Am I the only who who all my exes hate or does anyone else have this problem?

[PugMug]

All the girls I date or have sexual relationships with end up hating me. Literally ALL of them, they always tell me never to talk to them again and leave them alone. All of them ignore me and delete me completely from their lives.

 

Has anyone else been through this or does it only happen to me?

[aisuru]

We need details... Why do you think they are like this?

 

How old are you? How long are the relationships? Who is the dumper/dumpee?

 

Any personal insight you have in to this?

[metal_chick]

All the girls I date or have sexual relationships with end up hating me. Literally ALL of them, they always tell me never to talk to them again and leave them alone. All of them ignore me and delete me completely from their lives.

 

Has anyone else been through this or does it only happen to me?

 

What makes you think that they hate you if they delete your from their life?

 

You want to be friends with your exes? It rarely happens. What your girls are doing is pretty normal. I do the same thing to my exes, and I don't hate them. It's part of moving on. I don't want to keep an ex in my life that will potentially interefere with my next relationship.

[BustedUpInside]

I definitely need more info here. For example, if you have only had two relationships then it wouldn't be a pattern yet. If you are in your late 40's and have had more than ten serious partners, then it would a lot more revealing.

 

Tell us more!!

[PugMug]

All the girls I date or have sexual relationships with end up hating me. Literally ALL of them, they always tell me never to talk to them again and leave them alone. All of them ignore me and delete me completely from their lives.

 

Has anyone else been through this or does it only happen to me?

 

Thanks for the responses guys.

 

This question is not necessarily about myself. It's if others have had to experience exes never wanting to hear from them, as all of mine have deleted me from their lives. Has it happened to you guys? How does it make you feel and what do you do about it?

[CC12]

Do you treat them poorly?

[fiftyofsomethin]

Thanks for the responses guys.

 

This question is not necessarily about myself. It's if others have had to experience exes never wanting to hear from them, as all of mine have deleted me from their lives. Has it happened to you guys? How does it make you feel and what do you do about it?

 

It happens to everyone in a normal relationship. It makes you feel like ****.

 

What more do you want? If you want help, we need details buddy.

[PugMug]

Do you treat them poorly?

 

 

No I haven't

[aisuru]

Okay, I'll bite. Nobody has said that to me and I have never said that to anybody.

 

That's why I'm so interested in more details...

[PugMug]

It happens to everyone in a normal relationship. It makes you feel like ****.

 

What more do you want? If you want help, we need details buddy.

 

What do you do to feel better when it does happen?

[BustedUpInside]

Okay, I'll bite. Nobody has said that to me and I have never said that to anybody.

 

That's why I'm so interested in more details...

 

Agreed. All my exes seem to want to remain annoyingly close. I usually have to tell them at least once that I am not really interested in the whole friendship thing.

 

I would also be interested in more details. Either about your past or your "friend's"

[PugMug]

To share some of my personal details because you guys are asking for them is...

 

Whether I date a girl for 3 years or 1 month+, they always dump me. Also, ALL of them add the "don't talk to me, please leave me alone, we can't be friends" once they leave.

 

It has gotten to the point where I haven't dated anyone for the past year or so. I always feel that they will give me the same speech all of them have given me when they leave me.

 

I don't feel like I am good enough to be in a relationship with anymore.

[metal_chick]

Agreed. All my exes seem to want to remain annoyingly close. I usually have to tell them at least once that I am not really interested in the whole friendship thing.

 

I would also be interested in more details. Either about your past or your "friend's"

 

I should clarify, my exes have always done the 'let's be friends' speech and I've had to tell them to take a hike.

 

I'm just not interested in being friends with someone I have done... "stuff" with. It's pretty hard. I'd rather just break free and move on.

[BustedUpInside]

Hmmm, it is probably one of two reasons:

 

Either it is the type of women that you are dating. Do you have a type? Have other people commented that you always seem to date a certain kind of person. Then it would make sense that they would handle break ups in a similar manner

 

or

 

There is something that you keep doing in the relationship that seems to be a red flag for the women where they believe that it would be better if there was no contact after the relationship ends.

 

Have any friends or girlfriends mentioned any information that would fit in either of those scenarios? I am sorry for being so obtrusive but it is really hard to pinpoint reasons without lots of information.

[aisuru]

To share some of my personal details because you guys are asking for them is...

 

Whether I date a girl for 3 years or 1 month+, they always dump me. Also, ALL of them add the "don't talk to me, please leave me alone, we can't be friends" once they leave.

 

It has gotten to the point where I haven't dated anyone for the past year or so. I always feel that they will give me the same speech all of them have given me when they leave me.

 

I don't feel like I am good enough to be in a relationship with anymore.

 

What is the constant behavior you have demonstrated in each of these relationships? Cause by the sounds of it, there is something you are doing, or not doing, that is causing this. Hard to hear isn't it? I know, I know...

 

Stop withholding dude. We cannot help you if you don't give us something to work with.

 

Geez. Be honest with yourself. Then you can be honest with us.

