It's been a full year.

[loveletters]

I last posted in here about a year ago. As I read back on my old posts describing every little detail of MM and I, I can't help but feel so disappointed in myself, yet PROUD of how far I've come! I was so torn & heartbroken over my (coworker) & MM, how things ended & how he didn't care. We were together for 8 months.

 

I spent all of last year being friendly towards him at work, ignoring him, yet longing for his love & affection which I knew I'd never get. It took me a YEAR to completely lose feelings for him. I quit the job we were both working at & I haven't seen or spoken to him in 2 months. It's a strange feeling, knowing that I'm over him & I only stayed with that company because of him.

 

But I have learned SO MUCH from that heartbreak, something I had never felt before.

 

I've become stronger & definitely wiser. From 23 to 25, I look back on my past with him & feel repulsed by it.... I knew better, but I was so naive to fall into such a trap.

 

I am now happily involved with someone who is actually 2 years younger than me. I feel so much for this guy, he took away every ounce of heartbreak I've ever felt. He took away the pain I was dwelling on for over a year, & he made me feel as if I could love again..... Now THIS is definitely love.

[Goodbye]

Thank you for posting that. It is good to read stuff about making it "to the other side." I'm happy for you.

[Praying4Peace]

Great post!!!!

 

Good luck in your relationship! I am so glad you know now what love is and how you won't settle ever again!

 

There is something so odd about hearing a BS say that, but i guess it depends on the story.

[Lillyfree]

There is something so odd about hearing a BS say that, but i guess it depends on the story.

 

i don't think it's odd. not settling should be a major rule for any relationship.

[skywriter]

I last posted in here about a year ago. As I read back on my old posts describing every little detail of MM and I, I can't help but feel so disappointed in myself, yet PROUD of how far I've come! I was so torn & heartbroken over my (coworker) & MM, how things ended & how he didn't care. We were together for 8 months.

 

I spent all of last year being friendly towards him at work, ignoring him, yet longing for his love & affection which I knew I'd never get. It took me a YEAR to completely lose feelings for him. I quit the job we were both working at & I haven't seen or spoken to him in 2 months. It's a strange feeling, knowing that I'm over him & I only stayed with that company because of him.

 

But I have learned SO MUCH from that heartbreak, something I had never felt before.

 

I've become stronger & definitely wiser. From 23 to 25, I look back on my past with him & feel repulsed by it.... I knew better, but I was so naive to fall into such a trap.

 

I am now happily involved with someone who is actually 2 years younger than me. I feel so much for this guy, he took away every ounce of heartbreak I've ever felt. He took away the pain I was dwelling on for over a year, & he made me feel as if I could love again..... Now THIS is definitely love.

 

 

Hi loveletters,

 

Thanks for coming back to inspire others. You, like myself have made it to the other side of the A.

 

I agree wih your description of being naive and falling into the perverbial trap. I'm forty-nine years young and fell into stupid too.

 

In my mind, it took being out of the A for some time, to open my eyes.

 

It's damn near impossible to give anyone else the chance with you if you're in an A. So dating other people while being involved with a commited person, telling yourself , "I got this", is not necessarily so.

 

I'm where you are now and it feels so much like right, that I'm anxious for the other men and women that post here to get here. So, thanks for sharing and best wishes to you.