Women over age of 40..Do they all talk this way?

[thefooloftheyear]

Question for the ladies..

 

 

While I am currently not in a position to date or enter into a relationship(going through a divorce), I do chat up with some women from time to time...And I noticed something..It seems like all of them get into heavily sexual talk and texting..I dont initiate it, but they all do it..Even something stupid like..

 

Her.."what are you doing this weekend?"

Me.." Im going fishing with a buddy of mine on Sunday?"

Her.."Yeah, I bet you got a nice rod..hehe.."..

 

That type of stuff...lol...And BTW, Ill spare you but it gets WAY more explicit than the example I provided..I mean i'm not a prude by any measure, but why cant it be "just a conversation"? Why does it always go in that direction? The thing that puzzles me is that type of stuff is usually reserved for when you know someone pretty well, no? Again, Im not saying I need therapy to get over it, Im just confused as to why they all seem to do it, even though I dont initiate it?

 

Also, is it something that is just for fun, or is it some type of "invitation" ?? Like would a woman do that to someone they had no interest in "just to get a rise out of them" or is it only something they reserve for someone they are interested in? BTW, this is coming from conservative looking professional women , not skanks..

 

I know its not because of me, while I think I am a good looking man, heck im no Mr Wonderful, so it must be something that just "is what it is" or???

 

Thanks for the insight..

 

TFY

Edited June 6, 2013 by thefooloftheyear

[LittleTiger]

No, we don't all talk that way.

 

I'm 48 and I wouldn't dream of using sexual innuendos with a man I barely know. I do know some women who would though - usually it's just for a bit of fun. By the time you reach your 40s sex is as good a topic to joke about as any other, if you're that way inclined.

 

If you are talking about chatting up these women in a club type environment where they are drinking a fair bit and on the look out for sex - I can imagine you would get the sort of response you're talking about on a fairly regular basis.

[Woggle]

It just sounds corny to me. It's like a line out of a bad comedy.

[thefooloftheyear]

No, we don't all talk that way.

 

I'm 48 and I wouldn't dream of using sexual innuendos with a man I barely know. I do know some women who would though - usually it's just for a bit of fun. By the time you reach your 40s sex is as good a topic to joke about as any other, if you're that way inclined.

 

If you are talking about chatting up these women in a club type environment where they are drinking a fair bit and on the look out for sex - I can imagine you would get the sort of response you're talking about on a fairly regular basis.

 

No..Just some interaction with women I might meet in daily life as anyone else would..I havent been to a club in 25 years. Heck, even some women customers do this..

 

Just last week there was a situation..

 

Woman, around 55 years old..comes in..

 

Her" My air conditioner isnt working so well, you need to check it out"

Me.."What happened, did it work well last season?"

Her.." Yes, Last year it was so cold I froze my nipples off, now its not so cold"

Me.. (chuckle)..."What did you just say?"

 

 

Thanks

 

TFY

[Emilia]

I suppose we get more confident as we get older but I don't talk dirty until I know someone really well. I think men can get their cheap titillation in other ways, I can afford to be more selective about these things

[LittleTiger]

Her" My air conditioner isnt working so well, you need to check it out"

Me.."What happened, did it work well last season?"

Her.." Yes, Last year it was so cold I froze my nipples off, now its not so cold"

Me.. (chuckle)..."What did you just say?"

 

I do know some women like this who will bring sex into every conversation with a man for the hell of it. Maybe it's their way of getting male attention - a bit of shock tactics to make themselves look 'interesting' when they might otherwise feel 'past it'!

 

I don't know - as I said, it's not something I would do.

[2sure]

Its interesting you mention this. Im in the age range as are my friends. Single and married women. Not all of them by any means - but some of them add sexual innuendo into EVERY SINGLE CONVERSATION. With men and with women. I have Two that have actually made other dinner guests uncomfortable - and these people arent prudes.

 

Its OK when its appropriate, but when its constant - it isnt funny, entertaining, or attractive.

[thefooloftheyear]

The ironic thing is you would think that men would engage in that sort of thing, but no one in my circle talks that way that I know of(males)...

 

I know I would NEVER dare to say anything to a woman that I really dont know..Its just not right..

