latergater Posted May 30, 2013 Share Posted May 30, 2013 I received two emails from my ex MM today after a month of N/C. He blocked his number when his wife found out about our A, and dumped me like i was nothing. No word since. Today I received an email from him with no content (from his work email) and then another a few minutes ago. I wrote back and said "you better cut this **** out." He replied a few minutes ago saying it was not him who was sending me spam, said he was traveling. Literally, wrote three words. I feel like I'm back to square 1. I miss him, am crying, and can barely finish my day of work. Just needed to write .. Link to post Share on other sites
ScarlettKaren Posted May 30, 2013 Share Posted May 30, 2013 I'm so sorry. I am just past 8 weeks NC and that would have sent me blubbering as well. Any little hint of him still reopens whatever scab has formed. It seems every couple of weeks I get something similar. No intentional contact from Either of us, but something that puts his name or face in front of me. It just hurts and rips apart whatever I seem to have accomplished. All I can say is that 8 weeks out, I come back to numb pain faster than I did before. It will get better. The set backs will be shorter. Hang in there. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
weedsandposies Posted May 30, 2013 Share Posted May 30, 2013 Spam yeah right! My POS xOmm did the *spam* thing once ... They need to man up! The setback even after just these crumbs is why i want mine to maintain NC. Don't respond it will only feed his ego...to see any reaction from you. Link to post Share on other sites
Goodbye Posted May 31, 2013 Share Posted May 31, 2013 I received two emails from my ex MM today after a month of N/C. He blocked his number when his wife found out about our A, and dumped me like i was nothing. No word since. Today I received an email from him with no content (from his work email) and then another a few minutes ago. I wrote back and said "you better cut this **** out." He replied a few minutes ago saying it was not him who was sending me spam, said he was traveling. Literally, wrote three words. I feel like I'm back to square 1. I miss him, am crying, and can barely finish my day of work. Just needed to write .. You know that was complete bull, yes? I'm sure he was waiting to see how you would respond to contact, and when it was negatively, he claimed spam. I'm sorry you are sad again. I don't think you are back to square one though, each time it gets a little easier. Were you hoping he'd respond differently? Just curious. Hang in there. Link to post Share on other sites
chaser0195 Posted May 31, 2013 Share Posted May 31, 2013 Check the properties of the email and see what email address it was sent from. yep I was just thinking the same thing. he coulda been hacked 1 Link to post Share on other sites
DelusionalOne Posted May 31, 2013 Share Posted May 31, 2013 Wow.... hacked... twice.... what a coincidence. hmmmmm..... Nope. Still not buying it. They were deliberate. But I will happily admit I am wrong if the properties say something different. But just in case they were deliberate "accidents".... do not engage. Do not respond. Treat them like the spam he says they are. Link to post Share on other sites
AussieLady Posted May 31, 2013 Share Posted May 31, 2013 It just hurts and rips apart whatever I seem to have accomplished. All I can say is that 8 weeks out, I come back to numb pain faster than I did before. It will get better. The set backs will be shorter. Hang in there. This is why I am glad I found this site. It helps to know what I am going through is normal in these crappy situations and the support and encouragement from others is so valuable. I made it to Day 6 of no contact and then I got a phone call from OM, which I didn't answer because I was working. He doesn't normally phone, it is usually text, so I thought something was wrong and texted back that I couldn't talk. I shouldn't have responded - I wish I hadn't responded, but just seeing his number sent that excitement through me again (despite the fact I have been trying so hard to focus on my marriage). So now I have more of the 'I need you in my arms' messages. More guilt, more pain.....lets hope it does get better. Link to post Share on other sites
BrokenPrincess Posted May 31, 2013 Share Posted May 31, 2013 He is claiming he got spammed and it sent a BLANK email to you? Huh?? No subject line either? And how did he explain himself in 3 words? Like: "Not me. Traveling" ? Sorry am I complete slow tonight or does this make no sense? What kind of spam sends a blank email?? Sounds like complete bull to me... Link to post Share on other sites
