Vinegar Posted May 25, 2013 Share Posted May 25, 2013 I have been on dozens of dates and I am never attracted to the guy. it is usually because I don't like his personality. how many guys do I have to date until I find one that I am drawn to? hundreds? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Tinie Posted May 25, 2013 Share Posted May 25, 2013 There are a lot of levels of attractive. Physical attraction is eeeeaaasyyyy! (or maybe my university just has a high concentration of smokin' hot men...) Personality-wise it's hard. The only way you would know is if you communicate with the guy by going on dates. Personality is less straightforward than looks. What is it about personality that you don't like? Or are you just being way too picky? I can only say keep trying. There isn't really another way to know someone's personality until you actually talk to them. Link to post Share on other sites
jolie_baby Posted May 25, 2013 Share Posted May 25, 2013 I have been on dozens of dates and I am never attracted to the guy. it is usually because I don't like his personality. how many guys do I have to date until I find one that I am drawn to? hundreds? I don't know!! But you keep trying girl!! Best of luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Razzic Posted May 25, 2013 Share Posted May 25, 2013 I have been on dozens of dates and I am never attracted to the guy. it is usually because I don't like his personality. how many guys do I have to date until I find one that I am drawn to? hundreds? Sometimes, maybe find out what you not interested in first then cancel those out, (the absolute and the ones you can live with if everything else is ok) also what things that come to mind make you interested in a guy? Link to post Share on other sites
hppr Posted May 25, 2013 Share Posted May 25, 2013 I have been on dozens of dates and I am never attracted to the guy. it is usually because I don't like his personality. how many guys do I have to date until I find one that I am drawn to? hundreds? When I go on dates I try to find one good thing about the girl and go with that. Pretty eyes? Nice tits? Sense of humor? Smart? Very very kind and polite? Everybody has good qualities so focus on those, rather than the things which are turning you off. It's all about positive attitude, being upbeat and not expecting anything. Link to post Share on other sites
melodymatters Posted May 25, 2013 Share Posted May 25, 2013 Are you ever attracted to anyone, anywhere ? If so, figure out how to date THEM. Link to post Share on other sites
prettycutesoul Posted May 30, 2013 Share Posted May 30, 2013 There are a lot of levels of attractive. Physical attraction is eeeeaaasyyyy! (or maybe my university just has a high concentration of smokin' hot men...) Personality-wise it's hard. The only way you would know is if you communicate with the guy by going on dates. Personality is less straightforward than looks. What is it about personality that you don't like? Or are you just being way too picky? I can only say keep trying. There isn't really another way to know someone's personality until you actually talk to them. OMG what university is this? I want to go to there. Haha to OP, oh gosh I feel you. It's hard going out and you feel like you don't like anyone, man that's so me. I feel like ew, most of the time. Physical attributes are soo easy, i mean I like a guy first cause they're cute, then when they open their mouths I just want to throw something at them, but sometimes you hit the jackpot!!! It's hard to find someone with a personality that just CLICKS with you. Which is why I find dating so stressful hahaha. Some guys have great personalities, some don't and even if they DO have great personalities, you just gotta click with someone. I dunno, what do you like? maybe on these dates you force yourself too hard to like them and when they don't do something or say something you like, you just write them off? Maybe it'll take hundreds maybe just one, just gotta keep weeding and weeding through. Who knows? I wish there was a formula for dating/liking someone, unfortunately... it's more complicated than that. UGH. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Suave Posted May 30, 2013 Share Posted May 30, 2013 Personality is everything. There are plenty of good-looking men in the world. Most are douchebags. The ones who can hold meaningful conversations, straddle the line between confidence and cockiness without stepping too far over each side, show legitimate interest in the thoughts and feelings of other people and act like mature adults are the real prizes. But most of these men are either taken or will be shortly 1 Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted May 30, 2013 Share Posted May 30, 2013 how many guys do I have to date until I find one that I am drawn to? Could be the next one. That's part of the fun. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Vinegar Posted May 30, 2013 Author Share Posted May 30, 2013 thank you to everyone especially pretty cute soul. I agree! Sometimes when they open their mouths I want to throw something at them! Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted May 30, 2013 Share Posted May 30, 2013 I am extremely rarely attracted to someone. Possibly less than 5% of guys (looks + personality). Actually maybe more like 1%. I realized that this is messed up so I entered into a relationship with someone I wasn't that attracted to. On the scale of 1-10, my attraction to him was around 4 I was miserable. I now choose to stay single. Guys that I am into are never single.... Link to post Share on other sites
soccerrprp Posted May 30, 2013 Share Posted May 30, 2013 I find it hard to believe that there are SO few decent looking guys out there w/ equally decent personalities. Come on! Perhaps you are way too particular? Link to post Share on other sites
Suave Posted May 30, 2013 Share Posted May 30, 2013 They are out there. Most of them have already been scooped up, that's all. Link to post Share on other sites
warriorguy Posted May 30, 2013 Share Posted May 30, 2013 It's not a problem, means that you have high standards and that you should not drop them to be with someone. You be yourself and the right man will find you. Link to post Share on other sites
hppr Posted May 30, 2013 Share Posted May 30, 2013 I find it hard to believe that there are SO few decent looking guys out there w/ equally decent personalities. Come on! Perhaps you are way too particular? Yeah I don't buy it either. Maybe she's looking for a very specific sort of personality/job/common interest kind of thing. I know of one woman who told me that she wanted a "...man with a 4 year degree, but not an engineering or computer one, who's tall and athletic but doesn't go the gym all the time and isn't full of himself, who likes kids but doesn't have any of his own, smart but not really nerdy or anything-" on and on and on...and since she works at my dentist's office and was cleaning my teeth at the time I couldn't get away lol. Oh yeah no red hair and she likes beards on men but not big beards, like rough beards... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Aicha Posted May 30, 2013 Share Posted May 30, 2013 tookme 5 years to find my dream man Link to post Share on other sites
Maleficent Posted May 30, 2013 Share Posted May 30, 2013 Physical attraction is eeeeaaasyyyy! (or maybe my university just has a high concentration of smokin' hot men...) Soooo which university are you at?? Link to post Share on other sites
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