 

You're obviously seeking some insight. We need guidance my friend.

[aisuru]

Hmmm, it is probably one of two reasons:

 

Either it is the type of women that you are dating. Do you have a type? Have other people commented that you always seem to date a certain kind of person. Then it would make sense that they would handle break ups in a similar manner

 

or

 

There is something that you keep doing in the relationship that seems to be a red flag for the women where they believe that it would be better if there was no contact after the relationship ends.

 

Have any friends or girlfriends mentioned any information that would fit in either of those scenarios? I am sorry for being so obtrusive but it is really hard to pinpoint reasons without lots of information.

 

GOOD GRIEF, get out of my head! Now. *cough*

[BustedUpInside]

GOOD GRIEF, get out of my head! Now. *cough*

 

I am already convinced that we are the same person. Do you want to be the alter ego or should I?

[CC12]

I don't feel like I am good enough to be in a relationship with anymore.

 

I'm sure you're good enough. You probably just have some bad relationship habits that push these people away.

 

Whether I date a girl for 3 years or 1 month+, they always dump me. Also, ALL of them add the "don't talk to me, please leave me alone, we can't be friends" once they leave.

 

Are you overbearing, controlling, or clingy in your relationships?

 

 

 

Stop withholding dude.

 

Also, this.

[aisuru]

I am already convinced that we are the same person. Do you want to be the alter ego or should I?

 

Let's take turns. Tonight you can be alter. I call dibs on tomorrow night.

 

It does get exhausting ya know.

[PugMug]

Wow those are really good questions. I just wouldn't know what to tell you guys in regards to them.

 

Physically, the girls I've dated tend to have some features in common. When it comes to their personalities though they are VERY different.

 

What a few have told me is that I am "bipolar" (I wouldn't know because I haven't been diagnosed by a professional), also, some have said that they do all the talking and I keep it short. I just don't know how to really express myself to be honest.

 

Other than that I don't know what it is about me that they can't stand. I feel that as a person I am nice. I have also change quite a bit since my last relationship and did go on a date with a girl but she straight out told me that she can't see herself being with me and that she wasn't interested.

[aisuru]

Wow those are really good questions. I just wouldn't know what to tell you guys in regards to them.

 

Physically, the girls I've dated tend to have some features in common. When it comes to their personalities though they are VERY different.

 

What a few have told me is that I am "bipolar" (I wouldn't know because I haven't been diagnosed by a professional), also, some have said that they do all the talking and I keep it short. I just don't know how to really express myself to be honest.

 

Other than that I don't know what it is about me that they can't stand. I feel that as a person I am nice. I have also change quite a bit since my last relationship and did go on a date with a girl but she straight out told me that she can't see herself being with me and that she wasn't interested.

 

Sooo... It's time to look deep within yourself and look at what YOU contributed, did, etc within each of these relationships. Because if each of these girls is telling you essentially the same thing at the end, the really hard truth is that the common denominator is you.

 

Time to really look at yourself. I'm sure you have some guesses....

[PugMug]

Sooo... It's time to look deep within yourself and look at what YOU contributed, did, etc within each of these relationships. Because if each of these girls is telling you essentially the same thing at the end, the really hard truth is that the common denominator is you.

 

Time to really look at yourself. I'm sure you have some guesses....

 

 

Thats true. I did look at myself and felt that maybe I just am not meant to find anyone. After going on a date with that one girl, i stopped trying.

[aisuru]

Thats true. I did look at myself and felt that maybe I just am not meant to find anyone. After going on a date with that one girl, i stopped trying.

 

Oh no you don't. You do not get to go into the self pity mode. Well, unless you want to be alone for the rest of your life.

 

If you don't want to be alone for the rest of your life, you'll do some self reflection... And ask us for some pointers. You'll get some great insight around these parts.

 

(nevermind Busted, I guess I'm going to be tough guy tonight. you can play nice guy)

[PugMug]

Oh no you don't. You do not get to go into the self pity mode. Well, unless you want to be alone for the rest of your life.

 

If you don't want to be alone for the rest of your life, you'll do some self reflection... And ask us for some pointers. You'll get some great insight around these parts.

 

(nevermind Busted, I guess I'm going to be tough guy tonight. you can play nice guy)

 

Haha well thank you for that.

 

Ideally I would not want to spend the rest of my life alone. But I just don't know what will happen at this point. Not necessarily looking for pointers... yet.

 

It just did seem odd how all these girls manage to tell me never to bother them again. It really took a toll on me. Makes one feel inadequate once you hear the same thing from different people

[aisuru]

Haha well thank you for that.

 

Ideally I would not want to spend the rest of my life alone. But I just don't know what will happen at this point. Not necessarily looking for pointers... yet.

 

It just did seem odd how all these girls manage to tell me never to bother them again. It really took a toll on me. Makes one feel inadequate once you hear the same thing from different people

 

You have the power to change this. But only when you're ready to look inside yourself and be HONEST with yourself.

 

You deserve that much don't you?