letmoc Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 I have been lurking here for a long time and reading some of your stories has really helped me. I have been involved with a committed man for about a year now. I have never been in a situation like this so everything has been new to me. It was supposed to be just FWB at first but we all know how that goes. We fell for each other and now it is very difficult. The main reason he was reluctant to leave at first was financial. But we talked about it and he gave me the impression that he was working on a way out. So I tried to be patient but I think by doing that he relaxed and didn't seem committed to making a real plan anymore. So today I told him not to contact me until he is gone and I blocked him (because he knows where to find me). I really feel like this is the only thing I can do at this point. I'm not sure if I have a question..........just needed to vent. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Goodbye Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 I think you did the right thing. You've let him know where you want to go with the relationship and until he is able to provide that, you can go on with your life. Easier said than done, so I know. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author letmoc Posted May 29, 2013 Author Share Posted May 29, 2013 Thank you. I guess my biggest fear is never hearing from him again, but I could not go on like we were. It was making me crazy. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Praying4Peace Posted May 30, 2013 Share Posted May 30, 2013 Thank you. I guess my biggest fear is never hearing from him again, but I could not go on like we were. It was making me crazy. Let that be his biggest fear too. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Author letmoc Posted May 30, 2013 Author Share Posted May 30, 2013 Praying 4 Peace that was the comment of the night. On that note I am going to bed before anybody has a chance to ruin it lol. Seriously I appreciate that. This situation has really made me doubt myself so much and I think that is the worst part. Link to post Share on other sites
Author letmoc Posted May 30, 2013 Author Share Posted May 30, 2013 Thank you. I wish I could pretend I did this because i'm brave, strong, etc. But honestly it was becoming so exhausting the secrets and lies. So I am taking this time to get myself back. I still love hime dearly but I guess I love myself more. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted May 30, 2013 Share Posted May 30, 2013 Some people can stay in an affair for years and be okay with it, most can't. This guy isn't leaving his partner so you've done the right thing for yourself, though I'm sure you're hurting. Today is the start of your new life - Sadly it'll be crying and grieving the loss for a while but once you start to feel better you'll see you made the right decision. To be second fiddle when you want more isn't good for you, so congrats on walking away and for blocking him! That shows you're making it impossible for him to contact you on all levels. Link to post Share on other sites
Lillyfree Posted May 30, 2013 Share Posted May 30, 2013 welcome even though i know you're hurting right now, and will be for a while... i am so glad that you thought more of yourself than to be someone's bit on the side. be proud of that! Link to post Share on other sites
Author letmoc Posted May 30, 2013 Author Share Posted May 30, 2013 Thank you all for your support. I am a little down today but I have to admit that blocking him helped a little because I am not looking at my phone all day, and I am not hoping every text is him. I know I have a tough road ahead but I wasn't exactly happy before. Link to post Share on other sites
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