 

 

Actually, here is a perfect example of what I am talkiing about..You know what is amazing about this? If the host was a guy and the contestant was a woman, they would have dragged him out in shackles for doing something THIS overt...

 

TFY

[KathyM]

I think some women do it to attract a man, and they're trying to spark an interest or build some sexual tension. I don't think it's a good plan to do with a stranger or someone you barely know or whom you have only started to date, but some women do use early sex or the hint or promise of sex because they think it will get them the guy and get him to stick around.

[HokeyReligions]

Oh I don't know. I'm over 50 and while I don't always interject sexual jokes smetimes its hard not to pass up a good lead in. I don't at work (had tto bite my tongue a few times!) But when we had our bathroom remodled and the "glass guy" was measuring for the glass he gave us two options for the height and actually tried to lead us to the shorter wall because it was significantly cheaper and I couldn't help myself - I said something like "I know size doesn't REALLY matter but I want those other four inches" he didn't seem to be offended but that may because hubby was there too and hubby burst out laughing and chimed in with some statement about giving the lady what she wants.

 

Like I said I don't say things like that all the time but a good straight line is hard to pass up. Also sex was a lot more serious when younger now its pretty much just funny -especially with younger men. Its fun to embarrass them sometimes. Like when parents embarass their kids. With me its never a 'come on'.

[blueskyday]

Yeah, I hear this all the time, from men and women over 40. (I'm in that age group, too.) I don't like it. It's one thing to joke with friends and people you are dating regularly, but otherwise it's crude, too personal, and confusing. Do they want to have sex with me?.

 

Last year, almost every guy I went out with started with the sexual banter and comments on date one! Yikes! Manners!

 

I love sexual banter and have a dirty mind, but I wouldn't talk that way to my boss. There is a time and place for it. Really, I think women do it to attract men, but it's a bad strategy! Men who talk like that too early are creepy! Here was a convo from a first date;

 

Me: What are some of your nicknames?

 

Him: Nine inch Dick....gonorrhea free Lee

 

(oh brother! See ya!)

[thefooloftheyear]

Yeah, I hear this all the time, from men and women over 40. (I'm in that age group, too.) I don't like it. It's one thing to joke with friends and people you are dating regularly, but otherwise it's crude, too personal, and confusing. Do they want to have sex with me?.

 

Last year, almost every guy I went out with started with the sexual banter and comments on date one! Yikes! Manners!

 

I love sexual banter and have a dirty mind, but I wouldn't talk that way to my boss. There is a time and place for it. Really, I think women do it to attract men, but it's a bad strategy! Men who talk like that too early are creepy! Here was a convo from a first date;

 

Me: What are some of your nicknames?

 

Him: Nine inch Dick....gonorrhea free Lee

 

(oh brother! See ya!)

 

 

Thats lame...Thats just a jackass move.

 

I could NEVER say anything like that to a woman..Matter of fact, even when I am familiar enough where it might be appropriate Id always feel better if she made the first move..

 

Funny thing is it seems like women are more inclined to do it than men..At least in my own experience...Maybe because it seems more "playful and flirty" when a woman does it and it seems more"creepy and pervy" when a guy does it.

 

Its like the video I poted earlier in the thread....She's flirting HEAVILY and everyone is laughing..You reverse the roles and everyone is in shock and no one is laughing..

 

TFY

[2sure]

In referring to one of the same women I spoke about earlier, who is constantly jokingly adding sexual innuendo ....

 

My daughter confided in me this weekend that the same woman is doing the same to our girl's boyfriends. Who are 17 and 18 years old and trying their best to be respectful at all times. It's an awkward situation.

[Woggle]

I could just picture somebody snapping their finger and saying oh she didn't while they all use outdated hip hop slang from 10 years ago.

[spiderowl]

Sounds like suggestive flirting to me. I get this from guys online all the time and feel exactly the same way as you. I don't understand why they do it so soon and why can't they have a normal conversation and get to know a person?

 

If I tell them surely such conversations are for when you know someone very well (meaning, are dating them), they assume I mean we need to exchange a few more sentences and they we will know each other well. Doh !!!

 

If you're not interested in them, move on. Eventually, you will find other women to chat to who don't behave like that.