Meetvirginia Posted May 27, 2013 Share Posted May 27, 2013 Gonna put this in a nutshell...or try,anyway! Had a fwb it went on for 6 months. We stopped talking because i knew it was only going to hurt me in the end. So i told him and that was that. No contact for 7 months. Saw him around town a few times, eventually i texted him and heard nothing in return. I didn't attempt to contact him again because i can take a hint,and no response is definitely a hint! So here we are a month after that text and he shows up on my doorstep, hollers up to my window and i go down and chit chat for a few minutes. He goes to leave, gives me a hug and thats that. My question is, is he testing the waters here? Is he trying to soothe his own conscience over some ****ty things in our past? Just checking to see if i'm an option?! What does this mean? Am i gonna hear from him, i am certainly not going to be the one to contact him again. At this point i am confused and a little shocked to see him and am just looking for some opinions on this because in all honesty my stupid ass has hope once again and...well,help! Any and all advice welcome! Thanks much. Link to post Share on other sites
subversive Posted May 27, 2013 Share Posted May 27, 2013 In my experience, a guy showing up on your doorstep and yelling up to your window is usually drunk and looking for sex. If he was totally sober, then I don't know. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted May 27, 2013 Share Posted May 27, 2013 I think he might have just been 'touching base....like...you know... FWoutB style.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Meetvirginia Posted May 27, 2013 Author Share Posted May 27, 2013 He was completely sober. Otherwise, if he were wasted it would have been pretty obvious he was looking to get some ass. And hence one of the reasons im so confused. Why the need to touch base-just to see if im still an option,like i assumed? i don't plan on contacting him. Clearly he still knows how to get ahold of me if he wants to. That's up to him. I was just incredibly surprised to see this guy after so long. So wanted some opinions, and i thank you for your input. Link to post Share on other sites
subversive Posted May 27, 2013 Share Posted May 27, 2013 I had an ex FWB come say hi to me after 5 years once. He asked for my phone number, told me he had come to my house a few times and found me gone, and was glad to see me. I told him I was glad he was doing well, hugged him, and told him I was in a relationship. He told me he was in an open marriage. Based on our conversation, I was worried he was going to call or show up looking for benefits again. I immediately told my BF that I had run into an old friend, just in case this guy did show up. It turns out he just wanted to touch base like Tara stated. I never heard from him again. Of course, I suppose there is the possibility that he would have had I not mentioned my boyfriend, but that was definitely not a possibility for me. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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