terrojasangel23 Posted May 31, 2013 Share Posted May 31, 2013 I'm a guy and I'm 18. I've done some cool stuff that people would say takes guts/intelligence. I'm a musician, and I've made and released four studio albums. I have two radio shows on my local radio station. I frequently play shows in front of up to a few hundred people. I'm #4 in my graduating class. I'm running for mayor in the town I live as well. I've done a host of interesting things in my life, and I'm not afraid to do any of it. However, when it comes to girls, I just lose all confidence. I get anxious around them and fear them. It's not that I haven't had girls before, I've had one serious girlfriend and a few flings, but the anxiety about them still is there. I'm really perplexed, and I know that this type of anxiety will be crippling for me if I don't get rid of it, because I could be the most accomplished person on earth and it won't matter unless I have confidence. I'm really perplexed, do you guys have any insight? Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted May 31, 2013 Share Posted May 31, 2013 I'm a guy and I'm 18. I've done some cool stuff that people would say takes guts/intelligence. I'm a musician, and I've made and released four studio albums. I have two radio shows on my local radio station. I frequently play shows in front of up to a few hundred people. I'm #4 in my graduating class. I'm running for mayor in the town I live as well. I've done a host of interesting things in my life, and I'm not afraid to do any of it. However, when it comes to girls, I just lose all confidence. I get anxious around them and fear them. It's not that I haven't had girls before, I've had one serious girlfriend and a few flings, but the anxiety about them still is there. I'm really perplexed, and I know that this type of anxiety will be crippling for me if I don't get rid of it, because I could be the most accomplished person on earth and it won't matter unless I have confidence. I'm really perplexed, do you guys have any insight? You are 18.....that's a young mayor if you were to achieve that, big responsibility, i think you should give yourself some time.....to actually live....sounds like you have a lot going on.....sounds like,maybe, you are a bit of an over achiever, so , when you find soemthing you struggle with , it becomes central and more important causing that circumstance to intensify...it isnt central to who you are......relax give yourself time......best wishes...deb 1 Link to post Share on other sites
DannyMason Posted June 1, 2013 Share Posted June 1, 2013 Offtopic: OP are you a fan of The Amazing Atheist? Link to post Share on other sites
Author terrojasangel23 Posted June 1, 2013 Author Share Posted June 1, 2013 You are 18.....that's a young mayor if you were to achieve that, big responsibility, i think you should give yourself some time.....to actually live....sounds like you have a lot going on.....sounds like,maybe, you are a bit of an over achiever, so , when you find soemthing you struggle with , it becomes central and more important causing that circumstance to intensify...it isnt central to who you are......relax give yourself time......best wishes...deb That does make a lot of sense, thank you for your insight. I'll take this into account. And to the other poster, yes, I am a fan of the amazing atheist. He's a pretty cool guy, I've talked to him before. Link to post Share on other sites
aliceinthebox Posted June 17, 2013 Share Posted June 17, 2013 Ever considered going to a hypnotist? I'm not talking about the funny stuff you see on TV, but the sessions that are kind of like therapy. Link to post Share on other sites
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