LuckyLady13 Posted June 2, 2013 Share Posted June 2, 2013 To the OP, I know what you're talking about. I never realized how much time I spend in my own town/area until one day I had to travel for work or something and found myself in a store. And I'm standing there in amazement because I was the only woman in the place without tattoos. I never felt like such an outcast or outsider like that before. I also realized the area I live in, I'd say less than 20% of the women have tattoos. I was so used to this I just thought it was average for everywhere around the country. Maybe you're from the town I visited that day. So yes, the area you live in totally makes a difference! If it matters that much to you (sounds like it does), venture away from your area more often. I'm amazed by the amount of judgement in this thread. I have no tattoos and I was the one who felt like a circus side-show in that one town. But I can't judge it either way and I can't believe how many people are getting touchy about the OP just having a preference. He doesn't like tattoos on women. And? I don't see what the problem is. I don't like guys who wake up in the morning in the summer time and put black socks on and a pair of sandals or wear neon colored Speedo's and G-strings at the beach, standing around on the boardwalk casually drinking a lemonade. I also don't like guys who have offensive tattoo's. I prefer, if a guy has tattoo's, they either have meaning or are something you don't mind a kid seeing. These are just preferences. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
NYC-BigKat Posted June 2, 2013 Share Posted June 2, 2013 Ok, please don't give me the "I'm shallow for judging" treatment. I am a man who has no tattoos and like they say water seeks it's own level. Where the HECK do you find women who are not tatted up? For me, and I say FOR ME, tattoos are a huge turn off. I know a majority of the population finds them hot and sexy, but I do not. I really do not like the way tattoos look on women at all. My problem is I don't know where to find women who don't have any! I'm not religious, so church is not really my thing. Are there certain cultures, ethnicities, or activities I'd be more likely to find a woman who has clean skin? I like girls with clean skin too but its so so true its getting harder & harder to find especially in NYC where I'm at 'cause it looks like an eternal fad or something u know. Tattoos dont bother me so much but clean skin on girls do look so much more feminine . Link to post Share on other sites
Feelin Frisky Posted June 2, 2013 Share Posted June 2, 2013 They are big in my area--Virginia Beach/Norfolk--lots of military and trailer parks and tittie bars. I see them as always a subtraction, never an addition to an appearance. I love Star Gazer's comment about them on another thread--words to the effect that you don't put a bumper sticker on a Ferrari. Link to post Share on other sites
Author c57dood Posted June 2, 2013 Author Share Posted June 2, 2013 Is it just an American thing? Does Europe have this tattoo craze? My reasoning is simple: I want to bring home to my parents some day a respectable, clean lady. I'd feel so embarrassed if my mother happened to see some tramp stamp on a girl I was dating. I've rejected women before because they had absolutely hideous tattoos. Tattoos that would make it impossible to ever take them seriously. I couldn't tell them that, but it was the truth. I'm not jealous of people with tattoos, obviously it isn't something difficult to attain otherwise few people would have them. I don't feel like I'm "below" them in any way, but how screwed up is American society when people with clean skin are now considered OUTCASTS?! Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted June 2, 2013 Share Posted June 2, 2013 I'm amazed by the amount of judgement in this thread. I have no tattoos and I was the one who felt like a circus side-show in that one town. But I can't judge it either way and I can't believe how many people are getting touchy about the OP just having a preference. He doesn't like tattoos on women. And? I don't see what the problem is. I don't like guys who wake up in the morning in the summer time and put black socks on and a pair of sandals or wear neon colored Speedo's and G-strings at the beach, standing around on the boardwalk casually drinking a lemonade. I also don't like guys who have offensive tattoo's. I prefer, if a guy has tattoo's, they either have meaning or are something you don't mind a kid seeing. These are just preferences. I have no objection to peoples' preferences; of course, we all have them. I do however, strongly object to being judged to be cheap or trashy, simply because I have tattoos. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Biscous Posted June 2, 2013 Share Posted June 2, 2013 So many posts deleted in this thread. I wonder why... So much defensiveness ITT. I echo that sentiment. I think if I am choosing a partner I want them to echo some reflection of who I am and represent, and my family's opinion matters a lot. I just like a simple elegant style. It may be bland to some but that's fine. I will say I grew up conservative so that's probably my rationale and some of the connotations of tattoos I've had in the past. Not that it's right or wrong just my opinion and I'm free to express those. Link to post Share on other sites
