Biscous Posted May 26, 2013 Share Posted May 26, 2013 I don't know what it is. I work at a workplace where it is a bit of a social environment, tech field, but social nevertheless. I have no problem talking with people in a business sense. I've gotten through tough interviews, etc to get jobs and where I'm at. I also do a bit of sales on the side where I have to talk to managers, customers, etc. Present myself in an educated fashion and sometimes cold approach people. Again, no problem with that. Good friends. I am an avid weightlifting enthusiasts. People at work and in my social circles are inspired by me, ask me for help, etc. I think nothing of it because I like helping people. For some reason though. I can't put myself out all the time as I'd like. I'd like to cold approach some attractive woman then and there and get her # or even at work I know there are some women I'm attracted to I reserve myself around when it comes to non-business things. People tell me that I am not bad looking or anything. It's not that. Also I know I've been consuming myself out with things in my work life and other things that I don't put much effort into meeting women. Part of the reason is because after close to two years moving to where I'm at now I still sometimes feel displaced. Also last month I JUST went on NC with my ex again after the on and off thing. I contain myself sometimes and I think only a few people understand my situation - two of my good friends in college and a female friend of mine here. I could use some advice on how to remedy this and move forward. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted May 26, 2013 Share Posted May 26, 2013 Expand your social circle outside of work and actually take advantage of it. Reserve at least one night each week that you do something social, whether it's just going out on your own somewhere, a date, or a group activity. Treat it like you would going to the gym; that is, you have to go. If you don't go out, you're not allowed in the gym for a week. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Biscous Posted May 26, 2013 Author Share Posted May 26, 2013 Expand your social circle outside of work and actually take advantage of it. Reserve at least one night each week that you do something social, whether it's just going out on your own somewhere, a date, or a group activity. Treat it like you would going to the gym; that is, you have to go. If you don't go out, you're not allowed in the gym for a week. No gym?? Challenge accepted. Link to post Share on other sites
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