Debate with my husband

[Els]

 

I lived in Muslim countries, it was quite common when the "chief" asset of a woman reduced all attention was turned towards getting a new "chief asset". Even in the VERY "western" secular turkey infidelity for men was common place. Men have SO convinced women of this being a right that when my ex brother in law cheated on my mother in law's own daughter she told her:"you should have dyed your hair more, henna'd her hands and lost that last ten pounds from pregnancy. My jaw dropped hearing a mother blaming her own daughter for marrying a pig of the parent's choosing

 

Yes, I've noticed this too. It sounds ludicrous to people in Western society, but it's absolutely pretty common.

 

Men aren't exempt from this either. While infidelity is much more common amongst men, in many Asian cities, prior to marriage, a woman is strongly encouraged to find the richest man she possibly can, to ensure a comfortable life for herself. It's perfectly socially acceptable for women to dump their minimum wage boyfriend when a more financially well-off man shows interest. This doesn't happen all the time, obviously, but happens to the extent that apparently it's pretty common for men to not even bother pursuing a woman if they feel they can't 'afford' her.

 

That being said, I don't necessarily think Western society cultivates better relationships, as some posters here have tried claiming. IMO people who assess others' worth by what they can do for them are equally common in all societies, except in America the socially acceptable worth measure seems to be sex and looks for both genders. True love can occur anywhere, but is rare enough that we should genuinely appreciate it when it happens.