Feelin Frisky Posted June 2, 2013 Share Posted June 2, 2013 Is it just an American thing? Does Europe have this tattoo craze? My reasoning is simple: I want to bring home to my parents some day a respectable, clean lady. I'd feel so embarrassed if my mother happened to see some tramp stamp on a girl I was dating. I've rejected women before because they had absolutely hideous tattoos. Tattoos that would make it impossible to ever take them seriously. I couldn't tell them that, but it was the truth. I'm not jealous of people with tattoos, obviously it isn't something difficult to attain otherwise few people would have them. I don't feel like I'm "below" them in any way, but how screwed up is American society when people with clean skin are now considered OUTCASTS?! I empathize. I wouldn't be too concerned about my mother's opinion but if I were to go to the altar with a woman to get married, I wouldn't want some tattoo snaking up her neck drawing everyone's eyes to these bizarre self-inflicted blemishes. People who get them see them through a prism of romantic body art, but to most people they can't make out in an instant what it is, it just registers very quickly as something unsightly. Some may then look closely and admire the handy-work of the ex-convict (hahaha) who did the inking. But as I said in my first post, it is a subtraction from an appearance, never an addition (except to those in that mind set). There's nothing more beautiful in the universe that I know of than a human female in her unblemished natural state. Leave it alone, you can't possibly make it better than nature already has. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted June 2, 2013 Share Posted June 2, 2013 So many posts deleted in this thread. I wonder why... OMG!! I honestly only just noticed!! Why?? I will say I grew up conservative so that's probably my rationale and some of the connotations of tattoos I've had in the past. Not that it's right or wrong just my opinion and I'm free to express those. Yes, it appears YOU are..... very glad for you. *bows out*. Link to post Share on other sites
Maleficent Posted June 2, 2013 Share Posted June 2, 2013 So many posts deleted in this thread. I wonder why... So much defensiveness ITT. I echo that sentiment. I think if I am choosing a partner I want them to echo some reflection of who I am and represent, and my family's opinion matters a lot. I just like a simple elegant style. It may be bland to some but that's fine. I will say I grew up conservative so that's probably my rationale and some of the connotations of tattoos I've had in the past. Not that it's right or wrong just my opinion and I'm free to express those. Some of us had to fight hard to fight the 'stigma' surrounded by tattoos. I recently lost a friend because no matter how much time I spent with, he was never able to look beyond the tattoos. So yes when someone says a woman with tattoos is cheap and trashy, yes I get defensive. I understand people have preferences but some people have to learn to express their preferences and leave the judgement out. Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted June 2, 2013 Share Posted June 2, 2013 (edited) Is it just an American thing? Does Europe have this tattoo craze? You do know that Europe is a bunch of different countries and cultures, don't you? (but then, so is America, at least regarding cultures... and I'm sure there must be a few Americans who haven't got inked yet.) Edited June 2, 2013 by sillyanswer add clarity Link to post Share on other sites
Maleficent Posted June 2, 2013 Share Posted June 2, 2013 My reasoning is simple: I want to bring home to my parents some day a respectable, clean lady. And that's exactly what I mean. You may not want to bring someone like me home to your parents and that's fine. But implying we are not respectable or clean? come on! Link to post Share on other sites
Biscous Posted June 2, 2013 Share Posted June 2, 2013 Some of us had to fight hard to fight the 'stigma' surrounded by tattoos. I recently lost a friend because no matter how much time I spent with, he was never able to look beyond the tattoos. So yes when someone says a woman with tattoos is cheap and trashy, yes I get defensive. I understand people have preferences but some people have to learn to express their preferences and leave the judgement out. Man...I understand that then. Losing a friendship? That's harsh. I have many friends that have tattoos. Several who do not as well. I reserve my opinions and judgement of that because my friendship and who they are is more valuable than my opinion. When we are talking about attraction and preference though that's another matter. I GET the idea of the stigma surrounding tattoos because in some instances my bias has been confirmed in several occasions, but then again I have coworkers and friends who have them too. Even some of my family members, but unfortunately I battle with that because the ones that do make bad decisions, more blue collar jobs, etc. Just a bit different than how I was brought up, hence some of my confirmed biases. Where I live now and many people having tattoos it does challenge my bias and I do understand that. Then again I have my own preferences and I'm a bit more set in my ways approaching 30 haha. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author c57dood Posted June 2, 2013 Author Share Posted June 2, 2013 And that's exactly what I mean. You may not want to bring someone like me home to your parents and that's fine. But implying we are not respectable or clean? come on! It's more the tattoo craze. The fact that the majority have them, it isn't special or unique anymore. The opposite is true now. I suppose it's just another sign of the times, divorce rampant, the "selfie" culture, money is everything, etc. I get why people who have them get so defensive about it. You're kind of stuck with the decision. Yet in an age where the majority of women either have them or want them because everyone else has them, that's bad. Clothing can come off and change, tattoos can't. It's the permanent fad, an oxymoron in a way. All you need is $$$ and time and there you go. I don't understand why people get them to signify something important to them either. Is it that difficult to remember your sister dying? Or that difficult to remember your lover's name? Or even a significant event or symbol in your life without it being permanently etched on your skin? I just don't get it and I'M considered the weird one?! Link to post Share on other sites
