A word on marriage (sinner and samson should like this)

[Thinkalot]

Marriage is not a word. It`s a

 

Sentence ( alife sentence).

 

Marriage is an institution.

 

For the blind.

 

Marriage is a three – ring circus:

 

Engagement ring, wedding ring,

 

Followed by suffering.

 

· after marriage.husband and

 

wife become two sides of a coin.

 

They just can`t face each other,but

 

They still stay together.

 

Before marriage. A man yearns

 

For the woman he loves.after the

 

Marriage the “y” becomes silent.

 

 

I of course, have far more hope than that! But I thought it was funny. And that some on this site would appreciate it.

[tokyo]

That was fun.

 

I wonder why people complain so much about marriage and still take this risk.... Some people obviously cherish masochistic pleasures....

[Papillon]

I'd get married just so that my insurance premiums on my goddamn car will come down.

[HokeyReligions]

Originally posted by Papillon

I'd get married just so that my insurance premiums on my goddamn car will come down.

 

LOL!

 

Hmm.... mine went up!

 

"Do you take this woman, for better or worse, accepting lower car insurance premiums and learning to buy the correct feminine hygene products for her, ....."

[Papillon]

Heh.

 

"I do"

[Karlise13]

I find marriage so bizarre, it's a WONDER to me that society promotes it as the 'norm' we should all expect.

 

 

There was an interesting article I read somewhere about marriage.....about how it turns people into 'tyrants' who stop treating each other kindly.

 

I'm sure there are some LS people here who are in very happy, kind marriages. But I think SOME people think being married is license to treat the other person in ways you'd NEVER treat a stranger. Or a dog for that matter.

[Papillon]

I sometimes look at my brother and sister-in-law (I rent an apartment from them), and how they fight and are sarcastic with each other....and it never makes sense to me, because the one moment they're like cat and dog, next moment they purr in each other's arms

 

Thanks, I'll take the purring, only, thanks!

[HokeyReligions]

I don't think it's marriage, per se, that "turns people into tyrants" I think the old saying, "familiarity breeds contempt" is more appropriate.

 

I don't think its possible, or a realistic expectation, for a couple who have been together for years to not fight sometimes--whether or not they have a marriage license.

[Merin]

 

Those are funny!

[Karlise13]

it's when people CONSTANTLY belittle the other person in a thousand tiny (yet meaningful) ways.

 

For example,

 

rolling their eyes when the sig. other makes a statement

 

groans when the sig other starts to tell a story, "Oh, not THAT old story again..."

 

cracks 'jokes' at the sig. other's expense; "Her? COOK? Are you kidding me? Her idea of cooking is hitting three buttons on the microwave."

 

 

acts critical in front of other people "I TOLD you not to wear that stupid shirt!"

 

acts critical in private

 

Doesn't bother any more with greetings. Just barrages the person the minute they walk in the door with, "Oh My God...look at what the dog did! Do you know what your mother said to me? This garage door is broken. Why didn't you stop at the post office like I said? Blah blah blah blah"

 

I've seen it a bajillion times and it makes me sick.

 

Just because someone married you doesn't give you license to turn into a badgering old hen (women) or a critical, cold dictator (men). I get sickened by the 'taking for granted' stuff I see.

[Thinkalot]

We get married next April. We've been together just over 3 years now, and living together most of that time. Recently we had a hard look at our relationship, and realised we HAD been taking each other for granted a bit, and not always being as considerate and polite to each other as we should be. We've both been making an effort since, and our relationship has been flourishing lately, full of excitement love and passion.

 

No doubt we'll again slip out of this, and need to take stock again in the future...it seems being conscious and making an effort is the main thing though.

[Matilda]

I absolutely love being married. So there!

[Thinkalot]

That's what I like to hear Matilda!

[VivianLee]

We tend to treat our families members harshly and less polite because we know they will love us "no matter what"....

 

In marriage we start getting comfortable and feel that "no matter what" will always apply....then someone decides it DOES matter.....

 

A perfect marriage would be to feel safe, peaceful, passionate and comfortable while treating one another the same way you did when you tried to "hook em".....hummmmm.....

[Thinkalot]

So it becomes a constant balancing act really.

[VivianLee]

Originally posted by Thinkalot

So it becomes a constant balancing act really.

 

That and you NEVER stop working TOGETHER on your marriage. You see how you and all of us have had our problems in marriage/relationships (some more severe than others) and then you realize that you need to do this or that and all these other steps. I have learned that you don't wait till there is a problem to do these things you need to do to keep the marriage in the state it needs to be in....it's a work in progress for the rest of your life together...."work" doesn't sound very exciting but it's just a fact and it's much better to keep at it than to wake up one day to a world of problems, some that may not ever be fixed!!

[Thinkalot]

True. Going in with one's eyes open always helps too I think.

[reservoirdog1]

Actually, I liked being married too. But, there's another quotation nobody's posted here:

 

"A man in love is incomplete before he is married. After, he is finished."