seaelegans Posted October 6, 2004 Share Posted October 6, 2004 This topic has been posted before, except my situation is a bit different. My father has been cheating on my mother as long as I can remember. Each time he is forgiven after much jerry springer violence and threats of divorce. They end up staying together, and beyond reasons of insanity, I can only guess for finances and a false sense of security. My brother is at a moldable 21 years old, and is conflicted about his father's vulgar behavior. He asks if he should give his father an ultimatum after catching him bring home a woman to our house. I suggested I do it, since I am older and more invincible to manipulation. I'm 26, scared to death of loving anyone. I am far beyond negative notions of my parents separating - divorce would be a haven for me. I want to offer my father the choice to do the right thing. His worst fear is death and being left alone during his dying days. How should I approach this situation, keeping in mind this man comes close to not having any morals. Link to post Share on other sites
Papillon Posted October 6, 2004 Share Posted October 6, 2004 It's not your father's mind you should be working with, but your mother's. After all, it's her husband, and she has to live with the humiliation of what your father does. Speak to your mother about all this, not your father. If your mother would be better off without your father, then SHE has to make that move. If your father makes it, it's just another humiliation for her, being dumped on top of everything else. See what I'm saying? Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted October 6, 2004 Share Posted October 6, 2004 Yuck. How horrible. I usually don't advise meddling in the affairs of parents...but, your dad brings these women to his HOUSE? The one he shares with his wife and presumably, your brother? Yeah, he DEFINITELY needs to be called on that. Unfortunately, I doubt if it will do any good. Sounds like your mom is making him feel the heat already, and it doesn't change anything. So, whatever you do, try something NEW...don't just repeat the ideas that have failed repeatedly before Link to post Share on other sites
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