Maleficent Posted June 2, 2013 Share Posted June 2, 2013 It's more the tattoo craze. The fact that the majority have them, it isn't special or unique anymore. The opposite is true now. I suppose it's just another sign of the times, divorce rampant, the "selfie" culture, money is everything, etc. I get why people who have them get so defensive about it. You're kind of stuck with the decision. Yet in an age where the majority of women either have them or want them because everyone else has them, that's bad. Clothing can come off and change, tattoos can't. It's the permanent fad, an oxymoron in a way. All you need is $$$ and time and there you go. I don't understand why people get them to signify something important to them either. Is it that difficult to remember your sister dying? Or that difficult to remember your lover's name? Or even a significant event or symbol in your life without it being permanently etched on your skin? I just don't get it and I'M considered the weird one?! It's not a fad for everyone. There are some people who are getting tattooed because they like tattoos. I find that the people who get tattoos that 'signify' something 'important' are the ones who are getting into the 'fad' but I don't judge them. I actually thank them because they are the reason why it's becoming more and more accepted. 15 - 20 years ago there is no way I would have been able to have the job I have today and I'm glad things are changing. The rest of us, we just think it looks awesome and choose designs based on what we love. We don't think you're weird. If you think we think you're weird - we are not the ones with the issue Link to post Share on other sites
Jon Tenzo Posted June 3, 2013 Share Posted June 3, 2013 I think most Japanese women don't have any tattoos. Tattoos are now basically forbidden in Japan because they have been popularized as a Yakuza thing to do, so nobody will hire you or let you in a public bath if you have one. Link to post Share on other sites
Roadkill007 Posted June 3, 2013 Share Posted June 3, 2013 I think if you look upwards in the socioeconomic strata, there will tend to be less tats on the ladies. That said, I don't quite get the bias against tattoos. I don't have one and probably never will, but I don't think it's right to assume that simply because someone has a tattoo, that they're trashy. Besides, not all tattoos take away from someone's natural beauty . Sometimes it meshes so well it draws you in. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
taiko Posted June 6, 2013 Share Posted June 6, 2013 Is it just an American thing? Does Europe have this tattoo craze? My reasoning is simple: I want to bring home to my parents some day a respectable, clean lady. I'd feel so embarrassed if my mother happened to see some tramp stamp on a girl I was dating. I've rejected women before because they had absolutely hideous tattoos. Tattoos that would make it impossible to ever take them seriously. I couldn't tell them that, but it was the truth. I'm not jealous of people with tattoos, obviously it isn't something difficult to attain otherwise few people would have them. I don't feel like I'm "below" them in any way, but how screwed up is American society when people with clean skin are now considered OUTCASTS?! Men once went the mail order bride route to the Philippines in search of a virgin. Now the tat question is starting to hit the community. At the moment the Philippines looks like America in the 90s. The style setters, actresses and those in demand young women were getting the small easily hidden tats. Meanwhile men who were not soldiers or convicts are getting the large "cultural" or pre Islam and Spain tats. Who knows maybe in 10 years Manila will look like LA with more women getting tats then men. Link to post Share on other sites
yessy21 Posted June 6, 2013 Share Posted June 6, 2013 I like tattoos- i have three small ones myself. all of them mean something. i have 2 moons (im a cancer) and the world Stolen (because youve stolen my heart, actually it is my daughters favorite song) I dont care if it looks trashy.... i see them as a reminder of the things i love most... they make me smile. the only thing i dont like is the TRAMP STAMP. that look fugggly. In my opinion... i dont think you should be judging women by theyre tattoos , but by theyre hearts, theyre compassion and theyre level of attractivness. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Roweena Posted June 6, 2013 Share Posted June 6, 2013 Each to their own but I personally despise tattoos. I see them more and more often, and I wonder what possesses so many women to get them. Don't they think about what they'll look like when they're old? Don't they think about the impression that they will give to others around them? They just look so tacky. I can't understand why a lot of women feel the need to put that graffiti on them. The way you dress creates a strong impression, and things like tattoos does aswell. They don't appear to have any concept of that, or of the future. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
davyvfr Posted June 6, 2013 Share Posted June 6, 2013 I will not date a woman who has a tattoo that cannot be covered. Like a big tattoo on her back, which would show obviously on a back-showing dress. A small one on a wrist or one that can be covered, fine, but not the entire arm tattooed. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MYCluciferase Posted June 6, 2013 Share Posted June 6, 2013 I hate freaking tattoos. Great thread! Link to post Share on other sites
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