Stiletto Posted October 8, 2004 Share Posted October 8, 2004 Ok, if I am coming to this site here, it is because, my knowledge and ability to comprehend this situation has stopped here. My boyfriend broke up with me after 2 great years together last February. In May he left to work a promotional tour throughout the country and this until April 2005. I know he was seeing this girl before he left ,but it ended. Sometime, in August he started calling me once, twice and then every other day. His questions and topics of conversation were all relating to how he missed the good moments we had (travels), saying he would like to go back to these places with the person he went with. He would call me telling me that he just smelled my perfume on a lady somewhere and reminded him of me and that it made him miss me more. His questions were always, if I am seeing someone right now, how many people did I sleep with with since we broke it off? He would ask me very particular questions about my life like he used to? He would call me and keep me posted about his traveling from one city to another. He'd call to check up on me. All this is happening while he is on the road, working out of town. We were "sharing" again. What you have to know is that while he is saying all these things I never replied anything, I was listenning. And suddenly, I'd just hear from him every 4 days or so, so I asked him online, why I wasn't hearing from him as much, he said he just did not have much to talk about. After that I missed a few of his calls for about 10 days. And the other day he was online so I made a strong allusion to something we use to do in private and admitted I missed it and had been thinking about you. No answer. So I called him like an hour later asking why he didnot reply while he was online. I asked him if I scared him off or something? He said he was just busy then. Have not heard from him since then (4 days). I don't understand what is going through his mind. He was telling me he was missing me , he took the initiative to make contact again well after I sent him a nice letter, he kept reminiscing about good times we had and that he missed, and suddenly calls are like once or twice a week, he is not making any allusions to anything anymore. What do you understand here? Thank you for your help. Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted October 8, 2004 Share Posted October 8, 2004 You mentioned that when he was telling you how much he missed you ect that while you listened to what he had to say.. you didn't add anything to the conversation or really imply that you were feeling the same way. So eventually (in my mind) a person would probably draw the conclusion that the other person didn't feel that way about them and was letting thier silence speak volumes... He said HE didn't have much to talk about anymore.. and maybe that was because you didn't have much to talk with him about when he was calling.. Just a thought Link to post Share on other sites
Author Stiletto Posted October 8, 2004 Author Share Posted October 8, 2004 Hey Merin 2 I tried sending you a private message but it did not work. What I wanted to say was that at no moment I was rude during our phone conversations. Just that when he was mentionning all these things that he missed, etc... I was silent. The rest of time the I was actively in the conversations. Plus, like I said, I had sent him a letter in July, so he does know how I feel, I think... Stiletto Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted October 8, 2004 Share Posted October 8, 2004 Originally posted by Stiletto Hey Merin 2 I tried sending you a private message but it did not work. What I wanted to say was that at no moment I was rude during our phone conversations. Just that when he was mentionning all these things that he missed, etc... I was silent. The rest of time the I was actively in the conversations. Plus, like I said, I had sent him a letter in July, so he does know how I feel, I think... Stiletto No, I didn't say you were rude when having a conversation with him via the phone or even in your letter... I'm saying that your silence must have been very loud to him... imagine how ackward you may feel when you've told a person "I miss you..." then you pause.. *wait wait wait* *crickets chirp* *NOTHING* see what I'm saying? Maybe it was what you DIDN'T say that's made him step back... You've said he knows how you feel... followed up with *I think...* so maybe you have some doubt in your own mind if he really does know. Good Luck Link to post Share on other sites
Author Stiletto Posted October 8, 2004 Author Share Posted October 8, 2004 Wanna see the letter I have sent him? Stiletto Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted October 8, 2004 Share Posted October 8, 2004 Originally posted by Stiletto Wanna see the letter I have sent him? Stiletto You know him better than I do (LOL since I don't know him at all) I don't know what's goin through his mind.. I just know if it were me on the phone with my bf (whom btw I have a LDR with) and I was saying I missed him.. and he didn't tell me the same.. I would feel bad. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Stiletto Posted October 8, 2004 Author Share Posted October 8, 2004 Ok, but remember he broke up with me in February. Since then we are not together. That's the thing.... So? How old are you by the way? Stiletto Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted October 8, 2004 Share Posted October 8, 2004 Originally posted by Stiletto Ok, but remember he broke up with me in February. Since then we are not together. That's the thing.... So? How old are you by the way? Stiletto Yes, I know he broke up with you.. I don't know why I was just trying to get into his mind as to why he would suddenly pull back now that he had been calling again.. who knows... I'm 27 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Stiletto Posted October 8, 2004 Author Share Posted October 8, 2004 Can we exchange email addresses it is easier to talk, if you want... I tried to send you a private message it did not work, try sending me one. I would like to talk. Thank you Stiletto Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted October 8, 2004 Share Posted October 8, 2004 It appears you've disabled your PM options.. Of course you're more than welcome to send me a message if you'd like and I will try to help if I can:) Link to post Share on other sites
Author Stiletto Posted October 8, 2004 Author Share Posted October 8, 2004 ok, how are we going to do this it says you have disabled your thing to receive private messages,..... Stiletto Link to post Share on other sites
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