Author somedude81 Posted June 5, 2013 Author Share Posted June 5, 2013 Oh yes, the pre-date cleaning frenzy. Every time I experience that, I think, "Man, I gotta do a better job of keeping this place date-ready." Make sure you have clean sheets and a pristine bathroom. Take any awkward stuff out of your medicine cabinet too. Sounds like a good time. Looking forward to the update! Why should I have to make sure my sheets are clean? Oh! Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted June 5, 2013 Share Posted June 5, 2013 Why should I have to make sure my sheets are clean? Oh! Clean them TODAY so they're not perfectly fresh tomorrow when she gets there. You don't want to make it tooooo obvious that it was done for her. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted June 5, 2013 Share Posted June 5, 2013 OMG I have postponed dates because my place wasn't clean enough I usually spend around 5 hours cleaning just to make my place date ready. Unfortunately, I need to focus on lot of areas: living room where we first chill, watch TV, have a drink. Bedroom for obvious reasons. Two bathrooms because you never know which one he will use. I also need to get rid of anything embarrassing (books, movies, medicines).. and to top it all off, I need to log out as myself and log in as a guest user just in case he asks to check his email on my computer or something... I certainly wouldn't want him seeing my LS threads 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted June 5, 2013 Share Posted June 5, 2013 OMG I have postponed dates because my place wasn't clean enough I usually spend around 5 hours cleaning just to make my place date ready. Unfortunately, I need to focus on lot of areas: living room where we first chill, watch TV, have a drink. Bedroom for obvious reasons. Two bathrooms because you never know which one he will use. I also need to get rid of anything embarrassing (books, movies, medicines).. and to top it all off, I need to log out as myself and log in as a guest user just in case he asks to check his email on my computer or something... I certainly wouldn't want him seeing my LS threads Bahahahaha! I could have written this myself!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted June 5, 2013 Author Share Posted June 5, 2013 So we've been dancing around the idea of sex for a while and I've subtlety let her know that it's on my mind over various exchanges. Last night she found a lost cat and we had this conversation. Her: I found a cat on my walk Me: Ahh, a kitty? Did you take it home? Her: The shelter is closed for the night Her: So yes he's spending the night with me Me: Lucky kitty =^..^= Her: Somebody's jealous Her: Lol Me: Yeah. Me: I don't get to sleep with a kitty. Her: Lololol -------- Good sign? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted June 5, 2013 Share Posted June 5, 2013 So we've been dancing around the idea of sex for a while and I've subtlety let her know that it's on my mind over various exchanges. Last night she found a lost cat and we had this conversation. Her: I found a cat on my walk Me: Ahh, a kitty? Did you take it home? Her: The shelter is closed for the night Her: So yes he's spending the night with me Me: Lucky kitty =^..^= Her: Somebody's jealous Her: Lol Me: Yeah. Me: I don't get to sleep with a kitty. Her: Lololol -------- Good sign? Yes, good sign. Good flirting too, SD! You are really funny. Can't wait to hear the update. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
KungFuJoe Posted June 5, 2013 Share Posted June 5, 2013 So we've been dancing around the idea of sex for a while and I've subtlety let her know that it's on my mind over various exchanges. Last night she found a lost cat and we had this conversation. Her: I found a cat on my walk Me: Ahh, a kitty? Did you take it home? Her: The shelter is closed for the night Her: So yes he's spending the night with me Me: Lucky kitty =^..^= Her: Somebody's jealous Her: Lol Me: Yeah. Me: I don't get to sleep with a kitty. Her: Lololol -------- Good sign? Careful with sexual innuendo. If not done with utmost tact, can come off as extremely creepy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted June 5, 2013 Author Share Posted June 5, 2013 Yes, good sign. Good flirting too, SD! You are really funny. Can't wait to hear the update. Why thank you Careful with sexual innuendo. If not done with utmost tact, can come off as extremely creepy. Dude, she's the one who started it. I was being much more innocent about it than she was... Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted June 5, 2013 Share Posted June 5, 2013 Careful with sexual innuendo. If not done with utmost tact, can come off as extremely creepy. True, but she already likes him. So unless he REALLY goes overboard or says something offensive, I'd just keep going with it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted June 5, 2013 Author Share Posted June 5, 2013 True, but she already likes him. So unless he REALLY goes overboard or says something offensive, I'd just keep going with it. And I've been doing this for a while now. If I go too far she stops me, but the vast majority of the time she cracks up. She's definitely not the type of person to keep quite when she's annoyed. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted June 5, 2013 Share Posted June 5, 2013 I don't think she started the innuendo, but I don't think you went too far either. Perfect. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SJC2008 Posted June 5, 2013 Share Posted June 5, 2013 Careful with sexual innuendo. If not done with utmost tact, can come off as extremely creepy. Can anyone win on this forum? "Be Bold" now he's bold and now it's 'Be carefeful not to come off as creepy'. I'm not saying you told him to be bold btw but jeez Louise. That was a great exchange by the both of them. Light, nothing OTT IMO. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SJC2008 Posted June 5, 2013 Share Posted June 5, 2013 Oh yes, the pre-date cleaning frenzy. Every time I experience that, I think, "Man, I gotta do a better job of keeping this place date-ready." Make sure you have clean sheets and a pristine bathroom. Take any awkward stuff out of your medicine cabinet too. Sounds like a good time. Looking forward to the update! Seinfield fan are we SG? Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted June 5, 2013 Author Share Posted June 5, 2013 Can anyone win on this forum? "Be Bold" now he's bold and now it's 'Be carefeful not to come off as creepy'. I'm not saying you told him to be bold btw but jeez Louise. That was a great exchange by the both of them. Light, nothing OTT IMO. Yup, for the longest time, the most common advice given to me was "Be Bold" And here I am being bold. Speaking of OTT and advice to be bold, cerridwen where are you?! Are you reading my threads? Link to post Share on other sites
KungFuJoe Posted June 5, 2013 Share Posted June 5, 2013 Can anyone win on this forum? "Be Bold" now he's bold and now it's 'Be carefeful not to come off as creepy'. I'm not saying you told him to be bold btw but jeez Louise. That was a great exchange by the both of them. Light, nothing OTT IMO. I didn't say he did anything wrong with that exchange. I'm just saying to be careful in general to not take it too far. Not to sound boastful but I'm very good at reading people...and also text conversations (even with the lack of tone). In my opinion (for what it's worth), since we are on the subject, I would say somedude is right on the edge of what's acceptable in that last exchange. The "lololol" in response to the "kitty" comment sd made was her way of cutting it short. Not saying she was offended, but I think she was done with where it was leading. Otherwise she would have continued the back and forth. Again, just my opinion and I fully admit that, having never met the girl, I could be completely wrong about what she's into. But, I also read her correctly in the email exchange where she told sd she was newly single, so I would so far, I'm doing a pretty good job. Link to post Share on other sites
ThaWholigan Posted June 5, 2013 Share Posted June 5, 2013 So we've been dancing around the idea of sex for a while and I've subtlety let her know that it's on my mind over various exchanges. Last night she found a lost cat and we had this conversation. Her: I found a cat on my walk Me: Ahh, a kitty? Did you take it home? Her: The shelter is closed for the night Her: So yes he's spending the night with me Me: Lucky kitty =^..^= Her: Somebody's jealous Her: Lol Me: Yeah. Me: I don't get to sleep with a kitty. Her: Lololol -------- Good sign? You're getting good at this . 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted June 5, 2013 Author Share Posted June 5, 2013 I didn't say he did anything wrong with that exchange. I'm just saying to be careful in general to not take it too far. Not to sound boastful but I'm very good at reading people...and also text conversations (even with the lack of tone). In my opinion (for what it's worth), since we are on the subject, I would say somedude is right on the edge of what's acceptable in that last exchange. The "lololol" in response to the "kitty" comment sd made was her way of cutting it short. Not saying she was offended, but I think she was done with where it was leading. Otherwise she would have continued the back and forth. Again, just my opinion and I fully admit that, having never met the girl, I could be completely wrong about what she's into. But, I also read her correctly in the email exchange where she told sd she was newly single, so I would so far, I'm doing a pretty good job. Actually, I thought it was done at that point and changed the subject to something else. The joke had been spent and I knew that it was time to move on. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
