metal_chick Posted June 1, 2013 Share Posted June 1, 2013 I do believe that sometimes when a couple breaks up. They realize what they truly had. And when they do get back together the relationship Is much stronger. I think you think you're part of this very elite group. And I don't know you or her, so I can't say for sure. What I can say though, is THINKING that you are, is very damaging to the psyche. Far more damaging than thinking they're gone forever. Link to post Share on other sites
marko343 Posted June 1, 2013 Share Posted June 1, 2013 Yes. My ex broke with me, I did just over a month of no contact. She re-added me on Facebook and we started talking again. It wasnt one way, I made the effort to organise our first date. We dated for two more years, don't have any regrets. We had some fantastic times. The reason we split again was because she moved away to university and it became extremely difficult. Link to post Share on other sites
Larry56 Posted June 1, 2013 Share Posted June 1, 2013 There is some AWFUL advice on this thread coming mainly from "men" who don't understand what attraction is and how to project it. I laugh especially at the "if she left you why would you want her back". Oh so needy sounding and just demonstrates to me that some people in this forum REALLY don't know what females are attracted to. No it isn't money and it isn't star-gazing good looks. Those are just bonuses. Doesn't matter if you were a great boyfriend and wonderful to her. That's not what makes someone attractive. Are you better than the next boyfriends she might have. Sure maybe. But like I said it doesn't matter how many times you took her out for dinner, or bought her roses or whatever cliche boyfriend manual states. Women aren't interested in those things if they are coming for no reason. Is she thinking of you? Maybe. Is there a way to get her back. Yes! if you are solution orientated. First of all you actually have to communicate to her like it was in the beginning when you were courting her. If you *say* the *right* things and don't concern yourself with end goal you have a chance. Link to post Share on other sites
flitzanu Posted June 2, 2013 Share Posted June 2, 2013 Bro im not asking it in different ways i just like to see what people have to say and their stories and opinions on different factors....clearly i know urs because you have commented on my other posts. And i never said she dumped me to go bang other guys that makes no sense u clearly have no idea of the dynamics of our relationship which is different for everyone. And thats also not true at all just cause a girl is banging other guys while not with u doesnt mean she isnt thinking about you. Whether she acts on those thoughts is a different story. you really typed this? just because your ex is getting every hole filled by other guys doesn't mean that she isn't thinking about you? and yes, sorry to break the news, but if a girl is dumping you, it's because she wants to see (and bang) other guys. life REALLY is that simple sometimes. the question is, if she ever did come back, do you want to be her standby after she's had her fill (figuratively and literally) of other guys and none worked out so she comes back to you? Link to post Share on other sites
FebruaryAmor Posted June 3, 2013 Share Posted June 3, 2013 ive been a dumper and did NC for 3 months until he texted me back and i gave it another shot.. now we r breaking up again and probably for good (check my post i made about this "r we broken up?) Link to post Share on other sites
BC1980 Posted June 3, 2013 Share Posted June 3, 2013 (edited) Some come back, but, unless you recognize the problems and work through them, you end up in the same mess as before. Both people have to be willing to make it work. I dumped my college boyfriend over lifestyle differences and trust issues. I loved him dearly, but I could see no future. I just couldn't stand his lifestyle and the laziness related to it. I remember him calling me months later and just having no inclination to pick up the phone. It all depends on why you broke up in the first place. He was unwilling to change, and I couldn't accept him the way he was. We were just too different in the end. Yes, we could have gotten back together, but it would have ended the same because neither of us had changed. Edited June 3, 2013 by BC1980 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author blacklavender Posted June 3, 2013 Author Share Posted June 3, 2013 you really typed this? just because your ex is getting every hole filled by other guys doesn't mean that she isn't thinking about you? and yes, sorry to break the news, but if a girl is dumping you, it's because she wants to see (and bang) other guys. life REALLY is that simple sometimes. the question is, if she ever did come back, do you want to be her standby after she's had her fill (figuratively and literally) of other guys and none worked out so she comes back to you? yea i did type it just because a girl has sex with other guys does not mean after she stops thinking about you its not the same for everyone. im not saying that she will come back but yes i agree with you when u dump someone u obviously think there is something better out there but the way you make it sound u make her out to be a $lut and shes not shes just never been single in her life and that feeling of wondering "what else is out there" probably weighed a heavy toll on why the break up happened. sucks for me tho cause i really was a good boyfriend. Link to post Share on other sites
Dante311 Posted June 3, 2013 Share Posted June 3, 2013 I was just semi-dumped.. and i'm keeping a semi-no contact. it depends how much they actually loved you and how you ended... right now, I'm walking a thin line with my gf, wanting to make her fall in love with me again. I don't want to blow this! Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted June 3, 2013 Share Posted June 3, 2013 Just think...in six months from now, you are gong to laugh abouut how silly it was to worry about it.. I wont give you any canned advice...youve heard it all before...They are just women...They are not Aphrodite or Wonder Woman... Just do whatever you need to do to process it.."Fake it til you make it" Youll get there.. TFY 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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