my boyfriend has gone to the army, please help. Is any one else in my situation

[aylin]

hello everyone i am new to this forum! i have had a long distance relationship for 4 years, i have spent the last 6 months with him though but now he has gone to the army for 15 months and i find it really difficult it has only been 4 days since he has gone, so all i have done is thrown myself into work and going to the gym!!!

my relationship has always been a difficult one as my parents hate him and wont even meet him! i am Turkish but was born in London and i met my boyfriend on holiday in Turkey. he was a barman, my parents are really unsupportive about him, but we are very much in love, and now he is in the army he cannot even take a phone with him, so i am feeling really down, is there anyone out there in the same situation as me???

[disconcertainly]

You need to think about what is going to be best for you. 15 months is a long time and is it worth it? Only you know the answers....Could he be the one?

[greenlove]

"hello everyone i am new to this forum! i have had a long distance relationship for 4 years, i have spent the last 6 months with him though but now he has gone to the army for 15 months and i find it really difficult it has only been 4 days since he has gone, so all i have done is thrown myself into work and going to the gym!!! "

 

 

This sounds like I wrote it. I'm so serious every word.

 

THIS IS EXACTLY MY SITUATION. Except for the fact that my boyfriend got a 30 day delay and has not left yet. He was suppose to leave 0ct 6, but lucky got it postponed. I have been with him for the past 6 months and I finally decided to go home and since I've been back work and getting in shape is what I have been focusing on.

 

We should talk. I would love to tell you more about me and here back from you, please PM.

 

Unfourtently Its 4:00am and I can hardly keep my eyes open, excuse the grammer mistakes please.

 

 

Talk to you soon

[SweetBee82]

I have a boyfriend who's in the Army (but not going through basic training or anything like that) and yeah it's hard to maintain a long distance relationship with someone who's in the Armed Forces. But you have to ask yourself, "is this worth the wait?" My boyfriend and I went through periods of not seeing each other but when we do, it is worth the wait. I was able to focus on other important things in my life and let him pursue his goals and dreams during the time apart.

 

I hope this helps!

[Alibahbah]

Hiya, I went to Turkey on holiday with my family in the summer for two weeks. I met a boy in the hotel i was staying in, we went out for a few nights and i enjoyed myself. He was great company and pleasant to be with. He was affectionate and sweet, even though we had just met i begun to grow feelings for him.

 

 

I am 20 years old and he's 19. I went back to see him a week ago, to see if anything had changed and if this was for real. My dad travelled out with me as he didn't want me to go alone. So, he was there if i needed him, but he was happy touring alone some days.

 

 

I met up with him during the days and evenings, the time went so fast though. We have been texting every moring and evening since my return. I text him in turkish, i am familiar with quite a fair number of words, also have my translation books. He is going in to the army though in February for 15 months, i said i would wait for him even though it is a real long time. I don't know what is to come of this relationship, is it for real or a dream? Time will tell i guess.

 

 

I think you should wait for your man in the arny, yeah its a long time but if you have strong feelings then wait. It will be so hard, but if you don't then in time to come you may look back and think what would it have been like if i waited. Best to just listen to yourself, what is best for you. Look at the pros and cons, and weigh it up. There will be little communicaion when he is in the army, as it will be hard..as he won't have his phone. But talk to him before hand and see what his feelings are and opinion.

 

Ali x