Found bf's "single" profile online

[suzuki]

hi there

 

it sounds to me that you want to know either way, but at the same time are frightened of finding out just what your partner is really up to.

 

take it from me you owe it to yourself to find out exactly what you are dealing with and from personal experience i to had a boyfriend doing the same thing and i did catch him out.

 

i like the idea about posing as a potential dat.e to see what he would do, i went on a dating site and posed as another girl and lone behold my own bf tried chatting me up thinking i was someone else. busted big time,

he could not get out of that one but i hope it works out for you and keep me posted.

 

suz

[dyermaker]

Why not take the entrapment a step further?

 

Say you're interested in casual sex, chat him up via e-mail, set up a meeting place, and meet him there.

[dizi]

Dyermaker, not a bad idea! But really, she shouldn't give this nard the time of day if he responds to her. It might be fun, but he'd have the opportunity to "explain" himself. She'd see him and end up crying...She doesn't need that crap. He doesn't deserve to breathe the same air if this is going on!!

[dyermaker]

If it's just a text correspondence, he could talk his way out of it by saying:

1. He could tell it was her.

2. He didn't think text was cheating.

3. He's just looking for someone to talk to.

4. He gave the profile to his friend.

 

etc

 

If the casual sex sting operation is set up, it gives him no chance to explain himself. She can just show up with his key, and return it to him.

[dizi]

K...I see your point! And a very good one it is! It sounds like he's the type of guy who WOULD make all those excuses. Let us know what you decide! Good luck...

[rogueless]

I had the EXACT same thing happen to me. I asked my bf about it in a very gentle and as nonaccusatory manner as possible. He exploded and denied it. Of course I knew better. In hindsight, I wish I had just dumped him without the benefit of an explanation.

[pryncessleah]

girl_in_nyc, you havent updated but maybe you'll read this before you take action.

 

I found 3 sites with my boyfriend on them. I brought it to his attention and he said he would take himself off. Weeks later, I happened to walk in on him checking his email to find he still receives the "who's in yor area?" emails, which he said again he would unsubscribe from. Yet again, another few weeks later he is deleting emails when I walk in, 3 of which were from dating websites. He made up excuse after another... They could be people I know and its funny, I don't read the (which he did), I don't log into the site, etc... All I heard was blah blah LIAR blah LIAR LIAR....

 

I finally told him that if he isn't ready for a relationship then he shouldn't have one. If he wanted to keep US together then THEY, the dating websites, needed to be NON existant in his life. No profiles, no who's new emails, NADA.... He is not so computer smart like I am so when he gets one, I get called into the room to get him off that particular website. One wouldn't totally remove the profile no matter what, so the contact email is now an address I had like 8 years ago... and the profile, whew... NO ONE would ever date this charactor. Not to mention, his picture is gone too.

 

This is my first real relationship in almost 2 years. My first real line to him too was Please DO NOT break my heart. I let him know single was better then being hurt. If it hurts you, he needs to stop. If he doesn't stop, then he doesn't really care. I learned that in the last 2 weeks and things are getting better for us. Good luck, honey.

 

p.s. to the person who said this site is great for relationship advice, etc... You are so so right! More people should know about it......