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[ALoveStudent]

Hello Love Shack! I wanted to share with all of you some information I've come across in my relationship research and psychological studies regarding common trends in modern relationships.

 

A relationships success is more dependent on the attitudes of the individuals that compose a relationship than the "chemistry" of the couple as a whole.

 

This means that the success of your relationship is more in your control than you may think...

 

Here's why: A relationship can go either 1 of two ways. It will either "click", or it won't. This is obvious. But what makes a relationship "CLICK?". Well, it can click it one of two ways. 1. By chance. 2 By YOU'RE Individual qualities.

I am here to talk to you all about what YOU can do to maintain or establish a successful relationship.

 

If you incorporate the following traits into your personal life, you're relationship success can DRASTICALLY improve.

 

1. PATIENCE:

Whether your relationship is new or old, there will be plenty of opportunities for your emotions to be tested. You may feel jealous, rejected, happy, excited, angry, or desperate. Regardless of what you may be feeling, it is IMPORTANT that you react appropriately. This means WAITING for evidence that your emotion is valid. In other words, do not act out your emotions, especially negative ones, towards your partner unless you have enough evidence to prove that he/she did something wrong. Being patient can be extremely tough when emotions are involved, but if you stay strong and WAIT before acting you will be able to avoid getting into uneccessary arguments with your partner, and you will be able to strengthen the TRUST bond with you and your partner. If you practice Patience, with time you will find that your instances of emotional turmoil will decrease and be less severe because you're trust in your partner will become so strong.

 

2. FLEXIBILITY

This means being able to go with the flow of the relationship. Every relationship will have its share of moments where things don't exactly go to plan. This can leave us confused and uncomfortable. But it doesn't have to. In fact, the extent to which you feel uncomfortable and confused when things don't work out the way you had planned is dependent on how flexible you are. When you're not flexible you will tend to look at things as black and white, and this results in you having a higher expectation that things will work out YOUR way. This is not a healthy approach when it comes to relationships because every relationship develops in a different way, and this development process is something that is out of your control. Since we cannot control the path of our relationship, it is IMPORTANT to adapt a sense of flexibility and accept things for the way they are. This means lowering your expectations and not doing anything to disturb the natural flow of things.

 

Remember guys, you CANNOT control your relationship, but you CAN control yourselves. By developing the characteristics of patience and flexibility, you will be able to give your relationship the best chance it has for success.