out of my comfort zone, for example going to study abroad, taking acting classes... Finding a self-esteem and interesting people can only be done when meeting other people. Although a big boost can be at least one really good friend. For support and also to discover that most of the things we think that are catastrophe do not really matter - and self-esteem is in the end not what we look like in the eyes of the others (that's popularity or renown) but how much confidence we have for ourselves. And that's actually easier to achieve, to have a better confidence in myself than tinkering with my popularity with other people who generally do not give a damn about what I do or feel about.

[DannyMason]

I got my first kiss the summer after I turned 15 and I was like 60 lbs overweight and had terrible anxiety issues. You can do the same! No weight gain or anxiety needed! Here's how:

 

1.) Find an attractive single heterosexual boy.

2.) Get him some place private.

3.) Tell him you find him attractive and would like to kiss him.

 

Congratulations! Your first kiss! It's that simple. Really. You'll do great!

[SincereOnlineGuy]

Hey guys,

 

I'm Laura, I'm 15 and I live probably thousands of miles away for some of you (Europe)

 

I'm feeling a little down lately, because everyone around me is getting boyfriends and kissing and some even got to the next level, but I am just alone. I know I am young, but I start blaming myself for it, as if I'm not pretty enough or if I'm doing something wrong...

 

How do you get guys to like you?? Please help me...

 

 

 

You can probably look around - everywhere - and see millions of girls writing and saying the exact same things, so you have to conclude that some of this is (well within the bounds of) 'normal'.

 

The best thing you can do for yourself is to continue to pursue interests you've always had, while perhaps cultivating new interests as well. It will most likely be the passion you show for a shared interest which first catches the eye of male suitors down the road.

 

Nobody knows at this point whether that will be hang gliding, rollerblading, macramé, or an online video game.

 

Outside of that, the next best move is to do things to cause yourself to meet as many new people as possible.

 

If you get (some smallish unit of money) right NOW, you can either go to the store and spend it all on candy, or you can invest it in your future somehow.

 

If you begin to lay the groundwork today for the boys who will like you at age 17, and 27, then your future self will thank your present-day self many times over.

[LauraNorth]

If you get (some smallish unit of money) right NOW, you can either go to the store and spend it all on candy, or you can invest it in your future

 

I am currently saving for my drivers license ill be able to get within a year

[SincereOnlineGuy]

LOL - that wasn't about actual money... it was to maybe cause you to think like someone who is laying the groundwork in 2013 for the shared interests of the future, which will deeply connect you and your future guy.

 

So right now, you should be looking for the activities that you like, for your own sake, so that when you meet a guy somewhere in relation to those activities they will be things that you really, actually love.

 

 

 

The alternative is your meeting some big, sweaty Rugby player, and having to take-up Rugby and pretending to like it, just to make him think you have things in common with him.

 

So now's your chance... go forth and pursue your own interests... target your own college... rather than reaching your final year of high school, and then risking thinking you should follow some guy to his college of choice just to be with him.

[Phantom888]

To the Op who is 15 years old. Don't feel down about not having been kissed. You are so young and have so much to look forward to. I kissed a girl for the 1st time when I was 18, and my girlfriend was 19. 1st kiss for both of us. The best things in life are ones that you waited for.