Nervous wreck and meeting HIM for the first time

[SugarAzn]

Okay so I'm going to FL in 2 days. Initially I was going to be staying with an old friend of mine because it's been forever since I've hung out with in person but she hasn't gotten back to me and my college friend I made over here in Cali but she is all the way in Miami while I'm landing in Orlando. So I am GOING NUTS!

 

Me and my SO (19, 24 respectively) have been talking for about 5-6 months. We skype, talk, text frequently. Our schedules are complete opposites as I'm a full time student during the day and he works full time on nights beside Fri,Sat,Sun.

He always freaks out when he misses a skype date and tries to leach off the nearest WiFi connection he can get ( kind of cute and I'm not joking when I say he's running around; he'll call me and we'll stay on the phone until he plops his laptop somewhere to get enough signal for a skype video call )

I feel so comfortable with him and he feels the same way. He's super smart and we get into very interesting, and sometimes deep, conversations. We've gotten to the point where we share our childhood memories, family, pains, and some skeletons we've kept from the majority of the people around us.

 

I know I shouldn't get my hopes up but it feels all too real that its scary.

 

He's going to pick me up at the airport, we'll go eat dinner, get a comedy dvd from redbox at Walmart. We also made plans for the rest of my stay and said if my friend ever got back to me he'd gladly drive me to her place.(Since I'm not legally of age to rent a car) We've talked and established that we're going to take things slow since we both understand and are scared of the "What Ifs". We also agreed not to commit to a LDR until after our meeting/time together IRL but it's clear that we'll both be good friends if things don't work out.

 

**Should I be THIS nervous when we've made clear plans? Is it okay that I stay with him the night I land?

( I didn't expect my friend to go MIA on me ; A;)

**He has tried to fly out here but then his manager didn't allow him the week he requested for his vacation time. He plans on moving out of FL since he has family both in Nor Cal and So Cal.

[Aicha]

u will have a great time! will be amazing! good luck

[clia]

I don't blame you for being scared. You are flying across the country to stay at a stranger's house. I know, I know, you've been skyping and talking to him. Well, you've never met him in person. You may not even like him in person. Although odds are that he isn't a nutjob, you just never know. Ted Bundy came off like a normal guy to a lot of people.

 

If I were you, I'd book a hotel room for at least the first few nights, until you meet him and see what he is like in person. Maybe I'm am over cautious and old, but what you are doing sounds really terrifying to me.

[Aicha]

when i first met my SO we went for dinner it was the best date ever...then 2 months later i flew to him and stayed for the weekend....as long as there is trust and you do background research and they are who they say they are then u shud be fine

[mammasita]

I agree with getting a hotel for, at the very least, the first night. I know you want to trust him and I'm sure you feel like you do......but please err on the side of cautious.

[justwhoiam]

It's difficult to suggest someone you don't know to be fine with meeting some stranger you got to know online and stay at his place for the night...

 

I can say what I would do. I'd book a room in some hotel in an area I want to visit. Arrange a pick up at the airport with the hotel or simply take a taxi from airport to hotel. Ask him to come at the hotel before dinner. I would ask him the name of the restaurant - assuming he made a reservation - and if we can't walk there, because it's too far away, I'd tell the concierge I need a cab at, say, 7 pm and take the cab to the restaurant together with him. I'd have dinner with him, and if I'm enjoying the time with him and he's not bored, I would move to a nearby bar or something, and then take a cab back to the hotel, and say goodnight.

 

Depending on how the first meetup went, I would arrange the second day (be sure you have a plan A and a plan B).

 

I'm assuming he has to work, if he couldn't come visit you. So have things to do for when he's not around. Other things you could do the next days you're there: meet some of his friends, go to the movies, have lunch together, sightsee, have breakfast together, etc.

 

The movie on his couch seems too intimate for me. And if he has his own place, where no one else's around, there might be some awkward moment, or some wrong move from his part. Unless you feel the same way too and feel like getting into some action the first time you meet him.

Edited May 29, 2013 by justwhoiam