SadAndLonely Posted October 7, 2004 Share Posted October 7, 2004 I'm not going to rehash my last few posts, but my boyfriend of several months broke up with me a month ago. He requested no contact for a week so we could both have time to heal, and I respected that. After that we decided to be friends. During that time we only really saw each other once a week at a function we both enjoy and would never give up. The rest of the time I slowly but surely started to focus on my own life, started taking medication for anxiety and depression problems I've always had, and started seeing a psychologist to help me with my underlying issues, some of which contributed to the breakup. I've been letting him call me, and when he does, I'm very upbeat and myself. I end the conversations first (most of the time) and leave him alone otherwise. Instead of using that time to think about him, I'm really trying to use it to think about myself, how I could improve my own life, how I could be happier, etc. Well, things have really started to get better between us. I hung out with him last night, one on one, and the night basically ended with him telling me how much he misses me, but that he's still confused and doesn't want to hurt me again. We decided that we want to be together, but that instead of rushing back into things, we're going to work on *resolving* our issues. In other words, we aren't back together again even though we could have been last night. We want to work on the individual issues that we each have. Together we were fine. There were no big issues, and we were very compatible. We still are. Granted, we did kiss, and we did both say "I still love you" to the other, but we're going to continue with just seeing each other once or twice a week, focusing on our own lives, and helping each other. But things are definitely looking a LOT better. Link to post Share on other sites
katala Posted October 7, 2004 Share Posted October 7, 2004 i'm really happy for you. It gives me alot of hope with my situation bec ause it sounds exactly the same. i really think its smart of you guys to take it slow and to fix the issues. Best of luck with your realtionship. Link to post Share on other sites
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