undergroundlife13 Posted June 5, 2013 Share Posted June 5, 2013 My ex broke up with me after we had an argument about him not contacting me enough, and ignored all my contact for weeks. He then texted me saying he missed me and was trying to force himself to get over me, and he really didnt deserve me. Then he dissapeared, not a word again. This was a month and a half ago and im so heartbroken. Ive contacted him a lot which im not proud of but hes never said ANYTHING. Hes never told me to leave him alone and he hasnt said a word. its cold. i want him to say anything at all whether it be negetive or not i need my closure. We loved eachother and i was his first love. this all makes no sense and im going to have to confront him in person if he doesnt say anything soon. i am litterally losing my mind! Ive contacted him thru facebook, texts and calls. He doesnt block me on facebook and he doesnt block my numbr. I texted him that i need something or im going to be forced to show up at his house and nothing! I dont understand why he doesnt even tell me to leave him alone, its like i dont even exist.. Link to post Share on other sites
aisuru Posted June 5, 2013 Share Posted June 5, 2013 You sound like you are being psycho. Time for no contact my friend. Don't be that person. Seriously. No really. Seriously. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author undergroundlife13 Posted June 5, 2013 Author Share Posted June 5, 2013 I may be being psycho but this is unfair. I deserve an answer... Link to post Share on other sites
Giha Posted June 5, 2013 Share Posted June 5, 2013 He's made it clear he doesn't want to talk to you at the moment...Whatever his reasons may be, you need to stop trying to contact him. If he wants to hear from you, he knows how to find you. I know it's hard but you need to accept that it is over, at least for now. Begging for him to talk to you won't help. Link to post Share on other sites
aisuru Posted June 5, 2013 Share Posted June 5, 2013 I may be being psycho but this is unfair. I deserve an answer... Yeah... You deserve an answer... Most of us deserve answer... IT DOESN'T HAPPEN. What you want is closure and only you can provide that. Without contacting the ex...!!!! Like none of us have been there. Please. It sucks. Time to get a grip. DO NOT BE THAT PERSON. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author undergroundlife13 Posted June 5, 2013 Author Share Posted June 5, 2013 I cant live like this, if i dont get my closure ill just cry all the time and wonder why. Im sure i already look like a crazy ex so why not just take it one step further? Link to post Share on other sites
Giha Posted June 5, 2013 Share Posted June 5, 2013 Because you only hurt yourself. What answer could possibly satisfy you? Link to post Share on other sites
aisuru Posted June 5, 2013 Share Posted June 5, 2013 I cant live like this, if i dont get my closure ill just cry all the time and wonder why. Im sure i already look like a crazy ex so why not just take it one step further? NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO. NO. Cry all you want!!!! No more contact. Not with this attitude. Nobody wants to be with somebody who reeks desperation. Time to focus on you and forget about your ex. We all know how this feels and it's where we're advising you from. Link to post Share on other sites
Author undergroundlife13 Posted June 5, 2013 Author Share Posted June 5, 2013 He could say anything and it would satisfy me, he could say "leave me alone" ANYTHING. I need acknowlegement, and i cant stop wondering what if. I can stop wondering if hes "fircing himself to get over me" as he put it. It all makes no sense... Link to post Share on other sites
Author undergroundlife13 Posted June 5, 2013 Author Share Posted June 5, 2013 Forcing* im not begging for him back and at this point i could care less what he thinks. I just need an answer for his dissapearance. He chose to be with me and tell me he loved me, he can at least tell me hes moved on.AT LEAST. Link to post Share on other sites
Giha Posted June 5, 2013 Share Posted June 5, 2013 But that is exactly what he is telling you by all this... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author undergroundlife13 Posted June 5, 2013 Author Share Posted June 5, 2013 How am i supposed to know? HES NEVER SAID IT, the last i heard he loved me...i dont get why hes just ignoring me... Link to post Share on other sites
Author undergroundlife13 Posted June 5, 2013 Author Share Posted June 5, 2013 His reasoning last time for ignoring me was he was trying to tell himself he didnt miss me but he did, how do i know thats not what hes doing??? Link to post Share on other sites
Author undergroundlife13 Posted June 5, 2013 Author Share Posted June 5, 2013 What if somethings wrong? Theres endless things...im tired of wondering...i dont think love can dissapear overnight. I know he truly loved me.... Link to post Share on other sites
