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My co-worker and I have known each other for a couple of years and been flirting since. He has a long term girlfriend but I didn't know this till a year later cause he never mentions her, so a long time after I developed strong feelings for him. He was always hot and cold with me and even avoids me from time to time so I wondered if he really liked me or it was just a game. We do have a lot in common and get along great. He always respects me and compliments about how smart I am, is never sleazy but he has asked me personal questions about my love life, why I am single cause I am such a great girl.

 

Then one night recently we got really drunk and ended up in bed together. At first it was just foreplay but he wouldn't let me do much to him or go all the way which I thought was strange but then I guess it was guilt. Then after we woke up things heated up again, he lost control and we had sex. We spent the rest of the morning cuddling and since then he has warmed up to me even more. When we see each other in the office we smile like crazy at each other a lot and he seems very happy to see me.

 

I feel really bad for what we did and there have times before it happened where we have gotten close but we have stopped it. I realise there are so many boundaries we crossed here which I suppose is the reason why we haven't talked about it yet. The fact we have both been fighting this for so long makes me think that there are a lot feelings from both sides. I want to talk him but I'm not sure how to approach the situation. I asked him after we slept together if he was ok and he said he was as long as I am too. I left it as I didn't want to put pressure on him. I am not sure if him not wanting to talk is cause it was just a one night thing for him or he is trying to get things straight in his head. If anyone can give me some advice, if they have been in a similar experience as to how I could handle this or what he could be thinking would be great. And please spare all the negative comments as I already feel bad enough as it is!

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BeholdtheMan
is never sleazy

 

we had sex

He has sex with you while he's in a relationship with a long-term girlfriend...yet he

"is never sleazy"

 

1+1=3?

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