Rosey03 Posted May 30, 2013 Share Posted May 30, 2013 My boyfriend moved to Ohio in March to live with his friend and work. We have been going out for 10 months, 3 so far being LDR. He recently graduated college and was looking for a way to live on his own (without living with his parents) and make $. He told me his plan was to move back this summer, but now, I'm scared that he wont be able to do it. He recently told me that in addition to paying rent and stuff, he now has college loans to pay off. I love him so much, and i really dont want to break up. I just dont know how to deal with this distance. its killing me. I want him here so bad. Im sad and depressed all the time because he isnt here. I have had the opportunity to visit him twice in Ohio, which was sooo good. I was so happy. He wants to come home but cant afford it and also doesnt want to live back home with his parents. I really dont know how to deal with the distance. Its been almost 3 months since his move, and I still miss him so much everyday. It doesnt make matters worse that I still have two years left of college, so there isnt really anything I can do to help this situation. I feel a little selfish that I want him to move back home,(even though he is dying too, he wants to but cant afford it) i even told him to live with his parents but he refuses. I really need to work on having a better LDR and how to be happier, because of this situation. What are some ways to cope and feel better?? Also, what do you people in LDR to keep your relationship alive? How do i cope with being in college still and having a BF out of college? Link to post Share on other sites
CherryT Posted May 30, 2013 Share Posted May 30, 2013 While I'm not in college, the biggest thing for us is not dwelling. We know this is temporary so there's a light at the end of the tunnel. The fact that you've been able to visit twice in 3 months is better than a lot of people here. LDR is not for everyone. You have to be willing to put up with it because the person you're with is worth it. Set up time to Skype or video chat and keep the communication consistent. Plan times to visit and support him. He's in a position like many of us, we want to be close to our SO but at this point in time he can't. Try not to be absorbed in the negative. Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted May 31, 2013 Share Posted May 31, 2013 Hi Rosey, How often do you get in touch with him? How much time does he make up for you and your relationship? How do you communicate? (Phone? Skype? FB? Snail mail?) Does he do anything to alleviate your pain? Please answer all the questions above, because it's difficult to suggest anything without having information about your situation. Link to post Share on other sites
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