Day 11 of Ex's Unresponsive Behaviour/No Contact

[lailax3]

I guess this is an update for me, makes me feel better seeing things in writing.

 

So, as the title states, he's unresponsive and being silent.

 

Broke up indirectly over whatsapp, blocked me & disappeared.

I text on Day 1, & emailed Day 2. Neither of these iniations were begging/pleading. The email was about a job in his city which he already knew about.

 

Day 7 he unblocked me on whatsapp, twice, and reblocked. Without saying anything.

He could see images and statuses without needing to unblock.

 

So now on day 11, I feel a lot better. I've kinda accepted he's gone. If he cared for me the way he would say he did, he wouldn't have left me like this.

 

I say kinda, because every morning I do check my call log to see if he's called.

 

I haven't cried over him/for him since Day 5.

 

Things to do better as time goes on. I do think about him, I'm not 100% over him but I've definitely made progress.

 

[JadedRomantic]

That's good. There will be good days and there will still be bad days, but as someone going on 2 months after BU .... it does get better. I still miss him too, but it's become easier to totally focus on my and what I need to get done. It's hard but also ... 11 days isn't that long. It feels like EEEOOONNNSSS to us, but for the dumper, it's barely a week and a half. They say it takes at least a few months for the dumper to transition from relief and feelings of freedom, to regret and doubt and mussing you.

 

Keep up the NC. It's really hard sometimes, but it does help to read these forums and stories and not have to just sit there in your own thoughts. Just a heads up tho ... he will most likely call you after a month or so. Some people say don't answer or reply, some people say keep it LC. I answer but not right away and I keep it very short and nice, but detached as well.

 

Good luck. =)

[lailax3]

That's good. There will be good days and there will still be bad days, but as someone going on 2 months after BU .... it does get better. I still miss him too, but it's become easier to totally focus on my and what I need to get done. It's hard but also ... 11 days isn't that long. It feels like EEEOOONNNSSS to us, but for the dumper, it's barely a week and a half. They say it takes at least a few months for the dumper to transition from relief and feelings of freedom, to regret and doubt and mussing you.

 

Keep up the NC. It's really hard sometimes, but it does help to read these forums and stories and not have to just sit there in your own thoughts. Just a heads up tho ... he will most likely call you after a month or so. Some people say don't answer or reply, some people say keep it LC. I answer but not right away and I keep it very short and nice, but detached as well.

 

Good luck. =)

 

Thanks for replying. I'm keeping NC and I don't think of him as much.

However I was deleting open convos on whatsapp, and his was right at the bottom.

So I opened the chat to delete and I noticed I had been unblocked.

Quite taken back, so I left the chat without deleting it.

 

Today on Day 13 of his silent treatment, I checked again, and I was still unblocked.

 

I'm not feeling any type of way about it. I'm not even waiting or expecting him to contact me.

I wondered why he unblocked me but ultimately it doesn't mean anything as he's not reached out to me.

 

Unblocking just to see my images is silly because he could still see them by keeping me blocked.

 

I have no intentions to contact him. His loss.