metal_chick Posted May 31, 2013 Share Posted May 31, 2013 (edited) Wow.... hacked... twice.... what a coincidence. hmmmmm..... Nope. Still not buying it. They were deliberate. But I will happily admit I am wrong if the properties say something different. But just in case they were deliberate "accidents".... do not engage. Do not respond. Treat them like the spam he says they are. My webmail got hacked once and sent a bunch of messages with no content in the body to everyone in my address book. I got a random password generator database after that. I don't even know my passwords anymore. Add the emails to Spam, then they'll never be seen again... Edited May 31, 2013 by metal_chick Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted May 31, 2013 Share Posted May 31, 2013 I received two emails from my ex MM today after a month of N/C. He blocked his number when his wife found out about our A, and dumped me like i was nothing. No word since. Today I received an email from him with no content (from his work email) and then another a few minutes ago. I wrote back and said "you better cut this **** out." He replied a few minutes ago saying it was not him who was sending me spam, said he was traveling. Literally, wrote three words. I feel like I'm back to square 1. I miss him, am crying, and can barely finish my day of work. Just needed to write .. Tell him to TAKE YOU OFF his contact list asap. Or better yet, block his email this way you don't have to deal with him anymore. Sorry that you're hurting. Link to post Share on other sites
Lillyfree Posted May 31, 2013 Share Posted May 31, 2013 when i blocked OM, i deleted him from contacts as well... i wasn't going to change my email for anyone, same for the phone number. he should have done the same. why are you still in his contact list :/ since you can't do anything about that, make sure that things are tidy at your end and you can't receive anything from him... whichever way you can accomplish that. and i wouldn't read too much into it. i'm sorry that this has stirred things up for you - dust yourself off and keep going. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author latergater Posted May 31, 2013 Author Share Posted May 31, 2013 (edited) You know that was complete bull, yes? I'm sure he was waiting to see how you would respond to contact, and when it was negatively, he claimed spam. I'm sorry you are sad again. I don't think you are back to square one though, each time it gets a little easier. Were you hoping he'd respond differently? Just curious. Hang in there. Well, I assumed he would say something like sorry, it wasn't me. I have been thinking of you. Are you still alive? But he just wrote back saying he was also receiving spam and it was not him sending it my way. The closing statement? Traveling. So warm and fuzzy, isnt it (the email came from HIS work email address to mine and i work for a large tech company so I can't change my email). I was expecting something along the lines of "how are you." Probably too much to ask though. I responded to the email because honestly .. I couldn't contain myself. I wrote back "It was probably one of your whores. Now leave me the F_ alone. Got it?" Two hours later he replied. Once again he indicated he did not send spam my way and told me he did not appreciate me "speaking to him in this manner." I did not reply to that email. What's the purpose? Edited May 31, 2013 by latergater Link to post Share on other sites
DelusionalOne Posted May 31, 2013 Share Posted May 31, 2013 My webmail got hacked once and sent a bunch of messages with no content in the body to everyone in my address book. I got a random password generator database after that. I don't even know my passwords anymore. Add the emails to Spam, then they'll never be seen again... Yeah, mine to, once. But his work email address? Twice? My company would be all over that like a rash! Usually they know when I have something on my computer before I do! Link to post Share on other sites
Author latergater Posted May 31, 2013 Author Share Posted May 31, 2013 Yeah, mine to, once. But his work email address? Twice? My company would be all over that like a rash! Usually they know when I have something on my computer before I do! I work for a self service company as in you service your own technical related issues. Yes, there is such a thing within some VERY large companies -- they cannot even manage their own. No joke. I think i should send him flowers. Roses. What do you think? Maybe some candy to go along with it? KIDDING! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
DelusionalOne Posted May 31, 2013 Share Posted May 31, 2013 I work for a self service company as in you service your own technical related issues. Yes, there is such a thing within some VERY large companies -- they cannot even manage their own. No joke. I think i should send him flowers. Roses. What do you think? Maybe some candy to go along with it? KIDDING! LOL... no no. Dandelions and some leftover halloween candy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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