Have you heard MM or MW talking to spouse?

[cocorico]

But...that's NOT the point of this thread.

 

The point of this thread was to discuss whether or not...during the affair...you were present when the MM/MW held conversation/interacted with their betrayed spouse.

 

I believe HA was attempting to point out that complaints of interaction with a divorced spouse interferes with your current marriage is more similar to the affair and the previous marriage, as opposed to having anything to do with the original point of this thread.

 

The point of the thread was to discuss incidents during the A, which I did, so speculation about interactions of divorced spouses would certainly be off topic, ie not my post, bit those responses to it.

[HopingAgain]

Nope, not even remotely close. I did not intrude into her life, nor into "her" H's (my SO's) since I was in his life by invitation.

 

Its exactly the same. She was also in his life by invitation, he did marry her. That's the ultimate invite. And in the same way you felt she intruded into your life, you intruded into hers. It may help your interactions going forward to realize you do share these similarities in common.

[Robert]

Let's keep the topic of the thread in mind when posting, thanks

[cocorico]

Also, I once (yes, during the A) heard her "speaking" to him while I was on the phone to him. She was screaming and shouting, pretty abusively, becoming hysterical when he told her he was busy, he went out into the garden to get some peace to finish the conversation and even there I could still hear her in the background. I could have probably heard her even without the telephone, mind you.

 

Yes, he felt uncomfortable. No, there was no loving exchange between them, though between us there was as usual. How I felt about it - sorry for the neighbours!