KungFuJoe Posted June 5, 2013 Share Posted June 5, 2013 Actually, I thought it was done at that point and changed the subject to something else. The joke had been spent and I knew that it was time to move on. Good. For the record, I think you are being very poised and smooth with the way you are handling things. For what it's worth, even though you lack experience, it doesn't show at all. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted June 5, 2013 Author Share Posted June 5, 2013 Good. For the record, I think you are being very poised and smooth with the way you are handling things. For what it's worth, even though you lack experience, it doesn't show at all. Hah, thanks. Though I'm afraid it will become very apparent if things get to the physical level. She doesn't know anything about my inexperience and I have no idea what she thinks. So yeah, I'm nervous about a few things. Link to post Share on other sites
TheBigQuestion Posted June 5, 2013 Share Posted June 5, 2013 Hah, thanks. Though I'm afraid it will become very apparent if things get to the physical level. She doesn't know anything about my inexperience and I have no idea what she thinks. So yeah, I'm nervous about a few things. I wouldn't concern myself with that too much. Remember that many guys are very sexually experienced yet, to a particular woman, they might actually not be their cup of tea. Also, keep in mind that the girl you're seeing is 20 years old. If you're going by experience alone, chances are she isn't exactly going to blow you away (heheh, blow) either. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted June 5, 2013 Share Posted June 5, 2013 I wouldn't worry about that either. If this is a normally progressing relationship, you'll make out a few times, then slowly ramp it up to the whole deal. So you will have some experience with her reactions, how to touch her, etc. before you get to that point. It's not like tomorrow night, she's gonna rip off her clothes and say "Take me now, somedude!!!!" Of course, if she does, just go with it and don't focus on fears. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SJC2008 Posted June 5, 2013 Share Posted June 5, 2013 Hah, thanks. Though I'm afraid it will become very apparent if things get to the physical level. She doesn't know anything about my inexperience and I have no idea what she thinks. So yeah, I'm nervous about a few things. The absoloute best advice I could give you regarding this is to not think about sleeping with her and just let it happen. As cliche as it sounds that's how it happened with me the last time I had sex. I was 5 dates in with a woman about 6 months ago and wanted to ramp things up physically. I didn't plan on sex but was thinking of at least trying to get some boobie action! I had no idea on how I was going to make it happen so I didn't worry about. Long story short we started making out and I eventually went for the boobs and she did the saving face "hey" (she needs to work on her acting skills I read right through it lol) so we kept making out. Well she started to get hot and started to moan, that was my cue and the rest was history. I guarentee you she has no idea that was my second time having sex. I do admit we were in a place that made it hard to have sex so that helped to not blow my cover but the main point is that if you're in the moment, you'll know what the cue is if you get it! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SJC2008 Posted June 5, 2013 Share Posted June 5, 2013 Yes the good old hey when you grab their breasts but you know they're loving it. lol I still have scars on my wrists. Dam cop! Did he really have to cuff me so tight! Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted June 5, 2013 Author Share Posted June 5, 2013 Arg! Nervous. Almost done cleaning. Sheets are nice and fresh. I really don't care if we don't sleep together tomorrow. I'll be happy as long as I can grab some boobs. Link to post Share on other sites
Phantom888 Posted June 5, 2013 Share Posted June 5, 2013 try to suck on her boobs if she lets you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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