underwater2010 Posted June 6, 2013 Share Posted June 6, 2013 Sorry to say but any interaction for me would be a deal breaker. But I am that hard butt BW most people are afraid of. This is getting strange. Every post here, my own included has stated the exact same thing yet have generated responses that seem hostile and contrary - even though saying the same thing. Except about the "hard butt BW most people are afraid of" - other than of course, your WS and OW right? Care to elaborate as I cannot understand your point. Other than other posts seem to think that she deserves the promotion and it is stated "It is hers" and win at any cost. Link to post Share on other sites
fllygirl Posted June 6, 2013 Share Posted June 6, 2013 If he got the job would he have the ability to lay you off or fire you? If so maybe he told his wife that if he got the job he would get rid of you? That's a clear case of a sexual harassment, and he would be first to go and be fired on the spot. If he has any brains left he won't do it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DelusionalOne Posted June 6, 2013 Author Share Posted June 6, 2013 If he got the job would he have the ability to lay you off or fire you? If so maybe he told his wife that if he got the job he would get rid of you? There would have to be a papertrail of some sort, but yes... He would have that ability. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DelusionalOne Posted June 6, 2013 Author Share Posted June 6, 2013 It was strictly an EA. I haven't kissed him, hugged him, held his hand or had sex with him. No physical contact at all. And while he may have deleted everything to CYA with his W... I have save everything in a special locked folder that not only tells the whole story but shows in great detail how he persued me.... On the company dime. Link to post Share on other sites
Praying4Peace Posted June 6, 2013 Share Posted June 6, 2013 Isn't this a case where there was no actual sex involved but more of an emotional affair? I also don't think you just walk in, say someone harassed you and the person then gets fired. I think you have to have some sort of proof. I don't know, maybe she does have reams of proof? I don't know the whole story. Dont need sex to establish sexual harassment or a hostile work environment. Need very little, actually. Back the original topic- D.O. I hope you are doing okay. Considering how great you've been at NC and ignoring breadcrumbs from your 'remorseful, make it right with my W at Dday' xMM, you are a very strong person. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 6, 2013 Share Posted June 6, 2013 Just curious on this, you said you heard he has another OW already..Is this office gossip? If so, then you can be sure that many know that you two had an affair as well. I'm sure the company will be very happy to watch my 10 years of experience and knowledge walk out the door. What are you going to tell them if they ask why you're leaving? Link to post Share on other sites
Author DelusionalOne Posted June 6, 2013 Author Share Posted June 6, 2013 What are you going to tell them if they ask why you're leaving? No advancement opportunities. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DelusionalOne Posted June 6, 2013 Author Share Posted June 6, 2013 If so, then you can be sure that many know that you two had an affair as well. What are they going to say? That we had an inappropriate texting/IM relationship? It's not like I slept with the guy. Trust me, there are much more... Interesting things for the gossip mill to be buzzing about. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DelusionalOne Posted June 7, 2013 Author Share Posted June 7, 2013 $10 says I won't get any more breadcrumbs until the promotion decision is made and never again if I get the promotion. Any takers? 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Praying4Peace Posted June 7, 2013 Share Posted June 7, 2013 Oh I'll take that bet- double or nothing! Link to post Share on other sites
Author DelusionalOne Posted June 7, 2013 Author Share Posted June 7, 2013 Oh I'll take that bet- double or nothing! You're on! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 8, 2013 Share Posted June 8, 2013 What are they going to say? That we had an inappropriate texting/IM relationship? It's not like I slept with the guy. Trust me, there are much more... Interesting things for the gossip mill to be buzzing about. Okay..I do remember now. My mind isn't functioning properly these days! :laugh: 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author DelusionalOne Posted June 10, 2013 Author Share Posted June 10, 2013 (edited) Oh I'll take that bet- double or nothing! You win...he contacted me. Send me your address. Edited June 10, 2013 by DelusionalOne Link to post Share on other sites
underwater2010 Posted June 10, 2013 Share Posted June 10, 2013 So...who got the promotion? Link to post Share on other sites
Author DelusionalOne Posted June 10, 2013 Author Share Posted June 10, 2013 So...who got the promotion? No one yet. Round 1 of interviews were done. My company takes forever to make even the simplest of decisions. I am doing the job in the meanwhile. Link to post Share on other sites
BrokenPrincess Posted June 11, 2013 Share Posted June 11, 2013 Geez really? Maybe he's in cahoots with P4P and theyre splitting the pot??? What did he contact you about? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 11, 2013 Share Posted June 11, 2013 You win...he contacted me. Send me your address. And?? What crumb did he offer this time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DelusionalOne Posted June 11, 2013 Author Share Posted June 11, 2013 Nothing major... He IM'd me wishing me good luck and if I needed any help not to hesitate to ask him. But it was still (unnecessary) contact so P4P wins the bet. I am beginning to think that all of this was a whole lot of nothing. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DelusionalOne Posted June 12, 2013 Author Share Posted June 12, 2013 First round interview at another company tomorrow afternoon! Called me 5 hours after I submitted my resume for the job! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
fllygirl Posted June 12, 2013 Share Posted June 12, 2013 First round interview at another company tomorrow afternoon! Called me 5 hours after I submitted my resume for the job! Good luck tomorrow! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author DelusionalOne Posted June 12, 2013 Author Share Posted June 12, 2013 Round 1 interview highly successful. Round 2 interview already set up for Friday. I may be putting this whole mess behind me very soon. If I can get thru the next few weeks without a breadcrumb from xMM... I may be falling off the face of the planet as far as he is concerned. 7 Link to post Share on other sites
BrokenPrincess Posted July 26, 2013 Share Posted July 26, 2013 Hey DO Not sure if you're coming on here much anymore but would love an update on what happened with the job! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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