Aicha Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 ok so i saw my other half yesterday we had a short amount of time together (a day).... as we were cuddling up i started crying because it was nearly time to be seperated again... i really could not help it as i am very emotional and really tried hard to hold my tears in, they just came out of nowhere! he wasa sweet about it as he is always so sweet. does this happen to anyone else? any guys experienced this with their GF? happened to any women? Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 happened to any women? No, not so far. Link to post Share on other sites
umirano Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 My ex cried, yes. Link to post Share on other sites
cerridwen Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 (edited) ok so i saw my other half yesterday we had a short amount of time together (a day).... as we were cuddling up i started crying because it was nearly time to be seperated again... i really could not help it as i am very emotional and really tried hard to hold my tears in, they just came out of nowhere! he wasa sweet about it as he is always so sweet. does this happen to anyone else? any guys experienced this with their GF? happened to any women? It happens every time. Sometimes are worse than others. I can occasionally keep it together until I'm on the airplane. But he's always sweet and supportive and smooths my hair while I cry against his chest. In the airport, he'll kiss the top of my head and wrap me up in his arms while I sniffle and boo hoo against him. He does it until I stop and doesn't mind the mascara streaks on his shirt. He always waves right before disappearing into the terminal. That's when I head home, red-eyed but loved up, ready to plan the next time we meet. Edited May 29, 2013 by cerridwen 6 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Aicha Posted May 29, 2013 Author Share Posted May 29, 2013 It happens every time. Sometimes are worse than others. I can occasionally keep it together until I'm on the airplane. But he's always sweet and supportive and smooths my hair while I cry against his chest. In the airport, he'll kiss the top of my head and wrap me up in his arms while I sniffle and boo hoo against him. He does it until I stop and doesn't mind the mascara streaks on his shirt. He always waves right before disappearing into the terminal. That's when I head home, red-eyed but loved up, ready to plan the next time we meet. oh yes so sweet!! it is hard having a LDR! Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 I didn't get tearful when saying goodbye until the visit before last, then I cried and he held me and told me he loved me, after 3 years together and growing closer but having no end in sight it got harder, last couple of times we met I felt myself getting grumpy inside as time to say bye got closer, the last time though I didn't get tearful until I had left him and got on the train. Originally I would just feel happy from seeing him, maybe just a tiny bit emotional after he'd gone, but usually felt on a high from seeing him. It just got harder to say goodbye the closer we became. I don't like crying in front of anyone, makes me feel silly and vulnerable, even though it's natural, also didn't want to upset him as he already knew I found the distance hard. ok so i saw my other half yesterday we had a short amount of time together (a day).... as we were cuddling up i started crying because it was nearly time to be seperated again... i really could not help it as i am very emotional and really tried hard to hold my tears in, they just came out of nowhere! he wasa sweet about it as he is always so sweet. does this happen to anyone else? any guys experienced this with their GF? happened to any women? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Aicha Posted May 29, 2013 Author Share Posted May 29, 2013 I didn't get tearful when saying goodbye until the visit before last, then I cried and he held me and told me he loved me, after 3 years together and growing closer but having no end in sight it got harder, last couple of times we met I felt myself getting grumpy inside as time to say bye got closer, the last time though I didn't get tearful until I had left him and got on the train. Originally I would just feel happy from seeing him, maybe just a tiny bit emotional after he'd gone, but usually felt on a high from seeing him. It just got harder to say goodbye the closer we became. I don't like crying in front of anyone, makes me feel silly and vulnerable, even though it's natural, also didn't want to upset him as he already knew I found the distance hard. hi heavenorhell...i see, 3 years is a long time congrats on keeping the LDR going. i really hope mine lasts we have been together a year in a LDR. do you have any advice for me on keeping my LDR last that long? thanks Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 ok so i saw my other half yesterday we had a short amount of time together (a day).... as we were cuddling up i started crying because it was nearly time to be seperated again... i really could not help it as i am very emotional and really tried hard to hold my tears in, they just came out of nowhere! he wasa sweet about it as he is always so sweet. does this happen to anyone else? any guys experienced this with their GF? happened to any women? I hate crying.....i cry when i say goodbye to people i care about ....family friends lovers i have had...i feel pathetic......but people who care about me back understand why i cry.....they also know when i do......i cant stop it from happening.....i try so hard too.....until the dam breaks.......they love me anyway........and i love them back..they hug me i hug them....all is good....i expect to cry..i try not to say goodbye though.....i like....see ya later.......talk to you soon....toodles catch ya...hope you have fun see ya soon.... .and i still freakin cry.....goodbye to me ..... its final........ i never like to say goodbye, its words unspoken in tears i cry, its see you soon, till we meet again, ill miss you i love you my special friend, ill think about you every day and often so the goodbye blow yeah with time it softens please dont ask me to say goodbye, its there unspoken with tears i cry i think it is sometimes easier, to leave me while i sleep, so no swollen eyes or deb left to weep, i wake up and you arent there you are gone, leaves me not to cry and just carry on, so i wont say good bye, ill say see ya soon,and hope time flies, ill leave that word unspoken in tears that i cry..lol....patheticness dr suess style.......deb 2 Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 Communicate as much as you can, be honest with each other, find ways to stay as close to each other as possible, tell each other how you feel, meet up as often as you can, make plans for the future if you can. hi heavenorhell...i see, 3 years is a long time congrats on keeping the LDR going. i really hope mine lasts we have been together a year in a LDR. do you have any advice for me on keeping my LDR last that long? thanks 3 Link to post Share on other sites
pettie Posted May 30, 2013 Share Posted May 30, 2013 It has been, say, easier to manage over the time. This last time I did cry, but it wasn't as bad as it was in previous visits. Guess that seeing how our relationship is getting stronger and progressing, makes me feel more confident about the whole thing and kind of accept the fact that the distance is just something to get through. He is strong as a rock, although I felt that it was particularly hard for him this last time. He was trying very hard to keep it together and managed to do so in front of me. Not sure if this is the same for everyone, but all the goodbye process is probably hardest for the person staying, seeing the other leave, than for the one actually leaving. At least in our case. Link to post Share on other sites
umirano Posted May 31, 2013 Share Posted May 31, 2013 Not sure if this is the same for everyone, but all the goodbye process is probably hardest for the person staying, seeing the other leave, than for the one actually leaving. At least in our case. I feel the same, as someone who likes to be and constantly is on the move. Staying sucks. Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted May 31, 2013 Share Posted May 31, 2013 I think for me it got harder to say goodbye the closer we became because we had no end to the distance, which figures really Our r/ship got stronger, but didn't progress as such as we couldn't move. I think it's harder for the one staying behind as well, the other one has to think about traveling and getting back, the one staying behind will feel the house/apartment is a little empty. Although at times I'd get back from his after traveling for 9 hours and step into my empty house and feel pretty awful. It has been, say, easier to manage over the time. This last time I did cry, but it wasn't as bad as it was in previous visits. Guess that seeing how our relationship is getting stronger and progressing, makes me feel more confident about the whole thing and kind of accept the fact that the distance is just something to get through. He is strong as a rock, although I felt that it was particularly hard for him this last time. He was trying very hard to keep it together and managed to do so in front of me. Not sure if this is the same for everyone, but all the goodbye process is probably hardest for the person staying, seeing the other leave, than for the one actually leaving. At least in our case. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Aicha Posted May 31, 2013 Author Share Posted May 31, 2013 i seem to cry everytime i am alone and depart from my bf..its awful and i dont know if there will be an end to the distance Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted June 1, 2013 Share Posted June 1, 2013 It happens every time. Sometimes are worse than others. I can occasionally keep it together until I'm on the airplane. But he's always sweet and supportive and smooths my hair while I cry against his chest. In the airport, he'll kiss the top of my head and wrap me up in his arms while I sniffle and boo hoo against him. He does it until I stop and doesn't mind the mascara streaks on his shirt. He always waves right before disappearing into the terminal. That's when I head home, red-eyed but loved up, ready to plan the next time we meet. Awww, cerri. I nearly teared up when I read your post. So many bittersweet memories of stupid airports. Awful places. I used to cry every single time, too. It's been almost 3 years since the last time we were LD, but still, every time I go to an airport with him and say goodbye to him at the gate, I subconsciously feel a strange sort of sadness. EVEN if I'm only seeing him off for a couple of days or such. Odd how subconscious reactions stay with you for so long. Link to post Share on other sites
LittleTiger Posted June 1, 2013 Share Posted June 1, 2013 I used to cry buckets every time we separated. I mean literally sobbing so much I couldn't see properly to fill in the departure card (if it was me leaving him). I know he hates to see me cry and he always did his best to console me but, once my emotions kick in, I can be a bit of a nightmare! However.......I've definitely become much less emotional the longer we've been together. Last time I left him I started to get a bit tearful while we were hugging and he just looked me in the eyes and said 'don't cry LT......I don't want you to cry', so I didn't. Just because he asked me not to, I felt calmer and was able to keep it under control. He has that effect on me these days. I think maybe as we've grown closer over the years and our relationship has become more stable, we've also become more 'in-tune' with one another's emotions. We're both very 'passionate' and tend to have strong reactions to outside events - especially things we can't control. So, if he notices I'm starting to spiral a bit, he'll reign me in, and I do the same with him. That said, I've never seen any tears at the airport from him! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted June 2, 2013 Share Posted June 2, 2013 You've only met him once in a year, according to another post. I am assuming you skype for sex. Sounds like he is looking for a mistress. Link to post Share on other sites
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