Would you date a girl who...

[Leigh 87]

Her 2nd BF was a rebound (started dating after 1 month after she broke up with her 1st BF). She said she was in love with new BF but then suddenly realized she is not over him. So she went back to him (they were having sex multiple times while she was in relationship with her new BF). So after he found out (I dont know who told him) he changed and cheated her back and neglected her. She blame herself for everything bad he did in a relationship after that. They were together 3 years (they broke up a few times but always got back).

 

As far as cheating - She knew how much that hurt since she recently experienced that with her 1st BF but she did that then to another person (new BF). I know you are not mature at that age but sill, that is very egoistical/selfish. I think you must be selfish person to do that and that do not change after years...

 

 

Your an imbecile if you think that I have not changed since I was 18.

 

Sure, some people don't change.

I did, and you are not in the position to know any better.

I am not more likely to cheat than someone who never has.

 

What you do when your a teenager does not have to be an indicator of your true character.

I also yelled at my parents, was a loner with no friends, was severely bullied, and was a mess. I a negative women who was never happy for other people since I was not happy with who I was.

I was a pot smoker, chronically, and yeah I had no pride or self respect.

 

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I happen to have been strong enough to totally turn my life around. I like myself enough to have values. To have integrity.

I CARE about how I treat others. I suffer if I go about my life in a way that is not honourable.

I am now the polar opposite of what I once was: I am extremely positive, happy with life, KIND TO MY PARENTs (god bless them!), I HAVEA LOT OF FRIENDS and I do not sleep around like I did from ages 16 - 18.

 

I slept around for the period of 2 years between ages 16 - 18, too.

 

Now?

 

Only 3 men in TEN Years. And not because I do not have options. I genuinely need a guy to like and respect me enough to let them have my body.

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Why don't you walk a mile in my shoes, see what the hell I have been through, and then tell me that I have no changed within the past 15 years!!!!!!!

 

People have the power to change if they are strong and determined. Sociopaths? It is hard. Psychopaths? More so. Narcissists?

THEY ARE ENCOURAGED :lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao:in this day and age of reality TV and the tarts that frequent our screens and talk about THEMSELVES and their stupid lives:sick:

People with a conscious can change with hard work. It is the people who SERIAL cheat and have no or very little EMPATHY that do not feel COMPELLED to change.

 

If you have a heart, you normally want to change because hurting others feels WRONG.

[ippn1]

Your an imbecile if you think that I have not changed since I was 18.

 

Why don't you walk a mile in my shoes, see what the hell I have been through, and then tell me that I have no changed within the past 15 years!!!!!!!

 

EASY!!!!

Who attacked YOU? This is not about YOU.

I DO NOT care about you. So stop yelling about how hard it was when you were a teen. Open new thread to cry and insult others...

You still feel guilty because if not, you would not take it personally. JESUS...

 

 

And anyone who cheated in the past is somehow defending himself in this thread...

Edited May 28, 2013 by ippn1

[metal_chick]

EASY!!!!

Who attacked YOU? This is not about YOU.

You still feel guilty because if not, you would not take it personally. JESUS...

 

And anyone who cheated in the past is somehow defending himself in this thread...

 

I don't think the people providing a more tolerable view of something that, like it or not, is human nature, have necessarily cheated themselves.

 

If you'd already affirmed that she was damaged goods, why did you ask the question?

[Leigh 87]

EASY!!!!

Who attacked YOU? This is not about YOU.

I DO NOT care about you. So stop yelling about how hard it was when you were a teen. Open new thread to cry and insult others...

You still feel guilty because if not, you would not take it personally. JESUS...

 

 

And anyone who cheated in the past is somehow defending himself in this thread...

 

 

You said that something that someone did when they were almost 15 years younger (cheating), definitely will reflect in the person that I have become.

 

I have no tolerance for ignorant people who assume that people can't change.

 

It is baffling that you think a one or two time cheater in their teens surely has not changed and will still not be able to keep it in their pants.

[metal_chick]

Why don't you post your purported statistics. Since you seem to be an advocate of cheating, I surmise all your opinions are reflecting.

 

Oh look.. New friend!

 

However, you are another example of people not reading what I've written closely enough. Nowhere have I advocated cheating. I advocate, in some instances, tolerance, forgiveness and an attempt at understanding. Like it or not, monogamy in humans is a choice, not a biological absolute. And there can't ever be any reliable statistics on cheating because a person's natural inclination when it comes to acknowledging cheating, is to lie.

 

Nor have I ever cheated on anyone. Been cheated on, though!

 

Looks like there are enough strawmen hear for a Burning Man Festival...

Edited May 28, 2013 by metal_chick

[Simon Phoenix]

Enough with your Wizard of Oz fetish, new friend. I have no problem with tolerance, but not when it comes to cheating. I am surprised, you have been cheated on before. Didn't it kind of suck knowing that you were subject to the exposure of STD's ? That your health was at risk?

 

Cheating is not an accident. It is an impulsive decision made by someone with lack of character & any moral objectivity. Of course there are exceptions to every rule, but in my opinion that is rare. People are allowed to have standards. Infidelity is a good standard to not put up with.

 

And your statements about how "so many people cheat" that you wouldn't even know I don't agree with you, because unless you took a consensus of the entire planet, you my friend have no basis for your argument, or lack thereof.

 

Here are some stats. Infidelity Statistics | Statistic Brain and Five myths about cheating - Washington Post

 

Will you calm down now and stop attacking other posters?

[runningfar]

I have never cheated. I have been cheated on and it hurt and destroyed my marriage.

 

 

That said, cheating can be a mistake.

It doesn't mean somebody is a horrible person.

 

 

I believe in redemption and in growth and I am going to judge a person based on who they are not on past mistakes.

 

I wouldn't want to be with anybody so harsh either, no matter whether I meet their standards. That view on people -as if growth isn't possible- disturbs me.

[Woggle]

I have never cheated. I have been cheated on and it hurt and destroyed my marriage.

 

 

That said, cheating can be a mistake.

It doesn't mean somebody is a horrible person.

 

 

I believe in redemption and in growth and I am going to judge a person based on who they are not on past mistakes.

 

I wouldn't want to be with anybody so harsh either, no matter whether I meet their standards. That view on people -as if growth isn't possible- disturbs me.

 

People can change but it takes some serious work on themselves and introspection to do it. I just choose to have higher standards than that. I realize that the bar keeps getting lower and lower in this society but I won't lower it for myself. I ask nothing that I am not willing to give myself.