pinnicle10 Posted October 7, 2004 Share Posted October 7, 2004 Girls who want there cake and to eat it too Post: 1 | Quote: Hi, my situation is a bit out of the ordinary. All my life I have been attracted to the "easy girl". All my life I have dated the girl with the reputation giving hand jobs or BJ's out behind the high school. In collage I dated the fraternity slut for 3 years. She was not just my slut either. She was my gf and I had real feelings for her as she did for me. She just wanted more then one man for sex. She also wanted me to be 100% faithful to her which I was. In fact I have always been 100% faithful to all the naughty girls I have had as my gf while they continued to service other men. It is a turn on for me. Kind of strange I know but good for you girls out there who want a bf but also want to have your cake and eat it too. You get the best of both worlds with me no doubt. I am not a perverted looking ugly man either. In fact I am quite clean cut and handsome. I want to have an "all American" look on the outside with friends and neighbors but have this double life behind the curtains. Have any of you woman out there been in a situation where your man remained 100% faithful to you but you were not only allowed but encouraged to go out and be wild? Someone who will not only accept your life currently but get turned on by it at the same time making your relationship even stronger, exciting and better from a sexual basis and then someone who will not always treat you like a slut but as a gem and as a valuable addition to his life outside the sexual part. I do not want to be a sugar daddy or a pimp. I am a business owner and very successful too. What I want is the excitement from naughty behavior to add an erotic and kinky element to my relationship. What are your thoughts on this. Link to post Share on other sites
honey2005 Posted October 7, 2004 Share Posted October 7, 2004 Kind of strange I know but good for you girls out there who want a bf but also want to have your cake and eat it too. And extremely dangerous for you. Do you know how many STD's you could get (or could already have) with that lifestyle. Unless, of course you are using protection (I don't mean birth control, I mean condoms) with every single one of these girls you are with. If not, you're setting yourself up for a BIG problem. Oh, and for a last bit of info, condoms aren't 100% effective anyway. Some of them break, have a hole, or just come off inside the female. That would make me think twice about being "your slut". Link to post Share on other sites
Author pinnicle10 Posted October 7, 2004 Author Share Posted October 7, 2004 Actually I have been with less than ten woman in my life. It is the woman I am with who I allow to be with others and yes, of course we would always use protections with no doubt at all. Way too dangerous any other way. Link to post Share on other sites
honey2005 Posted October 7, 2004 Share Posted October 7, 2004 Actually I have been with less than ten woman in my life. It is the woman I am with who I allow to be with others and yes, of course we would always use protections with no doubt at all. Way too dangerous any other way. I understood your post, I was just pointing out the fact that it's very dangerous to be doing it. How do you know she uses protection with all of the guys she's with? How would you feel if she didn't, got AIDS, came back to have sex with you and the condom broke. My point is, being with so many men is giving her more chances to get an STD to pass on to you. good for you girls out there who want a bf but also want to have your cake and eat it too. You get the best of both worlds with me no doubt. Unless of course we're girls with morals, then we'd want to be with only gone guy at a time and then your plan would really suck. Link to post Share on other sites
Leikela Posted October 7, 2004 Share Posted October 7, 2004 There are plenty of girls with a "naughty" persona that can act naughty for you without having to go out and boink other men. I've never been encouraged to do this. If I was, a red flag would go up and I would probably leave the relationship. But that's just me. Some people don't believe in monogamy, like you. However, it's a risky practice these days and how can one feel fulfilled that way? Link to post Share on other sites
Author pinnicle10 Posted October 8, 2004 Author Share Posted October 8, 2004 Yes, I agree that someone with a past can be fun as they talk about how naughty they were to bring some reality into talking dirty while having sex. It can work for sure and I have had long term relationships with girls like that that were no longer interested in having sex with anyone but me and I was okay with that. I have seen several negative but very polite non judge-mental replies to my post. I appreciate the very nice way people here present their side of things still respecting or at least accepting someone else's stranger than normal kinky behavior/desires. I think some people confuse the act of sex with love. Some people have replied indicating how could you see something as being special for you if she is with other people so freely. People (including woman) get attracted and horny from time to time. I have managed to separate the act of sex from the feeling of love. Yes, I agree that it is great to have sex with someone you love but it is also great to simply have sex with someone you are physically attracted to and lust for. Someone else asked how I can be sure the girl is using protection, that it is dangerous and you are increasing your risks. Okay, how can I argue with that? You have to have some degree of trust with the person you are with. Remember, this is not someone I am just having sex with. She is my gf and we have a bond regardless of what someone else may think because they judge the act of allowing her to have sex with other guys as a gauge of how strong our relationship is. The fact is that a lot of things are dangerous in the world. I dated a girl that did cliff climbing. Every time she went climbing she took a risk. In fact she did 80% free style climbing with no rope supports because of the thrill of the climb. Not my cup of tea and despite the numerous times she tried to get me to go I would never do it (fear of heights to some degree). I have separated the act of sex from the emotional part of love and relationships. That does not mean I do not believe that having sex with someone you love is more intense than that of having sex with just someone for the fun of it. I absolutely agree that being with someone you love is the best. Link to post Share on other sites