coltsfan1 Posted June 5, 2013 Share Posted June 5, 2013 How am i supposed to know? HES NEVER SAID IT, the last i heard he loved me...i dont get why hes just ignoring me... Everything that is going on right now is text book breakup aftermath. You are being the typical dumpee and grasping at everything trying to put it all together. He is being the typical dumper, feeling guilty, feeling unsure about the breakup, dropping you little lines to see if you are still there, and tearing you apart. You haven't gotten much but tough love so far, so I'll try and be gentle... You HAVE got to go no contact, the more you speak to him the deeper a hole you will have to climb out of. You are only hurting your own healing !! NC is for you TO cry everyday, to hold up in your room, invite some friends over and watch movies all weekend. Or do whatever you need to so you can get on the path to healing. Your EX CAN NOT given you closure. Hell he might rip your heart out of your chest and you could wind up hurt worse than you already do now. Trust me almost all dumpees go through what you are. I did go NC right away and my emotions went off the charts. I drank heavily, and was completely wreckless in make certain decisions in my life. By not working on moving forward i dealed my own healing!!! Much like you are dealing your own healing now, if I was you I would speak to your ex one last time if you absolutely have too. Tell him you both need space and you will not be contacting him again. He will either come crawling back or you will have taken your first step in healing. Good luck. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Leigh 87 Posted June 5, 2013 Share Posted June 5, 2013 .............................. Okay. If a guy ignores you, it is for a good reason. He obviously wants to move on, or has already moved on. Do you really want to risk finding out that he is seeing a new girl? Do you want to risk finding out that he is banging other chicks? If you get into contact (should I say, FORCE contact) with a guy who is blatantly ignoring you, you have a very high risk of finding out something you do not want to hear. UGH this frustrates me... WHY would you WANT to show up at his house?!??!?!??? It has been months since you were together, why turn up and risk seeing another girl with him? It is like you WANT to cause yourself pain. You're being psycho. I am sure you're better than this. You should never have to incessantly try to contact a man who is ignoring you. Ever. Link to post Share on other sites
Author undergroundlife13 Posted June 5, 2013 Author Share Posted June 5, 2013 I dont know what else to do, if it takes him breaking my heart even more to move on at least ill know..i cant stand not knowing.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author undergroundlife13 Posted June 5, 2013 Author Share Posted June 5, 2013 Its been 2 months, he hasnt talked to me for a month and a half... Link to post Share on other sites
Author undergroundlife13 Posted June 5, 2013 Author Share Posted June 5, 2013 He really cant even tell me to leave him alone? I dont understand that... Link to post Share on other sites
BustedUpInside Posted June 5, 2013 Share Posted June 5, 2013 I dont know what else to do, if it takes him breaking my heart even more to move on at least ill know..i cant stand not knowing.. I don't think anyone can tell you anything right now. You are just going to do what you want. However, if you are looking for someone to agree with you that you should chase him and keep asking him why, then you are going to be disappointed. I haven't been on this site this long, but here's what I have seen so far. The people that go No Contact get noticeably better in much less time than you would think. The people that keep hanging on never seem to make any progress. I have been reading things on here for almost three months and the people that talk to their ex's are still acting like their relationships ended yesterday. You can stalk him and pester him for answers all day long, but you will never get the answer you want and I think, deep down, that you know that whatever he says isn't going to be enough. You won't be satisfied and you won't have closure. You will keep bothering him and driving him further and further away and at the same time torturing yourself and hindering any progress you could have made if you had just accepted the break up from the beginning. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author undergroundlife13 Posted June 5, 2013 Author Share Posted June 5, 2013 How is he a decent person by that? He chose to come back and dissapear...im done contacting and i let him know. I guess ill never understand, and will be hurt for a very long time...I just cant move on... Link to post Share on other sites
BustedUpInside Posted June 5, 2013 Share Posted June 5, 2013 How is he a decent person by that? He chose to come back and dissapear...im done contacting and i let him know. I guess ill never understand, and will be hurt for a very long time...I just cant move on... You contacted him to let him know that you're not contacting him? I used to do that to my parents when I was mad. "I'm ignoring you. Hey, do you see me ignoring you. Do you have anything to say about the fact that I am ignoring you?" I am not trying to make fun of you, I am just saying that it sort of defeats the purpose, right? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author undergroundlife13 Posted June 5, 2013 Author Share Posted June 5, 2013 I doubt he reads my messages anyway....i told him i love him enough to let him go and i promise i wont contact him....i need to stick to it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author undergroundlife13 Posted June 5, 2013 Author Share Posted June 5, 2013 Hes 21 as am i. i was his first relationship.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author undergroundlife13 Posted June 5, 2013 Author Share Posted June 5, 2013 Theres no point, he obviously never loved me. He doesnt care at all.. Link to post Share on other sites
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