MrWonderful Posted May 27, 2013 Share Posted May 27, 2013 I could never understand why guys go crazy for girls who give us little attention. It is true when a girl wants you. you don't want them, because you know you can have them. But when a girl shows little interest you go CRAZY for them. Is it just me, or does this apply for all guys? What do you guys think Link to post Share on other sites
JuneJulySeptember Posted May 27, 2013 Share Posted May 27, 2013 I could never understand why guys go crazy for girls who give us little attention. It is true when a girl wants you. you don't want them, because you know you can have them. But when a girl shows little interest you go CRAZY for them. Is it just me, or does this apply for all guys? What do you guys think Not me. The women I have gone crazy for would all be seen in public with me, and have invited me out 1-on-1 as 'friends'. I wouldn't have any interest in anybody who IGNORES ANY good person, for romance or friendship, no matter how ugly or geeky. Shallow and petty, and there's enough people in this world that I don't have to deal with that kind of crap. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrWonderful Posted May 27, 2013 Author Share Posted May 27, 2013 Not me. The women I have gone crazy for would all be seen in public with me, and have invited me out 1-on-1 as 'friends'. I wouldn't have any interest in anybody who ignores ANY good person, for romance or friendship, no matter how ugly or geeky. Shallow and petty, and there's enough people in this world that I don't have to deal with that kind of crap. Well I don't mean necessarily "ignore". Like give you less attention. IDK I know these are not good woman, but they drive me crazy! Link to post Share on other sites
BluEyeL Posted May 27, 2013 Share Posted May 27, 2013 Not knowing if you could have them produces anxiety and that's why you go crazy. If they are too available, it's no challenge for you. Link to post Share on other sites
JuneJulySeptember Posted May 27, 2013 Share Posted May 27, 2013 Well I don't mean necessarily "ignore". Like give you less attention. IDK I know these are not good woman, but they drive me crazy! Well. It stands to reason that you would never get to know a woman who gives you little attention on any kind of intimate level. So, no. All of the women I have gone crazy for I have gotten to know on an intimate level. They have rejected me anyway though. The women you refer to I call the 'bitches'. I actually am kind of grateful for them because they reject me quick and decisively, and I don't have to invest any emotion into the matter. The women who see me as good enough to 'hang out with on some form of level' but not good enough to date, those are a little bit harder to decipher. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrWonderful Posted May 27, 2013 Author Share Posted May 27, 2013 Not knowing if you could have them produces anxiety and that's why you go crazy. If they are too available, it's no challenge for you. Exactly!! Its crazy how the human mind works. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BluEyeL Posted May 27, 2013 Share Posted May 27, 2013 Exactly!! Its crazy how the human mind works. I go most crazy if a guy shows interest and then retracts it out of the blue. If we get something that comes very easy to us, we eventually get bored. But if that thing is scarce, we tend to see it as more valuable and we want it more. I'm from an Eastern European country. In the 80s there was no food. Once a year, they would bring bananas at the store, and everyone would go gaga to buy them. We thought bananas were the most exquisite delicacies. Now, nobody cares so much about bananas, since they are available and cheap ' Google "the principle of scarcity" 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BluEyeL Posted May 27, 2013 Share Posted May 27, 2013 Here we go, the psychology of persuation. http://www.takebackyourbrain.com/2007/the-psychology-of-persuasion-scarcity/ 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JuneJulySeptember Posted May 27, 2013 Share Posted May 27, 2013 Here we go, the psychology of persuation. http://www.takebackyourbrain.com/2007/the-psychology-of-persuasion-scarcity/ There's a little more to it than that. It has to be something you really want before the rejection. Believe me. If I said I didn't want you, you wouldn't care. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TouchedByViolet Posted May 27, 2013 Share Posted May 27, 2013 I disagree with your premise. I have never been attracted to women who ignore me. Link to post Share on other sites
BluEyeL Posted May 27, 2013 Share Posted May 27, 2013 There's a little more to it than that. It has to be something you really want before the rejection. Believe me. If I said I didn't want you, you wouldn't care. Yes, agreed. You wanted that thing/person first, if they were later scarce you'd want them more, if they were too available, you'd get bored. Link to post Share on other sites
BluEyeL Posted May 27, 2013 Share Posted May 27, 2013 I disagree with your premise. I have never been attracted to women who ignore me. Not if they completely ignore you from the beginning. But if they give you a little bit AND you're attracted, you are likely to work harder to try to get more. If they don't get you ANYTHING, you'll stop trying. If they get you TOO MUCH, you get bored. It's been researched on mice 1 Link to post Share on other sites
