Car10e Posted June 1, 2013 Share Posted June 1, 2013 I'm curious to know what are some of the rules to a friends with benefits relationship? Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted June 1, 2013 Share Posted June 1, 2013 The only rules for me that ever worked were having f*ck buddies NOT really be "friends" in the sense that I ever hung out with them outside of being a booty call. I had a handful of guys I met online for sex only. Maybe they were more "NSA" than "FWB" because I would never talk to these guys or do anything social with them, except communicate when/if we were interested in getting laid. But everyone is different and there are way too many threads on this site (easily searchable) by people who have gotten in way over their respective heads by trying to have sex with existing friends and having that friendship be ruined in the process. Link to post Share on other sites
ASG Posted June 1, 2013 Share Posted June 1, 2013 I've been friends with some of my FWB, in that sometimes we would go out socially in a group with other common friends. For me, another thing that keeps me "grounded" when I have a FWB is not being exclusive. What I mean is, I don't necessarily go out hunting for someone else to sleep with, but if the opportunity arises, don't stop yourself, thinking "oh, but I'm with X". Because, no, you're not. It helps me keep things in perspective and not get too attached to the person I'm sleeping with, if it's a regular thing. Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted June 1, 2013 Share Posted June 1, 2013 I'm curious to know what are some of the rules to a friends with benefits relationship? Just from reading about it on here, it seems to me that there are so many variations that the rules are: Make sure you communicate so that you both know what the rules are. and that's it. Communication is key, just like every other kind of relationship, really. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Car10e Posted June 1, 2013 Author Share Posted June 1, 2013 Thanks for your responses! My current situation is that the guy I'm in a FWB relationship reads my text messages constantly. Is that weird? Link to post Share on other sites
ASG Posted June 1, 2013 Share Posted June 1, 2013 Thanks for your responses! My current situation is that the guy I'm in a FWB relationship reads my text messages constantly. Is that weird? Yes. Why would he do that? Why would ANYONE do that? I don't let anyone read my text messages. Not that I have anything to hide, but they're personal and not to be read by a third party. Why are you letting him do this?!? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Car10e Posted June 2, 2013 Author Share Posted June 2, 2013 Yes. Why would he do that? Why would ANYONE do that? I don't let anyone read my text messages. Not that I have anything to hide, but they're personal and not to be read by a third party. Why are you letting him do this?!? I don't let him do it, he finds my phone. I slept over and took a shower and noticed my phone was in a different spot. I don't have anything to hide either, but I find it kind of strange for someone who is just a fwb. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted June 2, 2013 Share Posted June 2, 2013 Considering the invasion of privacy, I'd suggest ending the association. By definition, there is no expectation of monogamy or exclusivity unless otherwise agreed to by the parties and, in any event, such invasions of privacy are generally unhealthy in *any* relationship. As an interim measure, if you choose to not end the association, lock you phone. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Car10e Posted June 2, 2013 Author Share Posted June 2, 2013 Considering the invasion of privacy, I'd suggest ending the association. By definition, there is no expectation of monogamy or exclusivity unless otherwise agreed to by the parties and, in any event, such invasions of privacy are generally unhealthy in *any* relationship. As an interim measure, if you choose to not end the association, lock you phone. I do lock my phone. It doesn't really bother me, but I just feel like that is something a boyfriend would try to do. Could he be jealous? Link to post Share on other sites
Wowifoundausername Posted June 5, 2013 Share Posted June 5, 2013 In my post I'm told I'm wrong for wanting privacy. Here... There is something wrong with third parties reading other messages. Wth??? Lol Carhill... I'm interested in your opinion. As for answering the lady who started this post. How well do you know this guy? He is just snooping. A. Because he can ....and your phone was open to allow him to do so. B. he was using your phone to hook up with his other fwb once you and he are done for the day. C. He was checking for passwords to your online banking account which he will withdraw from at some later date. Ask yourself this. If his phone was open and you hardly know this guy. Would you not snoop if you had lots of time and opportunity knocked? I have big problems with any invasion of privacy. It's disrespectful. No matter what the situation. Ask, if you want to finger throttle my phone. Or prepare to take the wrath! I'd say yes if you ask. But no if your scum and do it behind my back. I'd also be inclined to pay back the jerk with the same respect and make dam sure to snoop in his! Link to post Share on other sites
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