Leikela Posted October 8, 2004 Share Posted October 8, 2004 I understand what you're saying here. We just have different point of views on the subject, that's all. You can separate love and sex even when involved with someone. That's the difference between me and you. I know what raw raunchy sex just for sex is like. However, when I am in love with someone, I become connected to that person. Their whole soul and body become a part of me and I cherish that. Even if they were to have sex with someone else, I wouldn't like it because I would only want them to share that with me. Even if it was meaningless sex. I cannot separate the two in that instance. I think a lot of people view relationships the same way that I do which is probably why you've met so much resistance. That's ok though because you just believe in something that isn't very popular but that doesn't make you wrong. We all have our own beliefs and if that works for you and your gf, then that's great! Your happiness is all that matters. Link to post Share on other sites
crazycatwoman Posted October 9, 2004 Share Posted October 9, 2004 i have a question and maybe im way off you say youve always dated "slutty" women do you think its possible that although you are turned on by the sexual acts she has done, that your also looking for someone to save ? i say this because alot of "slutty" girls are emotionally damaged, have been sexually abused, or had crap lives. Not all , i whole heartedly know that some women just like ****ed by many many many ,many many men lol but on a whole "sluts" are looking for something in the men they are sleeping with , besides sex......... maybe you feel like your always there for the girl being her bf, and the fact that other men are using her is no big deal because she has you her savior to come home to ? i would also like to point out, you say youve always done this since you were young, well maybe you were insecure when you were young? so it was easy to put up with it .......and its carried on into your adult life? my point is....... maybe your seperation of love and sex is not as healthy as you would like to believe it to be ? Putting yourself at constant risk for aids, putting your life in someone elses hands, when most people find it easy to lie......is to me foolish, and it makes me question if your distachment from sex, is not really a distachment from love and true emotion............ ??? not trying to be horrible, and if im way off its fine, im not trying to be right....im just throwing things out ......... Link to post Share on other sites
pinnicle Posted October 9, 2004 Share Posted October 9, 2004 Let me make one thing clear to you. You say I am getting negative responses, but the truth is I have found it easy in real life to find such girls. In fact, I have often started out dating girls that would act as if they would never ever in a million years do such things. They have told me they were only with 2 or 3 guys, but then when they see how disappointed I am and how it turns me on sexually talking about other experiences, the truth slowly unfolds and their slutty behavior comes out. They act all relieved that they now can be themselves. Very funny because they were ready to enter into a long-term relationship & hide their real selves just to conform to what "society" says is right. In the early days of mankind their was no marriage and woman and man just screwed at will. Man went around spreading his seed and woman kept bending over for him. Look, I agree with you that happiness is really what it is about, but beware of what you were told for the truth can sometimes be very different. I know guys married to girls who told them they were only with one or two guys. However, the reality is that I knew these girls and they were very wild. I have even gone out with girls that truthfully were with only a few guys and have slowly brought their wild side out and they have often given into the idea of me being 100% faithful to them. Link to post Share on other sites
Author pinnicle10 Posted October 9, 2004 Author Share Posted October 9, 2004 I hear where you are coming from but I have to tell you I am one of the most self confident people you will ever meet. In high school I had no hang-ups at all. I was a good athelete and did not use drugs. I had very supportive parents and my older brothers were the very best as well. I never fought with them and when I say never I mean never!!! We were very close as a family. I had no in-securities at all. Now I will admit that I have dated my share of slutty girls where they did have hard lives but believe it or not their are plenty of girls that just like to get ****ed by different guys. You would be amazed at the smiles I get when I tell a girl I will be 100% faithful to her but she can f**k other guys as long as she tells me about it in bed. I have even convinced the sweet innocent ladies to do it. As for danger and risk, it is BS. You take precautions like anything in life with an element of danger and you are protected as much as possible. Also, we are not always talking complete strangers either although sometimes we are. Steve Link to post Share on other sites
magda Posted October 9, 2004 Share Posted October 9, 2004 Find a girl through a swingers club. There's plenty out there. Link to post Share on other sites
Leikela Posted October 11, 2004 Share Posted October 11, 2004 Beware of what I have been told? What exactly are you referring to and why are you all of a sudden giving ME advice? Look, you have your lifestyle and I have mine. If you don't like what I write, then don't respond. I was just trying to help but you obviously don't really want help do you? You're already set in your ways and beliefs. So be it. Leave me out of it. Link to post Share on other sites
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