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted May 27, 2013 Share Posted May 27, 2013 I could never understand why guys go crazy for girls who give us little attention. It is true when a girl wants you. you don't want them, because you know you can have them. But when a girl shows little interest you go CRAZY for them. Is it just me, or does this apply for all guys? What do you guys think I tend to like girls more if they like me. If a girl shows that she truly cares about me, then I will become more attracted to her. Unfortunately, most people don't feel this way. Also unfortunate is that most people appear to be incapable of truly caring about anyone else these days. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
tbf Posted May 27, 2013 Share Posted May 27, 2013 Yes, agreed. You wanted that thing/person first, if they were later scarce you'd want them more, if they were too available, you'd get bored.It doesn't have to start with wanting it. All it takes is curiosity. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted May 27, 2013 Share Posted May 27, 2013 I go most crazy if a guy shows interest and then retracts it out of the blue. If we get something that comes very easy to us, we eventually get bored. But if that thing is scarce, we tend to see it as more valuable and we want it more. I'm from an Eastern European country. In the 80s there was no food. Once a year, they would bring bananas at the store, and everyone would go gaga to buy them. We thought bananas were the most exquisite delicacies. Now, nobody cares so much about bananas, since they are available and cheap ' Google "the principle of scarcity" The ironic thing about this is that these kinds of games make me less attracted to a girl. So it's kind of a self-fulfilling prophecy: - I like a girl and pursue her. - She doesn't like me. - I stop pursuing. - She misses the attention and starts liking me. - I realize what's happening and lose respect for her. - We have a sexual relationship and nothing more. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted May 27, 2013 Share Posted May 27, 2013 I prefer girls who show me that they like me. If a girl doesn't give me attention, I'll find someone who will. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JuneJulySeptember Posted May 27, 2013 Share Posted May 27, 2013 The ironic thing about this is that these kinds of games make me less attracted to a girl. So it's kind of a self-fulfilling prophecy: - I like a girl and pursue her. - She doesn't like me. - I stop pursuing. - She misses the attention and starts liking me. - I realize what's happening and lose respect for her. - We have a sexual relationship and nothing more. I agree. I want path of least resistance. All of this crap that I would be unhappy with an attractive, funny, smart woman because she was too easy? WTF? Yea, I'm gonna give back that mega millions lottery ticket while I'm at it. It was just too easy. That's what I want. I want an attractive woman to hit on me. I've dreamed of that happening all my life. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
BluEyeL Posted May 27, 2013 Share Posted May 27, 2013 The ironic thing about this is that these kinds of games make me less attracted to a girl. So it's kind of a self-fulfilling prophecy: - I like a girl and pursue her. - She doesn't like me. - I stop pursuing. - She misses the attention and starts liking me. - I realize what's happening and lose respect for her. - We have a sexual relationship and nothing more. I don't think I was speaking of the situation you describe. BTW, welcome back! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Blue Toast Posted May 27, 2013 Share Posted May 27, 2013 I could never understand why guys go crazy for girls who give us little attention. It is true when a girl wants you. you don't want them, because you know you can have them. But when a girl shows little interest you go CRAZY for them. Is it just me, or does this apply for all guys? What do you guys think The 5% of in demand hot guys who women drool over are like this. The rest of us are the opposite. Link to post Share on other sites
tbf Posted May 27, 2013 Share Posted May 27, 2013 I prefer girls who show me that they like me. If a girl doesn't give me attention, I'll find someone who will.This is false, based on your posting history. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JuneJulySeptember Posted May 27, 2013 Share Posted May 27, 2013 (edited) Dating Tips, Advice, & Secrets! The 3 on 3 was a good little video. I do agree that women may be into different types. But I think you'll find that although the three women liked one particular guy each, that all three guys probably would have liked all three women. Of course, this is all assuming looks requirements are all met. Edited May 27, 2013 by JuneJulySeptember Link to post Share on other sites
ThaWholigan Posted May 27, 2013 Share Posted May 27, 2013 Sometimes its a challenge aspect. I admit to being attracted to some hard to get girls in my lifetime. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted May 27, 2013 Share Posted May 27, 2013 It's want what you can'y have syndrome which is an epidemic these days. People should have outgrown before they hit 30 if you ask me. People who don't will never have a healthy relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Charlie Harper Posted May 27, 2013 Share Posted May 27, 2013 It happens the other way around too! .... its called INSECURITY. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted May 27, 2013 Share Posted May 27, 2013 Some women never outgrow it. Some men don't either. If you want a happy relationship avoid people with this affliction. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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